MAJOR screw up! And it's killing me!

Changing dreams

So here goes, this could be alot of reading!

I was with this girl for about 2 and a half years and all was great but all of a sudden I got dumped because I was only seen as a friend!

I sucked it up and moved on, after 2 or 3 weeks I started seing a girl from school, but during those three weeks my ex came back onto the scene, but only over the phone like! And wa telling me how much she loves me and misses me and only wants me etc.

So, I finish with this girl I was seeing ecause I do wanna get back woth m ex, even after she made a fool of me! So, we met up because she wanted to, and it resulted in Her kissing ME,one thing lead to another and we were talking about getting back together.. And get this, she said SHE has t think about it?!

I mean like come on! Talk about totally screwing me around! So I told her i'd wait still she made her mind up about me! It should be up to me to decide it, seeing as how she is how she is, and I was the one dumped!

This is absolutely putting me thru hell!

What's peoples opinios on this!?

4zn76tysfajdxp

Forget about her.

Changing dreams

Changing dreams wrote: »

So here goes, this could be alot of reading!

I was with this girl for about 2 and a half years and all was great but all of a sudden I got dumped because I was only seen as a friend!

I sucked it up and moved on, after 2 or 3 weeks I started seing a girl from school, but during those three weeks my ex came back onto the scene, but only over the phone like! And wa telling me how much she loves me and misses me and only wants me etc.

So, I finish with this girl I was seeing ecause I do wanna get back woth m ex, even after she made a fool of me! So, we met up because she wanted to, and it resulted in Her kissing ME,one thing lead to another and we were talking about getting back together.. And get this, she said SHE has t think about it?!

I mean like come on! Talk about totally screwing me around! So I told her i'd wait still she made her mind up about me! It should be up to me to decide it, seeing as how she is how she is, and I was the one dumped!

This is absolutely putting me thru hell!

What's peoples opinios on this!?

Tell her to feck off, delete her number from your phone, and get on with your life.
No, seriously.

Cathmandooo

That's shocking behaviour! Dump her immediately, or she'll walk all over you.

Changing dreams

I wish it was that simple!

When she called it off, I was fine! I never tried to cantact her or anything!

It's just since I seen her and had a good day that I wanna get back with her!

Damn this love thing haha

Thanks for reading guys!

Teddi

agreeing with the two previous posters mates, she's not good for you...

really...she has the odasity to put the ball back her court after she did that to you?

No no...your in the position to give her an ultimatum at this stage mate, its not like she doesnt know you, after 2 years she knows what type of a boyfriend you are...she still obviously likes you bud..

If you want her back, use those very words, but be up front and say that she's not on...having to think about it..after she was the one who dumped you..

good luck man

Cathmandooo

argh stupid love

She sounds like a handful though, but you know best. If she's really that bad then give her the boot, you'll find someone else who deserves you! If you think its a once off give her a chance, I'm really giving her the benefit of the doubt here!

Changing dreams

Changing dreams wrote: »

I wish it was that simple!

When she called it off, I was fine! I never tried to cantact her or anything!

It's just since I seen her and had a good day that I wanna get back with her!

Damn this love thing haha

Thanks for reading guys!

There may or may not be love on your side, but on her side there's wanting attention and someone to have in case she's single and bored on a saturday evening.
The best thing for you to do is forget about her. Sure you had one good day, but they'll be few and far between.

Did she know you were starting to see someone else? If she knew then maybe it was the fact that you were "less available" than you used to be.

For example, a few weeks ago I got close to a girl at a party, nothing happened though. Still, I was feeling bitter over a girl who gave me the cold shoulder recently and told her (obviously lying) that I slept with someone at the party, I think I just wanted to make her feel jealous. The next day she phones me and says she misses me. It's always the same, they don't want you when you're single but as soon as you're not they're all over you.

Sephiroth_dude

should have stayed with the new one,forget the old one.ah well you ****ed up im afraid,shes gonna string along now and then wham!!!!!!!!she'll dump you for some other dude!

DvB

TBH i'd walk away, as you said yourself, you took it on board, accepted it & made a concious decision to move on with your life, for her to suggest she may have made a mistake & indicate she may want you back to then step back & declare she's not sure is quite simply messing with your head & not really showing you the respect you deserve IMO.

Agree with the general feelings of the posters above, as hard as that may seem, move on, long term its most likely for the best!

TheDriver

ditto, get away from her

She did this to find out if she can still have you. She was jealous of u moving on to a new girl at her expense and she wanted to boost her own self esteem and self worth and feel important and wanted. Dont ever fall for that crap. Tell her where to go. Dont answer her calls, write back to her texts or acknowledge her existence until ur sure u wont cave into her crap again. in fact if I were u Id delete her number.

This behaviour says a lot about her as a person and her maturity levels that she's willing to behave like this to someone she viewed as a friend.



Good luck.

blah

It's simple:

She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you.

Cut her out of your life now.

auggie2k

Here's a tip... forget her, go out and have random sex (safe of course)... guarenteed to feel better

Whyner

So what about the girl you were seeing? Just dumped her like that eh? you obviously didn't like her that much, maybe you and your x would make a good couple...sh sh shame on you........

Get some fresh meat for the run in to xmas, it's all the rage.

coolhandc

this girl is manipulative and has control over you.
put the foot down.tell her your not sure YOU want to get back with HER,and show her that shes not the boss of you.maybe dont answer her calls or texts back until a day or two later,make her think that shes not the be all and end all.