working with annoying person

lisajane

Im working with someone that really gets on my nerves.
I have lost a small bit of weight. About 2 stone over 3 months which i think is great cause im over weight. Im not into doing diets or anything like that. Iv cut out junk food, alcohol and im exercising. And im still eating food i like.

Anyway the person that gets on my nerves is asking me every day about diets and what she should be eating. Im not a dietician and i have no idea what i should be eating myself but she keeps asking me just because im losing weight. She keeps asking me how my diet is going. I find it annoying cause she thinks that since im losing weight, i must be on a diet, but im not. I told her a million times that im not on a diet and i eat what i like and when i like but she wont give up. Its when she asks me about my so called diet, she starts asking me about what she should be eating. Asking me if cheese (or whatever) would be ok to eat. I really dont know, im not a dietician. There must be something im doing wrong cause i fainted last week and she still wants my opinion.

She also tells me whenever she has to go to the toilet. She will tell me she has to take a "wee-wee", a "poo-poo" and just last week she told me she was on her period. Is there really a need to tell me this. I dont think so. I work with quite a few lazy people but Im not hardly going to wipe her arse.

This happens every day. Asking me about food and telling me about her toilet trips. There's so much that i can take and she's really getting on my nerves - telling me she was on her period. Ok, i get them too but i dont get the need to broadcast it to everyone. She will even tell me while im on my lunch break which is quite sickening.

I really dont care what goes in or out of this person. How do i tell her to shut up? I just want to get on with my work or my lunch break.

biko

Is it still the same person? Can you bring this up with the manager?

JeanClaude

If I were you, I'd be more worried about the fact that you fainted, go see a doctor.(if you already haven't).

lisajane

Yes the exact same person. What could i say to the manager without sounding as if im whinging?

geminilady

ya could just say to her when u wanna go to toilet what your going to do(number 1/2) so she might get freeked out hearing too much info so she might jus leave ya alone.!!

biko

OP, could it be that you put so much emphasis on what she says because you yourself has food issues?

Ask the manager to move seats/dept/rooms so you can get away from her. Has anyone else voiced opinions about this woman?

lisajane

biko wrote: »

OP, could it be that you put so much emphasis on what she says because you yourself has food issues?

Ask the manager to move seats/dept/rooms so you can get away from her. Has anyone else voiced opinions about this woman?

I dont have food issues. I honestly have no idea about food and she's asking me for my opinion just because im losing weight. And yes there are a few more people that finds the same things annoying, and they to are trying to lose weight and making a good job of it too. I reckon she's jealous and just trying to turn us off losing weight.

Dizzyblonde

Every time she tells you she's going to the loo etc, say 'That's your own business' until she's sooooooo sick of hearing it she shuts up. Simple.
Of course you'll drive yourself mad too but she'll cave eventually.

biko

You could try the brusque approach, "Listen honey I don't give a toss about your food or toilet habits. Let's just not talk about things any more", maybe?

ian_m

lisajane wrote: »

Yes the exact same person. What could i say to the manager without sounding as if im whinging?

The manager will be able to assess the situation much better than anyone on the boards because he or she will know you and your colleague personally. If you are doing your job correctly and only 'whinging' about one issue then they should understand you.

It sounds to me like she really doesn't mean to annoy you.

Bring it to your manager and see what advice they give to you.

Wokie

Tell her you're not insured to give advice re diet!! And as regards regaling you with her toilet habits....just come up with something really gross or pretend to! 'Oh oh....need to go for big dump...damn that chili chicken last night!!':D

Miss Fluff

Just read your other thread about this numpty as well.

You're being too soft on her, just tell her to f8ck off and ignore her from now on.

ian_m

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Just read your other thread about this numpty as well.

You're being too soft on her, just tell her to f8ck off and ignore her from now on.

and then her colleague will go to the manager to complain and she will be in a worse position. Your somebody who just doesn't think straight.

SarahSassy

ian_m wrote: »

Your somebody who just doesn't think straight.

And YOU'RE (not your) coming across with that comment as patronising....

OP, you really need to nip this in the bud. Can you take a different lunch time to her?

Sit her down and talk to her. Explain its annoying you and that you cant advise her. Its most likely she is making chit chat.

ian_m

Telling anyone to f*k off is a mistake. That cannot be argued. It's instant dismissal and bad advice.

AngryBadger

There's no need to be cruel, just tell her you don't want to know when she's going to the toilet.

For whatever reason the woman obviously craves a bit of friendship, why she's particularly stuck on you I don't know, but if you make it clear that you don't want to know when she goes to the toilet she'll probably sotp.

muppetkiller

Here's a novel approach...sit her down and say "I'm sorry X but I don't know anything about food or your diets so please stop asking me !! "

You seem to be feeding (maybe wrong choice of words lol ) this girl with some info as she keeps coming back to you..

oh and well done on your weight loss but 2 stone in 3 months is severe...go to a doctor and maybe get a blood test. I'd say your diet is lacking if your fainting.

BaZmO*

lisajane wrote: »

I dont have food issues.

of course you don't

lisajane wrote: »

There must be something im doing wrong cause i fainted last week and she still wants my opinion.

Anyway, that's besides the point.

With regards to her annoying you by telling you about her bowels movements, a simple "Too much information" or "And I need to know this why?" comment would do the trick.

And if she's telling you about her period when you're having your lunch why can't you just tell her that it's not exactly a good time to be talking about things like that. It's not as if you have to be rude to her.

Timothy Bryce

To be honest I'd try growing some sort of spine and tell her that you don't like that kind of talk in work - if you tell her straight she'll stop.

Also - I thought women didn't sh*t?

Dudess

Is this the "bitch" that bought you a birthday cake?!

But yeah, she sounds like an absolute weirdo. Be firmer with her.

lisajane

Dudess wrote: »

Is this the "bitch" that bought you a birthday cake?!

But yeah, she sounds like an absolute weirdo. Be firmer with her.

Yes, same person that bought me the birthday cake.
I realise she was probably trying to being nice. But could she not have thought for more than 2 seconds. She's trying to lose weight, i shouldn't buy cake, a box of roses or something would be better. And just have 1 or 2 sweets instead. Its a whole lot better than giving a cake.

And anyone that thought i was over reacting about the cake. I thought i wasn't. She bought someone else a cake and she too is trying to lose weight. What does she do but give her the biggest slice of cake (same thing which happened to me) and she gave herself the smallest little slice. I reckon she uses any excuse to stuff her face.

Davei141

She gave the birthday girl the biggest slice...getoutatown! jesus mary & joseph, she may be annoying but your something else all together.

Chinafoot

Oh. My. God.

Ok I'm sorry but you're not going to get on with everyone you work with. That's something you're going to have to learn to deal with in the work place.

From what you've said this girl sounds like she's trying to be nice to you. Where's the harm? If it bothers you that much just tell her out straight that you can't help her and would appreciate if she would stop asking you. To be honest though, she sees you are losing weight successfully and she's asked you advice as she wants to lose some too...what is the problem?

Sounds to me like she's trying to find something you have in common to talk about. You sound quite paranoid, like you think she's out to sabotage your weight loss. I really can't see that there's any malice in what she's doing.

The cake thing is completely ridiculous. It's the done thing in work places for heavens sake. If you don't want to eat it don't! Nobody is going to force it down your neck. It was a nice gesture.

lisajane wrote:

I reckon she uses any excuse to stuff her face.

How is that relevant? Focus on your own weight loss goals and don't worry about her.

Oryx

lisajane wrote:

I reckon she uses any excuse to stuff her face.

Now youre the one who sounds like a bitch. From what youve said, she sounds needy but not horrible. I really dont think she bought a cake as an insult to you or the other person, it sounds like a nice thing to do. Youre the one analysing the portion sizes, which would make it sound like youre the one with the problem. And if you dont want to eat it, you just dont eat it. Better than stressing afterwards and giving out about the girl for doing something kind. As has been suggested, just tell her you dont need to know when she mentions going to the loo etc. Unless shes thick as a plank she should stop.

lisajane

Chinafoot wrote: »

Oh. My. God.

Ok I'm sorry but you're not going to get on with everyone you work with. That's something you're going to have to learn to deal with in the work place.

From what you've said this girl sounds like she's trying to be nice to you. Where's the harm? If it bothers you that much just tell her out straight that you can't help her and would appreciate if she would stop asking you. To be honest though, she sees you are losing weight successfully and she's asked you advice as she wants to lose some too...what is the problem?

Sounds to me like she's trying to find something you have in common to talk about. You sound quite paranoid, like you think she's out to sabotage your weight loss. I really can't see that there's any malice in what she's doing.

The cake thing is completely ridiculous. It's the done thing in work places for heavens sake. If you don't want to eat it don't! Nobody is going to force it down your neck. It was a nice gesture.



How is that relevant? Focus on your own weight loss goals and don't worry about her.

What is the problem?

I dont know anything about food. What's healthy and whats not. Its why i dont do diets. I stick to what i always eat but given up the junk food. Anything else and i honestly have no idea. And i told her that i dont know whenever she does ask. But she wont stop asking.

Chinafoot

lisajane wrote: »

What is the problem?

I dont know anything about food. What's healthy and whats not. Its why i dont do diets. I stick to what i always eat but given up the junk food. Anything else and i honestly have no idea. And i told her that i dont know whenever she does ask. But she wont stop asking.

Well then tell her outright to stop asking. Tell her that you don't want to keep talking about your weightloss.

Or maybe you culd try talking to her about other things. If she asks you again, change the subject and have a conversation with this woman.

You just don't like her, that's obvious from your posts particularly the completely irrational reaction to the cake buying. But the fact of the matter is you have to work with this person so I'd suggest you learn to deal with it.

For all your moaning about her, you're the one coming off in a very bad light to be honest.

daiixi

"I'm sorry but my anorexia has nothing to do with you."

and then complain to HR when she starts spreading rumours that you're anorexic.

Or:

"We work together, our relationship is professional and I'd rather keep it on that basis. Thanks" and then walk away.

Or:

Whenever she comes up to you say "I have to go over there now" point in a general direction and go stand on your own for 10 seconds before walking away.

The first and last are my personal favourites.

Keith186

Just act like Father Jack and she'll get the message!

(See other thread) ; )