How often to you see your other half?

LegacyUser

For couple that do not live together , how often do you see your other half?
I end up seeing my gf just once a week, until i started waiting around after college to make it twice a week, so thats 2-3 hours on a weekday and a full day sunday.
I know she goes college full time but the fact shes taken up work aswell kinda bugs me, her parent pay for her college fees and i suppose one does need money but i think she gets pocket money aswell [:S] so any money she gets, she spends it on her self.

anyway i brought it up and she said that she didnt think work was effecting our relationship, so just wondering if this is the routine with the majority?

vorbis

I see my one nearly every day at the moment! She can be a little needy. Sorry I can't be much help to you!

How long are ye going out? Twice a week would be a little on the low side if ye're going out over a year.

Rogueish

It depends on how long you are going out together and how 'serious' your relationship is.

Fair enough you seem to be making the most effort as regards making time to see your girlfriend but have you just come out and said to her that you would like to spend more time together than just making comment on her working hours.

She sounds like a very independant young woman who is maybe trying to make the most of an opportunity to earn a bit of extra cash. Just because she has her college fees paid for her doesn't mean that she is about to ride her parents money train - maybe they loaned her the money for her fees and she is paying them off.

You need to sit down an talk to her and tell her how you truly FEEL rather than talking around the subject. There have been threads in this forum from guys complaining of the exact opposite to you - sponging, needy girlfriends who would never earn a cent themselves so maybe you are seeing the opposite end of the spectrum.

LegacyUser

Well over a year, over a year and a half. The relationship seems to be running on 'txt' messages and 1min phone calls at night.

Melion

We lived together last year but we broke up and she moved out. We got back together last week. Ive seen her maybe 6 or 7 nights in the last 10. But im after getting a second job working 6-11 evenings so i wont be seeing her anywhere near as much until christmas.

dame

I'd be delighted that she has such a strong work ethic if I was you, bodes well for the future!

My other half is temporarily working out of the country (he had to go due to his work but he's earning double for the few months so that's a consolation) so I don't see him as much as I'm used to but Skype is great, way better than the telephone.

he raids with wow and i have a life and family etc so twice usually

it was 3 times when we started going out but it got to the stage where coming over or even me staying over was too much beacuse he lives too far from my job

ck66

im with my other half over 7 years and engaged(we got together at 17) and to be honest we live together but never see each other primarily due to me working night shifts and he likes playing wow also! It can be very difficult never seeing each other but i think once there is a good foundation in the relationship there it can work fine. we know we have the weekends together which makes up for it.

when we got together we spent about 2 days a week togehter and it would go through periods of never seeing each other to living in each others pockets. i was in college for four years also and it was difficult to spend time together due to the work load and full time college.I think its important to spend at least one day per week together where possible doing somehting you both enjoy.in my opinion its about the quality rather then quantity and both people are happy.:p

MagicMarker

My girlfriend is away at the minute but when she lived here we would see each other one or two nights in the week and generally spend the weekend together.

biko

Weekends and a few lunches during the week.

Femelade

i see him about 4 nights a week, and usually sundays we spend together if i'm not working. we are together 15 months, and it has been like that since we were together about 2-3 months. talk every night on the phone too(the nights i dont see him)

Deadevil129

I've been with my boyfriend almost three years, we're both in full time college, we both work weekends but we'd see each other around three times a week if not more. There have been summers where we've both worked full time, me working during the day and him working at night so we'd see each other once a week if we were lucky. That said we'd always try to hold it together with regular calls or emails, whatever's easiest, when we're low on spare time.

*Angel*

5 days or more, we're both in the same college course

LuckyStar

Been with mine 4 months, and apart from when he's been away on holidays and the odd day here and there (like when his car was broke), I've seen him every day since we got together. We're as good as married.....

I can't imagine not seeing him every day, I am so used to it.

The Queen

We're going out three years, and see each other everyday! We dont live together, but we do work together. We're pretty lucky I guess.

*Lees*

I've been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years! We see eachother every night during the week, some weeks we would skip a day or two! Saturdays we do our own thing but if we get time throughout the day we would squeeze in an hour!! Sundays, again we generally do our own thing most of the day unless we have something planned and we spend most Sunday evenings together!!
If your not happy with the amount of time you get to spend with your girlfriend then tell her exactly how your feeling!! I know I do like to spend a lot of time with my boyfriend but I know some of my friends are ok with seeing their other half once a week!! Whatever works for you both but if your not happy then maybe she could meet you somewhere in the middle?

Vain

been with my girlfriend 2 and half years only meet once a week because she not in town where we live during the week because of collage.. but still we have a rock hard relationship

Blondie86Star

When I first started seeing my boyfriend it was 4-5 times a week. That lasted for a couple of months. Now its weekends and maybe a night a week