Its over-BUT HOW TO STAY AWAY

LegacyUser

My bf and i just broke up 5 minutes ago.It came from a long conversation where it was revealed we didnt trust each other.

He didnt trust me as I had a bf when we met and I had a brief affair with him before we got together

I dont trust him because a year into our relationship i found out he had pland to meet his ex in a hotel for sex

We got past that but basically he kept letting me down,Saying he would call over and not showing up,Not contacting me for days and continued to text other girls(Though hed say its his female friends)Anyway when we would fight we would always break up for a few days- one of us would always contact the other and we would get back.

But this time i want to stay away from him and i know that in a week or two he will contact me(normally when hes drunk)

I love him but honestly i lost all trust for him when i found out about his ex and i think i can do it this time.Its easy for me to say that now but what in a few weeks down the line when im vunerable and he contacts me, not just through my mobile(which i cant change as its a company phone) but through other means(meeting him out in a club etc)

Normally im strong enough to just read the message delete and leave it at that-But it only takes a few messages for me to think"ill text him back and tell him leave me alone" and it all stems from there

Latchy

Changing you phone number is one thing but it's going to be hard to avoid him if you live in the same town and go to the same places,so you could start by not going to the bars ,clubs etc were you might bump into him .

LegacyUser

latchyco wrote: »

Changing you phone number is one thing but it's going to be hard to avoid him if you live in the same town and go to the same places,so you could start by not going to the bars ,clubs etc were you might bump into him .

he doesnt live in my towen but is here every day as he works here and hes always down on weekends in the clubs

Agent J

Anytime i have a breakup either me or they breaking it up i self impose at least a week of total communications silence.

No Calls/Texts or running into them. No form of comminication of any kind.

After a week if there is any olutstanding issues to be resolved or stuff to be handed back then meet in a public place for coffee and sort it out.

Then for about another month avoid contact.

After that then its usually ok but keep it somewhat limited for a while.

This has allowed me to remain friends with pretty much all my ex's but you have to hang tough for the 1st week. Its not easy mind you. Best of luck with it.

muboop1

oh its a ballock staying away isnt it? i reacently broke u... well she broke up with me... i wudda done anything to stay together... now iv met up twice... once... well i had to to sort out my head... the last... well i found out she might like some guy..(we were broken up a month at this stage) and this isnt even fact...like she might not...shes confused about it?(thinks it might be her just latching onto the closest guy friend)

she told me this dunno why but dosent matter... all it done was showed me i cudnt be around her for a long while...

you realy need to just completly avoid her... i work on same street as her... making it worse! but i just refuse to walk by her shop, or if i have to i cross the road. if i think she will be out somewhere i go out somewhere else... or just drink in a mates house or something...

and yeh i think about her... yeh i wanna see her... but i know its best not to... so u have to make small sacrafices- go somewhere u dont like as much avoid doing something else... but in end, you will be thankfull u did!

Deadevil129

Get rid of everything that reminds you of your ex. Sounds a little sadistic but it doesn't help to have reminders of them all over your room. Delete all messages and pictures from you phone. I second what a previous poster said, after a week or so, if there's any outstanding issues to be resolved, meet up for a coffee or something. You can use that opertunity to give back anything that's his and visa versa. After that, you have no reason for contacting them anymore, delete their number from your phone.

vandermeyde

Change your routine slightly for a few weeks so you aren't putting yourself in a position where the two of you will "accidentally" meet. Especially if it's when ye both have drink and the defences are down.

Stay away from the usual haunts, clubs etc. and don't reply to texts.

Two or three weeks of that and you should have weaned yourself off him....

magnia

your both whores haha

dudara

magnia banned for one month

dudara