cheeky or desperation?

LegacyUser

Not the most imaginative PI but here goes.

I was out the other night and was introduced to a guy by someone I vaguely know from college. Was chatting to him for a good while but was getting ready to leave so wasn't going on to the next place.

I wouldn't usually be so forward but its possible I could get his number from the person who introduced us. Is this just mildly cheeky or somewhat desperate while we were chatitng for a good bit thats all it was, but he seems lovely and genuine and there is a shortage of these kind of guys around lately (or just the ones I seem to meet)

so people's advice? should i ask the mutual person for his number or just forget about the whole thing?

Thanks for reading.

A. x

Jumpy

Its neither cheeky nor desperate. Its a normal thing to do.

misswex

I agree with Jumpy, its perfectly normal to ask the mutual person for his number. Better than wondering 'what if'.

good luck, hope it works out

LegacyUser

ah the key is mutual person is someone I vaguely know from college so I'm not sure how good friends they are; so he may not have the guys number even (large-ish group out that night) so could smack of desperation going to guy a to get guy b's number when he might not even have it. Also while we chatted a good bit, it was probably only about 10/15 mins he might have forgotten all about me and be slightly alarmed to be hearing from me.

I'm crap at all this approaching the guy scenarios!

The Hill Billy

Go for it. If he is interested he will be dead chuffed that you pursued him. If not, at least you tried.


FWIW - If Mrs Billy hadn't taken the first step all those years ago I wouldn't be married to the wonderful woman that she is & I wouldn't have my two super sons.

AngryBadger

Go for it, who cares if it looks desperate or not.

pookie82

Do it!!! You've got nothing to lose if you don't socialise often with these people and barely know them anyway. Not enough people act on impulse these days and go for what they want, they wait around for an opportunity to present itself when both are out/drunk etc which could take months, or maybe will never happen again - and who knows, he might still be thinking about you too!!

Femelade

I wouldnt do it to be honest. ye were talking for 10 - 15 mins..what if he was just a frendly guy? if he wanted to hear from you i;m sure he would have made it his business to get your number before you left. if it was an hour or over i would say go for it...but thats only my opinion.

muppetkiller

Do it...he might be thinking what a muppet he was for not getting your number...

Sleepy

Do it. What's the worst that can happen?

And to answer that normally rhetorical question: someone you never knew before the other night and may never meet again thinks you're a bit forward but is flattered anyway.

I think I could live with those consequences.

Dragan

Femmy wrote: »

I wouldnt do it to be honest. ye were talking for 10 - 15 mins..what if he was just a frendly guy? if he wanted to hear from you i;m sure he would have made it his business to get your number before you left. if it was an hour or over i would say go for it...but thats only my opinion.

Not really, plenty of nice shy guys out there who would never ask a lass for her number like that.

OP, go for it.

sobriquet

Femmy wrote: »

ye were talking for 10 - 15 mins..what if he was just a frendly guy?

Y'know it happens all the time that guys think the very same about women they get talking to and then kick themselves that they didn't just straight out ask for a number and feck the consequences. They might even end up thinking that hey, if she was interested she would've let me know - and if both parties are thinking that then nothing happens. Give it a go OP.

aoife2k

Are you all serious????? Sneakily getting this guys number from a mutual friend??? DON'T DO IT! I'd be very very very cheesed off (to put it mildly) if someone was giving my phone number out to someone/people i've only chatted to for a few minutes even if i did like them or not.

Why not try get this mutual friend to invite him on a night out that you're all/ a few of you goin out...that way you can chat to him more and ask him for his number YOURSELF if you want to. And you'll get a better idea if he feels a similar way about you.

WindSock

Thats how me and my boyfriend got together. He never called me desparate and was glad I made that move as he was really shy.

biko

Another approach is to give your number to mutual friend to pass on to lovely guy. A paper note with "it'd nice to have a drink and a chat again. Ring me."