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My good friend has left because of heart ache

  • 18-11-2007 07:35PM
    #1
    supertramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 241 ✭✭


    I have been e-mailing my Sovenian penpal for the last few months. We have got really really close friends, and we e-mailed almost every day. We would send numerous e-mails for hours on end.
    Today I got a goodbye note. She says she is falling for me, and she knows she can never have me. Yesterday she asked if we would be more than friends. Being unconfident I assumed she brought it up to make sure i knew it wouldn't go further (just the way she phrases things). So I gave a conservative response. I thought she would stop mailing if I told her how I felt.
    So I wrote a long meaningful e-mail today explaining why I was so negative and that it could be possible for us to be together some day. But I just think she may have blocked my address in order to help her get over it, and my explanation hasn't been heard. As she always replies within minutes.

    Assuming that she has blocked my mail address, I was thinking of sending a message via a disposable mail address, but would that be too stalking?
    I am an ethical person, if she has blocked my address should I respect that and not try to send anything?
    I could write a letter....


Comments

  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    If you have her address send her flowers.


  • #3
    ixus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,435 ✭✭✭ixus


    Watch Eurotrip and do what he does...

    "Scottie doesn't know!"

    ....Other than that, wait a bit.


  • #4
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    I have multiple experiences of being on both sides of this story. I think that what you should do right now is not contact her at all. I assure you, she will get back to you when she has managed her feelings better. It is very difficult to fall in love with someone so far away. She'll be back; just give her time.

    Kevin.


  • #5
    supertramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 241 ✭✭supertramp


    Kevster wrote: »
    I have multiple experiences of being on both sides of this story. I think that what you should do right now is not contact her at all. I assure you, she will get back to you when she has managed her feelings better. It is very difficult to fall in love with someone so far away. She'll be back; just give her time.

    Kevin.

    I did contact her.
    I had a few messages today. The first said that she thought I shouldn't have said those things, that I had made things harder, and that she didn't want me to send anything again.

    The next three messages were her apologising, and asing me to continue as we were and to forget about her previous posts. :)

    So, even though I didn't go by what Kevin said to do, it would be the textbook advice to follow.

    Thanks all.


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