your thought's please.

Spoony2

Hi folks

I have a lady friend who i really care about she's not my gf but i would like her to be one day. right now its just not practicle in the future if circumstance's change hopefully something will come of it...

But any way, I want to buy her some flower's not for anything other then i just want to, I no for a fact she's never receaved flowers of a bloke. So i kinda wanna be the first plus i like to think it would make her smile like a cheshire cat.

the only thing is, Im worried of the message's it may send. Now i know all you ladys love getting flowers etc, But ive had bad experence's with women from the past which was good as it taught me a few things or am i just over analiseing the situation ?

any idea's would be cool .

I guess what im trying to say is I wanna make her smile . She's had a tough time in life i just wanna let her no that I apeachate her for everything she is....

Seth Brundle

You want to "appreciate her for everything she is" - what is that? For being a friend?
Giving someone (apart from your ma) flowers for whatever reason is something you do to be romantic despite your intentions.
If you like her and weren't going out with your current GF, would you ask her out and if not why (given that you would like to)?
I reckon give her the flowers if you think she will have feelings for you but be prepared to be with her now - asking her to wait because its "not practical" (for whatever reason) might put her off altogether. However, might it make the friendship akward if she doesn't want a relationship?

Dancor

Go for it mate, get her a card that says for a dear friend or something so not to give the wrong impression.

Spoony2

kbannon wrote: »

You want to "appreciate her for everything she is" - what is that? For being a friend?
Giving someone (apart from your ma) flowers for whatever reason is something you do to be romantic despite your intentions.
If you like her and weren't going out with your current GF, would you ask her out and if not why (given that you would like to)?
I reckon give her the flowers if you think she will have feelings for you but be prepared to be with her now - asking her to wait because its "not practical" (for whatever reason) might put her off altogether. However, might it make the friendship akward if she doesn't want a relationship?

apoligies where more then just good friends and not ina releationship with each other alltho i know she's seeing some one else. which im not perticularly fussed about i know the score except it that ths is the way it is. But reasons we cant go further are she's flying out to canada on 2nd of december...

Seth Brundle

Fair enough.
Give her the bunch of flowers -if they are her first then get a decent bunch - not from a petrol station!
However, be sure that if it is a friendly gesture then that is clear to her.

Raskolnikov

If you don't know that girl that intimately, then sending flowers could come off as being creepy.

cazzy

id find that creepy tbh.

Spoony2

sorry again

ive known her since march met one night radomly she was going out with an acquantance of mine... any way we got on but i did'nt persue it further for that perticular reason since then weve been in contact for the past 8 months last week she was over for a week first four days nothing happened we really got to know each other, completely opend up to each other, I feel we booth felt attraction to each other and then last 3 we tock it a little further then friends, it was all a little bit random at the same time it felt right and besides from genuinley having feelings for her i like her and i just was thinking of sending the flowers in order to let her no that i do feel soemthing insted of nothing...

Is that so wrong ?

Evil Phil

took it a little further how? physically? Did you tell her how you felt?

Spoony2

Evil Phil wrote: »

took it a little further how? physically? Did you tell her how you felt?

yes physically but not to physically!

No I did'nt tell her how i felt before it happened i went with the intention of haveing fun with her ( the advice that i got of this very forum which worked out a treat bye the bye) while she stayed at my house and we went and did he sports we enjoy and not trying anything. Then we decided to do something random really random and from that it happened which was really cool.

Before she left, I said to her would things ever progress and she agred they could given the chance. (I'm intending on creating this chance!) It was just bad timeing for us booth in terms of doing different things at the same time, I dont have my hope's up and I never intend on telling her how I feel untill the moment is right, which may happen or may not depending on what happen's in the future.

I just thought sending her flowers well to be honest, I wouldnt to make her feel spechil........ As she's allways putting other people first, I thought it might be nice to put her first!

Seth Brundle

Its a lovely gesture but given your first post it may not have been appropriate. However, it sounds like it now might be. How long will she be away for?

Spoony2

kbannon wrote: »

Its a lovely gesture but given your first post it may not have been appropriate. However, it sounds like it now might be. How long will she be away for?

I know I'm not the best for getting my thoughts out at the best of time .

she's away for about 6 months. Ive got a choice to go away to a different part of the world. Tho ive got some dept which that I really need to finish so i can have the next four years to travell.

Seth Brundle

If you are planning on being away for up to four years then don't try and make the gesture look romantic unless you plan on having some kind of long term, long distance relationship - which I don't think will work!

Spoony2

kbannon wrote: »

If you are planning on being away for up to four years then don't try and make the gesture look romantic unless you plan on having some kind of long term, long distance relationship - which I don't think will work!

Oh deary me im not good at this stuff at all thats is my plan which i plan to do when ive taken care of my depts which will take about a year to take care off....

in that time i can get to no her and see where things go I no she plans on travelling so maybe we could go togeather im not really all that worried about that right now tho that's a year away. But i apreachate what your saying your makeing me think logicly i might add.:cool: