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LegacyUser

My girlfriend I live with has gone away with work for 6 weeks shes gone a week tomorro.
This weekend has been so awful,i cant sleep right im not eathing right and i find myself lookin at my watch wishing the hours away so the weekend will go away so it will be closer to when shes back,i miss her so much and i dont no what to do with myself,she means everything too me and i no she will be home soon but ive never missed someone like this before.we have been living together in dublin for nearly 6 months.anyone else ever been in a situation like this??

bronte

I'm sure it's crap, but try not to count down the days.
Are you anxious about anything in particular?
Her being away will help you realise how much you really care about her, and that's only a good thing right?
Go out and have fun with your mates, and before you know it she'll be back!

dudara

It sucks when a partner is away from home, but it will happen occasionally. First thing I would do is to install Skype (or equivalent) on both your laptops (or PCs) so that you can stay in touch easily and cheaply.

When away for work, it's hard to coordinate calls and chats but be accepting when your schedules don't match. Keep yourself occupied, trips to the gym, cinema etc and you'll be surprised how quickly the time will fly by. It also gives you an opportunity to do some activities on your own.

davyjose

I'm in a long-distance relationship dude, and I have to say it sounds like you're belly-aching a little. It's not healthy to invest all your emotional energy into one person, because, as you can see, it just makes you lost when that person goes.
Have a look around, life isn't so bad. Take the time to meet up with your buddies. Get back to an old hobby. Do something man.
I honestly think you have to be happy in your own company, otherwise you're going to lead yourself into problems. What if she wants to go for a weekend away with the girls some time? Will there be a fight because you will be pining away for her.
Trust me man, I know how you feel, because I've been there, and I'm a million times happier now( even though I'm only seeing my girl for a couple of weeks every few months) than I was in the past.

SarahSassy

I agree with you davyjose, this is a mountain out of a molehill. Have you kept your friends and close to your family? Do you spend every waking moment with your gf when she is here??? Of course its a long time but its hardly the end of the world is it????

Go watch all those films you havent been able to see, eat food she doesnt like etc etc. Use the time to enjoy yourself and then you will appreciate her all the more when she comes back.

SS

PS Also a word to the wise, dont whinge to everyone you meet that she is gone away. Most people wont want to know and have more serious issues than this.

AARRRGH

TBH I would have a think about why you are finding it so hard to cope just because your girlfriend is on holidays. Sounds a bit unhealthy to me...

I agree with dudara regarding keeping yourself busy and taking advantage of the time to do things on your own (for example, something you've always wanted to do but haven't had the time.)

LegacyUser

I don't think it's unhealthy, it just sounds like you're head over heals and the intensity hasn't fully levelled out yet after only 6 months. Which is great.

I've been living with my partner for just over a year now and he travels alot for work. At first I felt the same way you did, wishing away the days until he was back, but now it's totally levelled off. I miss him alot when he is away, but totally appreciate the time I've got to catch up with mates and do my own thing. 6 weeks is a long time though.

Seriously, just keep yourself busy and be glad that you've met somebody you care about so much. Alot of people will never meet anybody that they're that close to.

Duff

I know how you feel dude, im with my girlfriend nearly 2 years and last christmass she went to New Zealand for a month to visit her brother. I was fine the first 2 or 3 days but then all of a sudden I began to really miss her, I'd just mope about aimlessly counting down the days, I hated going out without her as I would just get drunk and miss her more. The only thing that helped was being around my other mates. So my advice is pretty much the same as everyones, keep yourslef busy and spend some time with your other friends etc and she'll be home before ya know it!!

Victor

Can one of you visit?

LegacyUser

I don't think it's unhealthy...people who say it is have clearly never been in your situation or circumstances before...

I would have said it's unhealthy before I met my girlfriend...but now i would say it's understandable...i'm closer to my girlfriend than other people would be with their girlfriend I reckon and i don't see what you are going through as unhealthy or silly...it's natural...

The key is to realise what you are feeling and ask yourself am I missing her so much because I have nothing else to be doing or is it just that you have loads of options but you just want to do things with her...if it's the latter, then you have nothing to worry about, you just miss your girlfriend...but just don't let it affect you around your mates, especially if they are single because they just won't understand and will just think you are being a whipped puss$

projectmayhem

it's good and great that you miss her but instead of feeling down about it, use the opportunity to turn you place into a "man den". get the lads round, beers, playstation and music. basically everything you can do to keep your mind off things and to have fun with the time she's away, because when she comes back you sure as hell won't be able to do any of that crap

Real ale madrid

Hey OP im in a very similar situation to yourself - my gf has gone abroad for 10 weeks and is gone 4 weeks since Saturaday. I would listen to a lot of the advice given but the main thing is just to realise that it is completly normal to miss her even be a bit down from time to time - but once you realise that its ok to feel this way it will be a lot easier to deal with. Its certainly not healthy to be not sleeping / eating properly etc. I seem to be a bit luckier in so far as i have plenty to keep me occupied - so get out a do a few bits and pieces that you always wanted to do, and the time will pass quickly.

finkaboutit555

HI,
I know how you feel when you say you miss your Girlfriend.. BUT I'm with me Girlfriend for four and a half years,Living together for two, And to be honest I sometimes enjoy weekends when we are apart,It give ME time to do My own things and see my friends,
Use these six weeks to keep in contact with your friends,and to regain an interest in the things YOU like doing..
Its Not healthy in the way your working yourself up over her being away..

CathyMoran

I missed my then boyfriend terribly when we were apart for 2 weeks on oposite sides of the world (our longest time apart in over 9 years) - can you keep in contact by phone? Skype is a great thing - so what if both your phone bills are through the roof, it is worth it. Also if you cuddle up to something that she wore recently at night or sleep on her side of the bed, it will help - I always sleep on my husbands side of the bed when we are apart. What you are feeling is normal but hopefully you will appreciate one another more when you are back together - those two weeks apart for us were one of the reasons why we got married last year (though I should state there were other reasons). In terms of eating though, just accept that you will loose weight - I used to try and eat as I knew that he would be upset at me not eating but it was not easy - Marks and Spencers was my best friend as their meals are fast and easy to prepare. She will be back before you know it!

davyjose

cheesedude wrote: »

...people who say it is have clearly never been in your situation or circumstances before...

Clearly you didn't read my reply

SarahSassy

cheesedude wrote: »

people who say it is have clearly never been in your situation or circumstances before...

Incorrect!!