why didn't she give me some

LegacyUser

got together with a girl in our group a month ago who i know for a while. we've always had a luagh etc. etc and when we finally started kissing etc things went a little further nothing major as we both didn't want to do too much too sound.

anyways then about 2 weeks later it happened again. we ended up in bed and things got very hot (basically i got her going quite alot) so she urged for more and more playing but she never laid a finger on me or my manhood. now she did want sex but i had no condoms so we just kept going at her.

i like her but beginning to think that the fact that she didn't return the favour means she was quite frustrated and needed anyone/ someone she could trust to get it out of her system


what you guys think?

p.s both nights we were tipsy / drunk etc,.

Victor

She might not know what to do. If she was drunk, she might have been oblivious to your needs.

Oh, I'm not judging, but did you ask?

sonners

sounds to me like she just needed some 'relief' and like you say, u were close and she could trust you. I think if she really fancied you she would'nt be able to keep her hands off you (or your manhood!).

Just my 2c

Binomate

Seems to me like you're being used.

abbie

sounds like she might not have known what to do. lack of confidence probably.

biko

Try again but without too much drink. Just ask her what she likes and also ask her to help you. Maybe she is waiting for your approval/consent?

davyjose

abbie wrote: »

sounds like she might not have known what to do. lack of confidence probably.

I'd agreee with this. It's happened me in the past, with what turned out to be a fairly serious relationship. If it was solely that she just wanted some relief I reckon she'd have thrown you one for the craic anyway.

The Queen

Sh could just be nervous! Is she inexperienced! When I first got with my boyfriend, I needed a little nudge in the right direction, so to speak! Did you try to lead things in em... your favour?!

EamonnKeane

now she did want sex but i had no condoms so we just kept going at her.

the royal we? or is there more to this story?

LegacyUser

Maybe you're better off as friends dude, just a thought, perhaps it shows a relutancey on her part to partake in the activity, as this way she feels it is YOU that is performing sexual activity on HER without her returning the favour.

Corkgirl21

I would say it's a confidence thing definitely! How old is she? I know I'd still feel unsure about what to do in that situation!!

the_syco

Dude, she didn't want a kid. If she played with your dick, and a bit of semen got in her pussy, there's a risk.

Next time, dude, if you want to get the game on, carry a box of condoms, or prepared to get no sex.

This is a lesson. A lesson that hopefully you will learn. Next time, without a condom, you won't get a chance to nail yours truly in.

But wait! There's a happy ending: carry some condoms next time, and you'll have more luck.

If you think that condoms are dear, think about it this way: €4 on a packet of condoms is cheaper than 18 years maintenance.

Zulu

A lot of focus has been put on men and foreplay over the years, which is unfortunate for us.

In my experience this has led to women assuming two things:
1) men don't need it
2) women are exempt from giving it

Personaly I've run into it a lot. More often than not actually. I get the impression you've just run into one of these girls.

MrVestek

The way I look at it is, foreplay is give and take. I tend to get alot out of giving than recieving though so maybe this advice is invalid but I tend to give alot the first few times and if I'm getting nothing in return (I realise that not every girl is comfortable with giving oral to a guy) I tend to give less and less. If the girl happens to ask why I'll tell her out flat. Not the most tactful policy I know and it could very easilly backfire but it gets the message accross. I've no problem with giving (and I do) but foreplay works both ways.

Zulu

Well I'm not talking about oral here, but the point stands...

MagicMarker

I get the impression that you two are young. As in mid/late teens.

Chances are this girl is just inexperienced and just does not know what to do. I say give her a while. She just needs to build confidence.

MugMugs

Grab her hand and put it where you desire it to be..... She will go for it or she will not go for it.... If she doesnt go for it then your being used and thats cool !! If she does go for it, start thinking of christmas pressies !!

Kazobel

"Manhood" hahahahaha why do you need to call it that? you never hear a girl call her vagina her "Womanhood", is that a man thing?

Marksie

Kazobel: Please read the charter as regards off topic posting

LegacyUser

She could just be shy and not know whattp do OP, that's what I was like the first time with my boyfriend "should i touch it?!" "it might bite..." the boyf just guided my hand in the right direction and I took it from there.



Now I can't keep my hands off it >_>

Rosita

It might be shyness, otherwise it seems downright rude not to give a guy some relief.

There might be an argument that she was afraid of things getting out of hand but if she was calculated enough to make a decision not to touch then she should surely have been able to control things generally.

Seems like shyness then. A gentle guiding hand might be a good idea!