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  • 26-10-2007 11:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi,
    id like to get people's opinion on something..
    bsically im 22 y old single guy,im not bad looking and i do work out so overall id say the body is well shaped
    however..im still a vergin. i think this is mainly because of my introverse personality which never lead me to meet a great amount of people, girls in particular( only people i ever met here are the ones from college which i do get along with but i wouldnt hang around with )
    i see this as a serious problem to be honest and its really annoying me, so i ve bein considernig the option of contacting an escort.. i know it wouldnt solve my problem but it would allow my mind to get off this topic for a while..the thing i asked a mate what he thinks about it and he says that because it would be my first time , it wouldnt be worth it..
    that got me thinking and I kinda backed off the idea thinking that its something to do with someone u care about, altought on the other side i really dont see how this can realistically happen any time soon..
    the question is, if you were in these conditions, what would you do? i do find it frustrating hearing stories of other lads goin on about how they scored a,b,c,d etc

    any opinions are welcome


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  • #2
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,315 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Many people are still virgins at 22 - please don't rate yourself against the exaggerated stories of others.

    I know it sounds weird, but things are much more likely to happen when you lose the air of desperation that considering it a 'serious problem' gives you. It's not a serious problem - it's not a problem at all really - it is you that is making it a big deal.

    i do find it frustrating hearing stories of other lads goin on about how they scored a,b,c,d etc

    You think they are telling the truth? You think someone who is actually out getting girls left right and centre has such a poor self-image that they then need to boast to their mates about it? It's much more likely their multiple encounters are all in their head.

    Find a girl that makes you laugh, that you find fun to be around. Make her laugh, listen to what she says, ask her questions about herself, listen to her replies, keep eye contact. Forget about trying to get her into bed. It will happen, buff body or not, probably when you least expect it.

    Confidence and a lack of desperation are extremely attractive.


  • #3
    -avey-
    Closed Accounts Posts: 45 ✭-avey-


    I personally hate guys who boast about their conquests, whether they're true or not! dont worry OP it wil happen in its own good time, its probably the peer pressure thats gettin to u.


  • #4
    gcgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    hi ! don't worry about it ! don't listen to other people going on about their sex life they are prob lying if their boasting bout it ! i did not properly lose it till i was 23 and my first time was brill it's the person your with that makes the experience (he stil rocks me even though we've spilt but enough about that !)

    and do you remember that part in American pie when the shermator was suppose to have got it on with some girl and he did not!!


  • #5
    empirix
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,723 ✭✭✭empirix


    get the escort - i promise she'll fall in love with you and not charge for it or maybe just go to a disco and chat to an insecure girl - how do you find an insecure girl? - easy 99% of the female population are and the other 1 % are in denial, mention the prospect of a secure life and she will do anything for you, enjoy;)


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks for the support all, i know startin this thread wasnt gonna make me feel any better but its good at least to have some people simpathy
    as the fact that they are problably lying.. well i hate to say that they are not cos sometimes it happened right in front of me, and once it even happened that out of a group of people i was out with , they all managed to get someone ..except obviously me ..peer pressure alright!
    funnily enough i saw some other threads around here about ppl thinkin about goin with prostitutes,that other guy sayin he got hiv after goin with a prostitute and some other guy who envys his mates which splash the cash for renting apartments which guarantees them loads of sex...
    well i guess we all have our own destiny and maybe this is my destiny!bein totally crap at it
    i really have dropped the escort idea as i know it wouldnt solve my problem and would prob make things worse

    i think that i really should just reconsider my view of life which probably has always been wrong


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