Asked him out - mixed response

Lorrs33

Hey, remember me? I was the one procrastinating about asking a guy in college out till someone finally closed my thread on the 11th page. Well I asked him out three weeks ago and he said yes, then he revealed he wouldn't have time because he's in college and works nights, so I said "some other time". Then today, I finally worked up the courage to ask him again and, again, he said yes, but he also added that he probably won't have time due to work and college, even though he told me he has Wednesdays off college. Am I not taking the hint that he doesn't want to do anything with me?

bada_bing

Hmm in my opinion, it does seem that he's not interested at all and it's the second time he's done it to you. he seems like right muppet to say yes to you twice and then comes up with some lame excuse about work and college. I mean if he really wanted to go out then he would have suggested another specific date and time because anyone can find the time to have a date.

sobriquet

Lorrs33 wrote: »

Hey, remember me? I was the one procrastinating about asking a guy in college out till someone finally closed my thread on the 11th page. Well I asked him out three weeks ago and he said yes, then he revealed he wouldn't have time because he's in college and works nights, so I said "some other time". Then today, I finally worked up the courage to ask him again and, again, he said yes, but he also added that he probably won't have time due to work and college, even though he told me he has Wednesdays off college. Am I not taking the hint that he doesn't want to do anything with me?

Good for you! It doesn't matter that he's not that keen, fair fecks to you for doing it.

If he wanted nothing to do with you he would have just said sorry, college and work is too much and not mentioned wednesdays. Did he not suggest something specific for that Wednesday that he's off? Up to you tbh. Let him make the next plans if he's interested, you've done enough, move on.

I'm thrilled for you btw. Very impressed.

MagicMarker

Lorrs33 wrote: »

Hey, remember me? I was the one procrastinating about asking a guy in college out till someone finally closed my thread on the 11th page. Well I asked him out three weeks ago and he said yes, then he revealed he wouldn't have time because he's in college and works nights, so I said "some other time". Then today, I finally worked up the courage to ask him again and, again, he said yes, but he also added that he probably won't have time due to work and college, even though he told me he has Wednesdays off college. Am I not taking the hint that he doesn't want to do anything with me?

I'm sorry but it seems he's not interested. He's a man, if he really wanted to go you then he WOULD make time for you. Either that or he's just being a díck!!

Either way, forget about him.

togster

You've tried you little heart out. Drop it. Hes not interested just doesn't have the bazookas to say know.

Sephiroth_dude

Did you give him your number?or get his?

Lorrs33

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

Did you give him your number?or get his?

Nope, coz once he made the excuse, I figured he didn't want to exchange them.

K_P

Well done on plucking up the courage to ask. It's something I've always been to chicken to do.

It sounds like he's trying to let you down gently. However if he genuinely is busy with work and college, he knows you're interested and the ball's in his court. For now though, I don't think you should ask him again.

biko

Brave! Unfortunately I think, along with the others, he's not interested.

Well, now that you started you see how easy it is to ask someone out.
Start dating, have fun!

cance

Lorrs33 wrote: »

Nope, coz once he made the excuse, I figured he didn't want to exchange them.

well good for you OP, you are a stronger person for doing it, and if he's not interested (which hes not by the sounds of it) dont stress it!

You had the bottle to ask him out, he didnt have the bottle to say no. you are the better person IMO.

Spoony2

hey Op you did soemtrhing very hard you got knocked down but think of it this way theres allways other blokes out there !

well done for having the botel that some people dont have...

Lorrs33

Awh thanks, I need a confidence boost