Should I?

LegacyUser

I recently found out that I have 2 half siblings from an affair my father had a while ago. My Father is since deceased and we all only found out recently. There is a court case going on about the inheritance and I was advised to stay away from them. They don't know me (I'm guessing) and I don't know them. But curiosity got the better of me and I looked the name up on myspace, and I think I found them. I would like to contact them, would this be a bad idea?

kev_s88

i'd almost say wait for a while until everything over the inheritance and your father's death passes over. things could be awkward otherwise


but yeah after a while i too would get in contact with them.if you dont you risk having this eating you up inside.and whats the worst that can happen???
i mean you went for this long without them in your life, whats the hassle if they dont want to know you?? it'll just be like before.

hope this helps

seamus

One of the main rules about court cases is that you never talk to or about the other people while the case is going on. Anything you say or do could be presented in court.

Wait until the inheritance issue is cleared up, then maybe look into it.

star-pants

I agree with Kev there -- I think you should wait until all of this has settled, and everyone has time to adjust to the idea of there being more family etc. And getting over your fathers death.

When things are more calm, then is the time to try and get to know them.

good luck xx

AngryBadger

seamus wrote: »

One of the main rules about court cases is that you never talk to or about the other people while the case is going on. Anything you say or do could be presented in court.

Wait until the inheritance issue is cleared up, then maybe look into it.

+1

LadyJ

Hi OP,

I also have two half siblings, though I am the love child in this case! They're a good bit older than me and I have always known about them, however they only found out about me around 12 years ago. We met up back then, I was 10 and they were both in their mid 20s. For me it was an amazing experience but it was probably a lot harder for them.

I still keep in regular contact with my brother but not so much my sister. I know your situation is far more complicated and so I would advise you to wait until things are cleared up before you try to build a relationship of any kind. However, I just wanted to say that meeting half siblings is a very worthwhile thing to do. It can be awkward as fcuk but if you don't meet them then you'll always wonder.

Also, it's a nice thing to have a connection to a deceased parent. It's good to learn about the parts of their life they you knew so little about.

LegacyUser

Well the death happenend some 6 years ago, we have adjusted a bit since. Nothing has happened with the court case, we don't know if their Mother is intending on keeping it up, as she took too long for her appeal. We haven't heard anything about it in a couple of years. I would feel a bit guilty about going about it behind my Mothers back, as she doesn't want anything to do with them, understandably. But I know my curiosity is natural and I was really tempted to send a private message last night.

biko

Wait until court case is done and dusted. There won't be any suspicions about your contacting them then.