What To Do At 52

ogill2000

Have arrived here at this point in my life (52) a father, a son,and husband still.never thought I'd make it this far.stayed on the fast lane for a good while.God it was great ,the drugs the women,the booze,plucked by an angle who helped me keep my angles right.and so....here we are.the two of us after 21 years three great kids.(I see them now in fleeting moments) (I am becoming invisable to them ) herself outside watching the telly .me in here talking to ye.and the question is what do i do now?

Tom Dunne

ogill2000 wrote: »

and the question is what do i do now?

Take up golf, learn to spell and ask the girls over on PI.

Edit: moved from BG+RH. Too deep for us.

Rabies

If you can afford it, cut your hours of work back. Take up some evening activities and go on more holidays and weekend breaks with your wife.

cazzy

Travel. Get a bike and ride across USA or Europe, time and money permitting.

The ultimate mid life crisis cure

radioactiveman

Travel. Get a bike and ride across USA or Europe, time and money permitting.

Run across usa or europe... forest gump style

Paddy20

Good thread,

I am looking at 62, but your health must come first, your financial situation second, give us an indication of your situation ?..

Life is not over at 52, in fact you hopefully could fulfil a a lifelong dream Let us have the facts ?..

P. :cool:

ogill2000

God is my spelling that bad? is there a spelling check on this thing? sorry tom please forgive me,Jesus Ifeel really awful now for upsetting (is that spelt right?) you.and ther should be a capital T on tom, a feck. i'm goin to bed now before I make a complete arse of myself.

the_syco

Aye. Take up golf. It's one of those sports which you can be useless at, but still play. It'll get you away from the missus (or get her to play as well), and it's fun. Pick up a cheap 2nd hand set for about €100, and you're set to go. I play it with my mates (I'm 26, btw), and both parents play it. They often go away with their golf club on golf holidays, so it's something to think about.

Oh, and the other reason for a second hand set: when you miss a shot, you won't the club as much as a dearer one when you fling it over the hedge (nearly did that once or twice when I started playing), due to the ball going too far left or right...:D:mad::(:eek

Apart from that, there's always activities in the local area's for people, such as hill walking, etc. Something to do, and it'll keep you healthy.

Also, ignore the spelling Nazi's. those little f**kers would moan if the computer didn't dot an eye for me

Dudess

I, the grammar nazi, say your spelling's fine overall. Just work on the punctuation (again, I've seen worse).
52 - yeah, you could have another 30 years or more, yet it's a point where you probably feel like you've done everything (Christ, I'm 30 next year and I'm getting messages that I'm past it :rolleyes: - but only from idiots).
Anyway, get close to those kids of yours if you feel they're drifting. But don't worry. They're teenagers/early 20s - who wants to have anything to do with their dad at that age?! They'll come back to you. Try and be part of their lives as best you can though, but don't force it. They'll just find that cringey. Get talking to herself too, maybe do something for her to show how much she is appreciated.
Activities like cycling and hill-walking are great - look into them. What about night classes? Take up reading too. Good books are wonderful things to have.
A change of job - is that feasible?

Tom Dunne

ogill2000 wrote: »

God is my spelling that bad? is there a spelling check on this thing? sorry tom please forgive me,Jesus Ifeel really awful now for upsetting (is that spelt right?) you.and ther should be a capital T on tom, a feck. i'm goin to bed now before I make a complete arse of myself.

Yawn.

See, I've spared you the ridicule that would have ensued on BG+RH. At least you are getting some civilised answers over here. If you are getting upset over a passing comment about spelling, you wouldn't have lasted 2 minutes on BG+RH.

You're welcome.

ciano6

Spend more time with you aging parent. Get into DIY? And what about cats and dogs? If you like dogs and get to like cats more, they will be great company. And go back to visit San Francisco or wherever you liked most... 52 year olds generally like Ry Cooder too. Get into him...

Dudess

I don't know. Today's 52-year-olds are very likely to be into The Clash (22 in '77).

Carrigart Exile

ogill2000 wrote: »

Have arrived here at this point in my life (52) a father, a son,and husband still.never thought I'd make it this far.stayed on the fast lane for a good while.God it was great ,the drugs the women,the booze,plucked by an angle who helped me keep my angles right.and so....here we are.the two of us after 21 years three great kids.(I see them now in fleeting moments) (I am becoming invisable to them ) herself outside watching the telly .me in here talking to ye.and the question is what do i do now?

52 is still young, could you look at heading for warmer and sunnier climes?

Beruthiel

ogill2000 wrote: »

and the question is what do i do now?

What would you like to do now? What have you always wanted to do but never got around to?
Whatever it is, go do it now while you still have your health and the legs to carry you!

Marksie

I have a friend who at 53 is planning to upsticks and cross the atlantic to follow their dream.
So nothing is impossible.

Think about what you both want to do together and enjoy it.

The kids are now independent, you are a couple again.

kenco

My Father (RIP) retired at 52 and did some part time work. I think he faced the same quandry as you but unfortunately he had heart problems within a couple of years and then early dementia. I guess he thought he had years and years ahead but .......

Do everything you ever planned to do and sooner rather than later.
Help some charitable organisations, this will give you satisfaction you never thought work could give you
Enjoy life, youve worked hard enough to get to where you are

Nevyn

Go me your mrs a cup of tea nd bring a pad and a pen with you and the apir of you make a list things you want to do and try and make them happen.

Canis Lupus

Throw a dart on a map of the world and go visit it.

Take up a ludicrous hobby like ballet.

Plan and execute a bank robbery.

Look up college courses for things that may interest you (A couple of parents of my mates are doing this, one liked reading so took up an English course for example)

Join a gym and get fit.

(Not making fun of the above posters unfortunate situation with her father) But pretend to have a mental illness and have some fun messing with your childrens heads.

There's loads of things to do I'm sure at 52. The world is your oyster and so on and so forth.

Nevyn

Canis Lupus this forum and site can not advocate illegal acts such as bank robbery.

Drummerboy2

I'm just a few years younger than you. Due to a health scare I've started walking and got myself an ipod. I find it really inspiring. An added bonus to this is, I've discovered the Kings of Leon. If you are interested in sports, drop down to your local football club and ask if you can help out. There is a huge shortage of volunteers, what with the Celtic tiger and I'm sure you'd be gladly welcomed.

siochain

Hi,

Sit back and with gratitude in your heart take account of where you’re at and what you have achieved in life
1. Age 52
2. A Father
3. A son (does this mean your parents are alive or you have a son)
4. A Husband after 21 years.
5. I assume your healthy

These are all really serious achievements which for some people can never have. There are thousands in the country right now that won’t reach 52, can’t have children, divorced, widowed or have critical illness.

You and your wife have probably focused most of the last 21 years on the kids, work and paying the bills. Now it’s you and your wife’s time, focus on both your needs and dreams……

Count you blessings, have a fresh start and now really start living your lives…

Have fun…..

Canis Lupus

Thaedydal wrote: »

Canis Lupus this forum and site can not advocate illegal acts such as bank robbery.

Not even if it was a wickle bank and no one was hurt or like the movie Inside Man?

I'll stop going OT now and let this thread resume normal service.