In bed and the tears are just flowing...

shabaz

Im broke up now with my partner 3 months together 5yrs house an all, no kids. since we broke up i deliberitly have'nt been in touch either through txt or email or call only if we needed to speak about the house as i am still in it and got some girls in to rent with me, so the other night for the first time i gave in to my lonelyness and missing him so i just sent a email about the trouble im having with the neighbours an excuse really, kinda hoping i might open something up in him, cos i thought he might be regretting, and all i get back is a bland email, nothing in it, no feelings, ok, so i didnt put anything from my heart in to mine, but its just the hurt that you can spend all that time with someone and then its all over no more feelings clean cut, even the friends dont get in touch, ie the couples that you knew together, i feel ive been droped by everyone and left to get on with it, and i have but i want to say to him....do you not remember...how i was there for you, he had a bad accident, no one else was there, only me, got him back to himself and now after all that im nothing.....it just hurts....even thought maybe i know he was'nt the man for me, only now im thinking there still is issues after the brian injury he had, like the feelings are'nt working right or something. im just upset...forgive me, will be ok come friday night when im looking hot and out on the town i wont even think of him, and if i do i will see, that yes you are'nt the man for me.....

If that makes sense....

eroo

Who broke it off?If you broke it off,you can hardly blame him not coming crawling back.If he broke it off,then talk to him about it and ask him why..

Latchy

Probably the worst time of year to break up with anybody to ....

Kold

Not the most comforting answer but it's always going to take time for two people to purge themself of the other person enough to be able to function as friends. If that's your issue... It's not the most coherent?

m83

Poor thing, been there myself. I hate to say it but time is the only healer. Just try to keep positive and find someone to talk to or just come here to vent. You'll just have to accept that it's over now and battle through the denial and the hurt and the pain. It will get better though, this I am certain of.

bronte

Of course you feel like this! One of the hardest things is the thought that we can so suddenly not be as important to someone anymore....It sucks..and i've had it happen to me and many friends..you're not alone.
Look after yourself and try not to think on it too much.
Hope you feel okay.

l3LoWnA

Hi there OP! Haven't much to say to you only give you lots of ((((hugs)))) and let you know I'm thinking of you! Such a horrible lonely place you're in. As said above, time IS probably the only healer

I broke up with someone I was deeply in love with last year (about 16 months ago now) It was a bitter break-up and only in April this year did I contact him again (there had been ALOT of anger from both sides after we split up) Anyways, I found out his girlfriend had became his fiance and was expecting their baby. Because of all the anger I'd had towards him, I only really started grieving the relationship when I got this news. When he was with me, he hadn't "wanted anymore children" (I suppose we already had a ready-made-family with my little baby girl - he was the perfect "daddy" I'd been looking for her aswell as the perfect boyfriend for me in every way), but one of her conditions (she'd been an ex - long story) of them getting back together was a baby/family! Today, through my work and in an official capacity, I stumbled across details of their newborn and saw in black and white the name, DOB and both parents details. The baby has his surname etc. I realised my loss all over again today and it near broke my heart all over again, felt like I was crushed and broken all in one moment. It's a horrible horrible feeling.

I've only just told you that because I believe the pain I felt today is probably what you're feeling today only your hurt is magnified a hundred times over. I feel for you and I hope you can TRY to look to the future, get over your ex and heal in some way shabaz. Try and arrange a good girlie night out at the weekend or something and keep your mind occupied with plans for the future rather than dwelling on what's lost....

Finally, sometimes a good cry is good for the soul Chin up, tomorrow will be a brighter day!

Reku

eroo wrote: »

Who broke it off?If you broke it off,you can hardly blame him not coming crawling back.If he broke it off,then talk to him about it and ask him why..

I'd also have to ask "who broke it off";
If you did then he probably doesn't want to let on how much you hurt him.
If he did then he may not want to give you any false hopes of getting back together by being too friendly.

I'd also point out that e-mails are a very difficult means of communicating actual feelings and a simple choice in phrasing can result in different interpretations by different people. The only way people have to mitigate this is emoticons and lads don't tend to use these as much as girls do in my experience. As such you may just be misinterpreting things from the fact that it's raw text, or did he used to regularly e-mail you before the split (at least then you might have some idea of his e-mail style and how his mood affects it)?