Seriously.....

LegacyUser

seriously I have a fetish for fingering girls in the......well, I wont be so coarse, I mean not the
regular spot, a bit under. Is this so strange? Am I the only one? I get the feeling I should stifle this fetish, as I feel it is dirty and unusual. I would like to know the feelings of other men to this, and also the feelings of women. has this ever been done to them and are they receptive to it/disgusted by it.

Help is appreciated

pepper

serious wrote: »

seriously I have a fetish for fingering girls in the......well, I wont be so coarse, I mean not the
regular spot, a bit under. Is this so strange? Am I the only one? I get the feeling I should stifle this fetish, as I feel it is dirty and unusual. I would like to know the feelings of other men to this, and also the feelings of women. has this ever been done to them and are they receptive to it/disgusted by it.

Help is appreciated

Im assuming u mean the ass

well im a girl and i like it- and i didnt reliase till i was 20 that i liked it- so maybe its something you have to get the gal to reliase she likes (Thats what my bf did)

Doctor DooM

Everyone is different. Esome love it1, everyone has their onw little thing. Everyone has their own little fetish
This goes for girls too. Some love it, some d1on't. No one can say 'all girls love this'. I've known some who certainly liked it

LegacyUser

pepper wrote: »

Im assuming u mean the ass

well im a girl and i like it- and i didnt reliase till i was 20 that i liked it- so maybe its something you have to get the gal to reliase she likes (Thats what my bf did)

I see, glad to know some like it. However, Im anxious that if i was to say it to my girlffriend or try it on her she would think I'm weird.

Should i just try it someday in the heat of the moment or say it to her beforehand?

LegacyUser

serious wrote: »

I see, glad to know some like it. However, Im anxious that if i was to say it to my girlffriend or try it on her she would think I'm weird.

Should i just try it someday in the heat of the moment or say it to her beforehand?

^^

Bottle_of_Smoke

serious wrote: »

Should i just try it someday in the heat of the moment or say it to her beforehand?

She might think it's a build up to sticking something else in there & more than likely isn't too enthusiastic about the whole idea.

Maybe start by just rubbing a finger along her anus, then push it in a little, then a little more. Test the resistance slowly. That way she can push your hand away without it being as awkward as "No I'd really rather you didn't put your finger in my rectum"

Very important you wash your hands before touching her vagina afterwards or putting on a condom.

Marksie

I certainly wouldnt advocate going straight for penetration, just gentle rubbing around the outside, with a lubed finger, guage by her reaction how to proceed then. Some do have a taboo about it.
and dont rush it at all.
I, personally, have found that a significant proportion of women may be initially adverse to a finger, but not to a tongue when its gently led up to.

Talliesin

serious wrote: »

seriously I have a fetish for fingering girls in the......well, I wont be so coarse, I mean not the
regular spot, a bit under.

Without being coarse (though if it helps you I'll put the words ****, ****, pussy and arsehole into this thread so that you won't be lowering the tone) could you be precise?

"Regular spot" would normally mean on or near the clitoris, so by "bit under" do you mean vagina, anus, perineum or somewhere else?

serious wrote: »

Is this so strange?

Unless you're talking about somewhere other than one of the three places I mentioned above you're still talking about things people do in quote-unquote "normal" sex.

serious wrote: »

Am I the only one?

You live in a world where people who like dressing up as disney-world style animals and having sex can find like-minded people to do so with. Do you really think this you are the only one?

serious wrote: »

I get the feeling I should stifle this fetish, as I feel it is dirty and unusual.

You have a fetish for something that people do as part of vanilla sex. You get to have plain, normal, vanilla sex and be indulging in your fetish. Count yourself lucky. Why on earth would you stifle that?

serious wrote: »

I would like to know the feelings of other men to this, and also the feelings of women. has this ever been done to them and are they receptive to it/disgusted by it.

Done it plenty, tends to go down well if you do it well. Two out of three of the above (e.g. the two out three I'm physically equipped for) have been done to me. Yummy. Find there are better results, licking though (for all three/two accordingly).

serious wrote: »

I see, glad to know some like it. However, Im anxious that if i was to say it to my girlffriend or try it on her

Start with light gentle play around the area and build up stimulation.

serious wrote: »

she would think I'm weird

I'd think someone was weird if it was a no-no for them. Weird is relative.

Reku

Everyone has different fetishes and this is pretty vanilla compared to many of them so I wouldn't worry about it.

Other than that the only thing I don't think the others have covered is to be careful afterwards not to try put the same finger in the other hole as this can introduce bacteria and so result in an infection.

Oryx

Of course its not weird. As has been said, its becoming quite vanilla. Of course the woman your with could have an issue with it, but that can be overcome as long as you take it gently. Whatever you do, dont spring it as a surprise. Thats a quick way to spoil an evening. By all means explore gently unless told not to, but sudden moves can hurt, and are a no-no.

As with all things sexual, anything goes as long as the person your with wants to as well. The only thing you never do is force someone to do what you like. (With the exception of submissives but thats a whole other story).

boardinwork

Here lads, is there not a good chance that a girls a*s would be dirty? At the end of the day they were only designed for one way traffic. I have never touched that part of a girl intentionally because id be scared what would come out! :-/

Nevyn

That maybe your feeling on the matter but that is not everyones boardinwork.
Many adults don't have issues with including anal sex and play in thier sex lives.

chamlis

The importance of gently teasing and building upto it, if penetration is the goal, cannot be understated. That and lots and lots of lube. Even if it's just, ahem, "circling the rim" so to speak....

AngryBadger

Different strokes for different folks man, just make sure she's into it, and unfortunatewly some people are a bit limited so they may freak out when you suggest thigns slightly outside the norm. Be emboldened though!

Kazobel

An idea might be to buy a bunny rabbit vibrator bunny rabbit vibrator (I posted the link as opposed to imbedding the image because I'm not sure of the policy about posting images of vibrators but if it's against the rules I apologise and feel free to edit it mods). They are designed for this exact act and may be a better way to introduce the idea, also as everyone has said use lots of lube.

LegacyUser

Personally I love it, so you'll always find girls who do. As previously said, some girls don't know they do.

Easiest way to test it out is if you're giving a girl a lickout then place a finger against her anus, if she moves towards it, go a head, if she moves away, it's a no go. If she does nothing, then push in a little more till you get a reaction that says yes or no. Just make sure you're finger's lubricated.

l3LoWnA

Yes - some girls love it!!!! It's not weird at all, although I'm sure some girls would shy away from it! As above posters said, be gentle, edge towards it, make sure the whole area is quite moist also. If she backs away, take the hint though! As Marksie pointed out, the tongue is a great weapon to get you started down there too!

Some blokes quite enjoy a light fingering around there too would you believe?! :eek::eek::eek:

Marksie

l3LoWnA wrote: »

Some blokes quite enjoy a light fingering around there too would you believe?! Especially during a speciality Blowna BJ! :eek::eek::eek:

Well i dont know about the last part.

But OP, if you have a fetish about doing it to a girl, do you have a fetish about it being done to you?
In which case a finger or two is very exciting, and if your partner can locate the prostate and massage it then it can get very exciting indeed. If you have trained your PC muscles well, you can pulse around the prostate at the same time.

If in doubt you can try it on yourself first it will have two benefits:
1) you can locate the prostate and also locate your PC.
2) you will find out what it feels like
3) you will also find out how to penetrate without cauising pain etc.

pretty-in-pink

I know more people who would be into that, then not. Its become fairly mainstream. Test the waters with circling etc as has been mentioned. If she likes it, or thinks she might, then she will let you know. If she doesn't, she'll let you know that too. Wash your hands afterwards, and remeber to much, too big, or too fast will hurt, possibly tear, the area, and that not going to help things. Once you are both happy, then it doesn't really matter what you do. Consenting adults and all that.

Talliesin

boardinwork wrote: »

I have never touched that part of a girl intentionally because id be scared what would come out! :-/

If your experience of is such that this seems plausible to you, please go to a doctor immediately. At best he should be able to save you potential embarassment, at worse your anal incontinence could be a symptom of something quite serious.

Kazobel wrote: »

An idea might be to buy a bunny rabbit vibrator bunny rabbit vibrator (I posted the link as opposed to imbedding the image because I'm not sure of the policy about posting images of vibrators but if it's against the rules I apologise and feel free to edit it mods). They are designed for this exact act and may be a better way to introduce the idea, also as everyone has said use lots of lube.

If you're going along the lines of using a rabbit with anal play then you'd want a three-way like this so you can use the bunny bit against the clitoris as usual as well as stimulating the anus (note the assymetry because one of the bunny bits is actually intended for anal play). Most of the bunnies aren't suitable for anal use and warn against it on the box (but there's a lot of variety in the bunnies so maybe some don't).

Toys tend to be less easily accepted than fingers though - to the point where if the OP's thing was using toys I'd recommend using fingers first. And the OPs thing is to be using his finger. So this seems like a bit of a lose-lose approach.

boardinwork

No thats not it. If i pulled out my finger and it smelt afterwards i would find that such a turn off. Sorry but thats how i feel!

Oryx

boardinwork wrote: »

No thats not it. If i pulled out my finger and it smelt afterwards i would find that such a turn off. Sorry but thats how i feel!

No need to apologise to anyone here. One mans meat is another mans poison, and all that. But that does clarify what you meant!

*sometimes tho, the reaction you get from doing something, can hugely outweigh any downside it might have. Just dont close your mind to possibilities

boardinwork

Thanks KTK, trust me i'm actually very openminded about most things, just the smelly side of things wouldnt be my cup of tea. Wish it was. My mates swear by it

Reku

Well as for odour concerns you could always wear latex gloves, some of the bigger pharmacies sell them, afterwards just treat it like you would a used condom and dispose of it accordingly.


One other point no-one has brought up: ensure that your nails are short, clean and well filed (so no jagged bits), the inside of the anus is extremely sensitive (same reason why this can be a pleasurable act) so any scratches there will HURT alot.

it really depend whether you try to do it to every girl you have a romantic encounter with or whether you have a girlfriend who you do it with
Unless you know the person and have even broached the subject,

Don't even think about doing it as a surprise

GaryL

l3LoWnA wrote: »

Some blokes quite enjoy a light fingering around there too would you believe?! :eek::eek::eek:

I was with a prostitute while on holidays on prague and for some reason she liked to feel of my arsehole. tbh I think it's a major turn off but considering she's a prostitute who's job is to pleasure me I presume quite a few men must like that.

McGinty

Hi Op

I would strongly advise that you tell your girlfriend that you enjoy touching/exploring the anal area, what you could suggest is bathing each other first (it takes care of the hygiene aspect for a start and is deeply intimate and relaxing) then you could ask if you can explore her anus, always, always give the woman the choice, it is what we want most, if a man just touched my anus without telling me it would freak me, and I have experienced this and it was very shocking to the point that I would not allow anyone near my bottom for years, in recent times I have allowed gentle touching and yes I like it and some day I'll go further maybe, but I really really urge you to tell your girlfriend, as I said if you suggest the whole bath and touching element it will appeal to her romantic side and at the same time she may be open to the idea of what you want. Also I don't see touching the anus as a fetish or weird, it is highly sensitive sexually, I can understand the hygiene issues may be off putting but I have since found it is not a major issue if one maintains a scrupulous hygiene and latex gloves if neccesary.