Parent's givin me S***

X-Ecuti0ner

Well its mostly my dad. He's just after saying that there is no computer from monday to friday. He expects me to study in TY! FFS I've never studied that much in my whole life. And today I couldn't come in cos i was sick. And I was on the computer, and he said that i had to get off and study. TBH i don't really listen to him cos hes a fool imo. He treats me like im a 5 year old, he says that i'm not aloud in any other part of town other that Grafton St. If he treats me like a child im just gonna treat him like a child and not listen to him

anyone else have these kinda problems?

highlydebased

My parents tried to impose similar rules....no computer etc, but I totally ignored them so they gave up.

They need to realise there is nothing to study in TY, as well as no reason to study!


Damn parents

Ciaran500

You sound real mature.

PurpleFistMixer

Acting like a child generally doesn't help your case.
However, that's totally crazy. If you study during TY, you'll burn out in 5th year, and if you don't, then you'll have a nervous breakdown in 6th year.
No computer monday to friday would result in me having going crazy within a week. School is bad enough, you need to take a break now and again.

Of course, you're not giving the entire story. It may be the case that you spend 6 hours a day on the PC and never see sunlight.

Also, how's he gonna know what part of town you're in? From the time you leave your house till the time you return, you can go anywhere you want... Unless your parents have a tendency to chase after you or put tracking devices on you.

Scoobydoobydoo

You don't sound at all mature, saying he's a fool, like you're really experienced in parenting are you? He's just trying to do his best by you, obviously, which is tough since you don't seem to respect him.

However, maybe you could compromise and do a certain amount of study. Try to come up with an arrangement, and show him you're making an effort.

If you take a step back and look at your post, you might see that you actually come across as being immature, and then you can think about how you can change this to your own benefit and also your Dad's. If you treat him the way you speak about him then you can expect to be treated like a kid, for a long time.

Agent Smith

X-Ecuti0ner wrote: »

He expects me to study in TY! FFS I've never studied that much in my whole life.

Maybe thats why!

Call Me Jimmy

Bad parenting imo. Ye have to be reasonable. He should say no computer until all your work is done which would give you more of an incentive. Whereas you don't get to go on your computer even after doing all your work... pretty stupid.

All that aside, there is no study in TY. The absolute most anyone should be doing in TY is projects or homework that yer given (which is next to none but that'll change in the next two years).

In fifth year, doing all your homework and studying near exams is the workload of someone who's going to do extremely well. In sixth year is the only time ye should be studying regularly, anything more and it's overkill. I hate whiney teens as much as anyone but he is going about it the wrong way I think.

EDIT: But the only way ye'll have a chance of winning him around is to talk to him calmly and sensibly. You have to be the bigger person if you want respect.

CiaraBelle

I'm in TY and I spend the whole day on the computer (not quite literally) with the amount of projects and research we have to do! It's gotten to the stage that any HW not on the computer is forgotten about...

X-Ecuti0ner

1. I get good grades cos i actually do my work in school so i don't need to study.

2. I always does what he says and yet he still doesn't trust me with anything.

3. I suppose I do spend alot of time on my computer, when i get home its the first thing i do, but is that any differnt from watching tv? and as for excercise i go to the gym three times a week and do plenty at home (push ups, sit ups) and it's not like the computer isn't exactly bad for me. Im in a clan which all my friends are in so I can talk and play with them online.

4. I know i didn't come across as mature in my post, but i was kinda angry, and I've had loads of trouble with him before but I can't talk to him about it cos he doesn't listen to me.

FranchisePlayer

X-Ecuti0ner wrote: »

3. I suppose I do spend alot of time on my computer, when i get home its the first thing i do, but is that any differnt from watching tv?

One question are you playing games or doing reports and stuff well if it is the latter is slightly unfair..

white_falcon

X-Ecuti0ner wrote: »

1. I get good grades cos i actually do my work in school so i don't need to study.

2. I always does what he says and yet he still doesn't trust me with anything.

3. I suppose I do spend alot of time on my computer, when i get home its the first thing i do, but is that any differnt from watching tv? and as for excercise i go to the gym three times a week and do plenty at home (push ups, sit ups) and it's not like the computer isn't exactly bad for me. Im in a clan which all my friends are in so I can talk and play with them online.

4. I know i didn't come across as mature in my post, but i was kinda angry, and I've had loads of trouble with him before but I can't talk to him about it cos he doesn't listen to me.

Had the exact same problems man. Parents were amazing. I wasn't even allowed out of the house to go into town without asking permission first and even at that it was most likely a no.

Was barely allowed use the PC. When the whole family was watching TV i decided i wanted some time to myself - went upstairs to go on PC - i saw nothing wrong with it. They would come up and go "what the hell are you doing", go downstairs and sit with everyone. So I'd go downstairs and nobody would talk to each other and I would be told to be quiet if i started talking sometimes.

On my 17th birthday I wasnt allowed to go out - as in I wasn't even allowed to go into town with my friends to a bar, not drink and be home by 10 like...

Having been on the receiving end of what you're going through, I can say yes..its ****. And I'm not gonna get "oh grow up" or "get a life". Your parents are not considerate and even if you try to talk with them they can just treat you like a kid and tell you they don't care, they don't trust you or whatever.

What I did to get me through was take up music..by sheer boredom. seriously. And now i've just graduated with a music degree and im trying to get into a career in music lol. Going from that kind of background into college, I can honestly say...you will be so very very happy lol. when you go from no freedom to complete freedom you'l realise that it doesnt matter and you've worked enough to take some time to relax and have a gud time

Looking back on it now, I think that my parents though I was just not socialising. Maybe if you show your parents that you have a group of friends (not your gaming clan) and they're all sound guys, they'll see that you have good company and do well in school, so theres nothing to worry about.

However, one thing - do NOT say "what the hell is your problem, stop giving me ****!"...this doesnt work lol. Just go to whichever parent you get on with best (sounds like ur mum) and just say that you feel that you are being unfairly treated and feel depressed or upset due to it, and want to know how to resolve it with them..." Then they will see you are mature and don't deserve all the "****" ur getting off them. Sometimes parents do this because they just don't take the time to see that their kids are actually independent and do know how to look after themselves. Unfortunately parenting is not something taught in school...:(

Piste

Tbh the worst they can do is cut you off financially. Do you have a job? If yo do then there's really not much they can threaten you with, if not, try to hold out until youe a bit more independent and then really what can they do to you?

Witcher

i cant believe it! people actually study??

ha i never opened a book in 3 years and got all honours!

i never need to study!

it just sticks!



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Mike...

blay1 wrote: »

i cant believe it! people actually study??

ha i never opened a book in 3 years and got all honours!

i never need to study!

it just sticks!



:cool::cool::cool:

Likewise...although sometimes I hate it,would love to put the head into the books and do some work,I aint boasting but it really does just stick

Witcher

*mono* wrote: »

Likewise...although sometimes I hate it,would love to put the head into the books and do some work,I aint boasting but it really does just stick

exactly, i think it feels more satisfying when you study because you get something for your work but i do no work and get the same result!


my friends hate me for it:D




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WoollyRedHat

i'm not aloud in any other part of town other that Grafton St.

That might as well be all of town.