Tempted to Prostitution

LegacyUser

Hi all,
Recently I have been tempted to use a prostitute or female escort to fulfill a sexual void in my life. Im 19 years old, and while I don't mind being a virgin, it's a complete lack of intimacy with girls in the last year that has lead me to this. While I wouldnt want to have intercourse with the prostitute, I would welcome some physical/sexual intimacy. My moral conscience however is stopping me from doing this. Even if I overcome this, the thought that the act is illegal also stops me from contemplating doing this...
I could write more about this but Im too tired...haha.
Anyone have any views/help?

Teddi

no no and no....

thats just my opinion bud but really, im sure things arent that bad for you , having to go to great lengths to furfill your sexual desires. your still young aswell..believe me, its not always going to be like this. Id say your just going through a dry patch.

Think, if you do go, and you like it? you may get addicted to it as its your only way of recieving intimacy, which is bad for you as its unrealistic and also bad for your pocket!!

its about putting in a bit of effort..ive gone through dry spells myself..it happens to everyone, but prostitution is not the answer my friend.

good luck

estar

Tempted. wrote: »

Hi all,
Recently I have been tempted to use a prostitute or female escort to fulfill a sexual void in my life. Im 19 years old, and while I don't mind being a virgin, it's a complete lack of intimacy with girls in the last year that has lead me to this. While I wouldnt want to have intercourse with the prostitute, I would welcome some physical/sexual intimacy. My moral conscience however is stopping me from doing this. Even if I overcome this, the thought that the act is illegal also stops me from contemplating doing this...
I could write more about this but Im too tired...haha.
Anyone have any views/help?

the fact that you have a moral conscience is going to make this act
make you feel even worse about things. if you didnt care, then you
could go ahead, but you are probably going to hate yourself.

seek to involve yourself with friends and family, reach out to them
chat to them and reconnent. this is very satisfying on a personal
human level. i would try a dating agency before a prostitute any day.
any partner that you take in the future will have an interest in knowing
you were with a prostitute as it is dangerous to your sexual health.
not all diseases can be protected from with condoms and not all
show up immediately. imagine waiting for the results of that test.
not worth it, no matter how much you pay.

paying for intimacy is likely to make you feel like zero. you will
think that is the only way you can get that intimacy. it is like
taking a drink to make you feel happy, works for about an hour,
leaves a hangover, except in this case the hangover could be
an STD - not all of which are curable. Hep C lasts forever and could
prevent you being able to father a child.

well done on seeking advice on this topic, but i think you already
knew the answer before you posted.

the_syco

Tempted. wrote: »

I would welcome some physical/sexual intimacy

You do know that the woman will just f**k you, and then leave. But if the prostitute see's a way of getting more money out of you, they'll just string you along. It's business, after all. You may see it as intimacy, but she'll just see you as a cash cow.

Thread carefully, OP.

Jeapy

Look, youre young! Dont go rushing into anything! Imagine what it will be like years down the line telling your future wife/long term partner about your first time. I really think you will regret it and also think you WILL find someone and itll all work out...she's probably just around the corner!

Good luck!

PeakOutput

im not particularly against prostitution but i dont get why a guy would want to pay for someones attention be it a prostitute or in a strip club or whatever its just not me sure half the fun is in the chase and well....theres no chase with a prostitute so sounds kinda boring to me.................

Tempted.

Tempted. wrote: »

Hi all,
Recently I have been tempted to use a prostitute or female escort to fulfill a sexual void in my life. Im 19 years old, and while I don't mind being a virgin, it's a complete lack of intimacy with girls in the last year that has lead me to this. While I wouldnt want to have intercourse with the prostitute, I would welcome some physical/sexual intimacy. My moral conscience however is stopping me from doing this. Even if I overcome this, the thought that the act is illegal also stops me from contemplating doing this...
I could write more about this but Im too tired...haha.
Anyone have any views/help?

I don't know what intimacy you're expecting, but a prostitute provides a service. It's not like you have "intimacy" with a bank teller.
Don't build yourself up to unrealistic ideas of what a prostitute is, or you'll end up as bad or worse as you are now, and with less money.

Work on your people skills and relationships and forget this.

Fanny Cradock

After the deed is done will this void really be filled? The fleeting moments of physical pleasure hardly seem worth the potential for a lifetimes source of regret.

Miss Fluff

Come on now, paying a prostitute for sex or a "physical/sexual intimacy" really isn't the way to go OP. You're only 19, don't get so het up, there is plenty of time for that. Any girls that you have your eye on at the moment? Do you go out much, i.e. have a chance to meet girls?

LegacyUser

You should start off by going to a lap dancing club - like Lapello's or something.

I went there recently with some friends and to be honest it was a very negative experience for me - I'm sure if I went to a prositute it would be simliar.

Just the feeling of of pity and seeing the degradation the girls go through left me feeling dirty and disgusted. I still got a few lap dances and thoroughly enjoyed them as the girls were gorgeous!

But its nothing like the loving feeling you get when your whamming your missus... that's my two cents anyway

mikemac

Tempted. wrote: »

While I wouldnt want to have intercourse with the prostitute, I would welcome some physical/sexual intimacy. My moral conscience however is stopping me from doing this. Even if I overcome this, the thought that the act is illegal also stops me from contemplating doing this...

Illegal eh? Standard disclamer is you pay for their time and company and anything extra that happens is between two consenting adults.
So don't worry about illegal.
Are you worried the vice squad will burst in while you're in the act, lol
They watch street girls and do a very good job too. But not the girls that advertise on websites and who are damn expensive at that.

Now if you posted you want intercourse but not intimacy I'd say go for it!
But going to a escort is the last place you'll find intimacy and the first place you'll find intercourse if you're single.

So you're looking in the wrong place OP.

Ninja_scrotum

Do not do it, you'll regret it. You're only 19 for feck sake!! The first time is more often than not a bit of a disappointment, and if you hook up with a hooker, I guarantee you'll feel like shyte afterwards. Losin your virginity to a slut at only 19!! Are ya mad??!!

Now if I were a forty year old virgin i would probably get a dirty prostitute, but not at your age.

Reku

With a prostitute you have absolutely no idea as to what diseases she might have, at least with someone you've spent a little time getting to know they might have let you know something.

Much of the magic of sex is the emotional intimacy, you won't feel any of that with this woman. You'd be as well off with one of those artificial vagina sex toys IMO.

Then there's that the first time is pretty much always awkward, would you rather it be with someone who'll just be slagging you off to the other ladies of the night or with someone who you can spend the next day laughing with about it. Also I don't know how special it'll make any girl you might sleep with in future feel knowing that you lost your virginity to a prostitute, will kinda raise the subconscious question of whether that's all she (the future partner) is to you.

justsomebloke

the_syco wrote: »

You do know that the woman will just f**k you, and then leave. But if the prostitute see's a way of getting more money out of you, they'll just string you along. It's business, after all. You may see it as intimacy, but she'll just see you as a cash cow.

Thread carefully, OP.

agreed with this thread carefully as chances are you are going to get milked as you are stringed along.

Jeapy

Hey OP. Did any of this help you or did you make a decsion?

jimmycrackcorm

Fanny Cradock wrote: »

After the deed is done will this void really be filled? The fleeting moments of physical pleasure hardly seem worth the potential for a lifetimes source of regret.

What's to regret? It's only sex after all. If prostitution did not fill a void then it wouldn't deserve the status of being the oldest profession.

Anyway there is no such thing as free sex, you pay for it one way or another...

LegacyUser

If it is just sex you need, then go for it. Wear a condom if you are afraid of disease, but to be honest, Prostitutes don't like to get stds either, so they will be quite carefull to, despite their 'dirty image'
Don't expect anything more than sex though, as love and sex are two different things. Also, be careful you don't pick one that may be forced into the trade.

AARRRGH

Tempted. wrote: »

the thought that the act is illegal also stops me from contemplating doing this...

Prostitution is only illegal for the punter if her picks her up on the street. Everything else is legal (e.g. if you go to her apartment to meet her for sex, that's legal.)

However, I would recommend you do not go to a prostitute if you are looking for intimacy. That's not the service they provide. They provide a hole.

If I were you I'd try to meet girls the traditional way, and have a think about why being on your own makes you so unhappy.

ircoha

dublindude wrote: »

Prostitution is only illegal for the punter if her picks her up on the street. Everything else is legal (e.g. if you go to her apartment to meet her for sex, that's legal.)

However, I would recommend you do not go to a prostitute if you are looking for intimacy. That's not the service they provide. They provide a hole.

If I were you I'd try to meet girls the traditional way, and have a think about why being on your own makes you so unhappy.

or 2 if they have thier A levels:D

Skud

tbh i dont mind saying this... i was 20 and i was in the same situation as you... 19/20ish and wanted to get a prossie, but i waited and i think it made the experience with the person alot more valuable... I think what you say you are looking for is some companisonship but what you really looking for is the sexual closeness during "intamicay". this will come in time when someone special enters your life and is worth the wait. When you have sex you probably will get this closeness and not have the void you do now. But you might and you gotta wait till that day comes. don't do something foolish.. possibly you could regret it ... my 2 cents, if u read this far you might appreciate my view.

thanks,

johnnysmurfman

lapdancingmaybe wrote: »

But its nothing like the loving feeling you get when your whamming your missus... that's my two cents anyway

Whoever said romance was dead eh?

senordingdong

You wont get intimacy from a prostitute.

dudara

ircoha banned for one week.

dudara

Fanny Cradock

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

What's to regret? It's only sex after all. If prostitution did not fill a void then it wouldn't deserve the status of being the oldest profession.

Anyway there is no such thing as free sex, you pay for it one way or another...

We all pay for it? That's a cynical view.

I guess it all boils down to what we each deem acceptable. In my case I would definitely feel a sense of shame if I was to avail of the services of a prostitute. It just seems cheap to me.

senordingdong

Fanny Cradock wrote: »

We all pay for it? That's a cynical view.

I guess it all boils down to what we each deem acceptable. In my case I would definitely feel a sense of shame if I was to avail of the services of a prostitute. It just seems cheap to me.

Do you feel cheap buying alcohol from an off license?

LegacyUser

Dude, seriously think about it and don't do it. You're only 19 and there are plenty of women / men / potential partners out there! I think you're possibly confusing being in a relationship and emotional intimacy with sex.

If your just extremely horny and in dire need to get your rocks off consider developing a closer relationship with your own hand. Your brain can start to play some seriously strange tricks on you if you are just not getting any sexual release at all!!

Going to prostitutes is just dangerous. 1) You will be extremely disappointed as she will just see this as a purely financial transaction and it will be anything but intimate.

2) you are putting yourself at serious risk of picking up all sorts of nasty sexually transmitted diseases i.e. everything from genital warts to HIV. If you're with a prostitute your risk of picking those things up is massively increased. I'm sure you wouldn't like to be spending the next 20 years having laser treatment on your sensitive bits or worse, having to deal with Hep C or HIV.

3) You are endorsing an industry which tends to be extremely abusive towards women, has connections to people trafficking and all sorts of horrendous activities and at best is sleazy and extremely seedy.

TheThing!

This has to be a piss take, but if it isn't, you are a freak

Dub_girl_101

TheThing! wrote: »

This has to be a piss take, but if it isn't, you are a freak

hahahaha I love it!

Fanny Cradock

senordingdong wrote: »

Do you feel cheap buying alcohol from an off license?

No, but I do enjoy their cheap prices. Are you now going to draw parallels between prostitution and the the off-trade business?

dudara

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dudara

dudara

Fanny Cradock and senordingdong Don't start an argument here.

dudara

Slutmonkey57b

lapdancingmaybe wrote: »

I went there recently with some friends and to be honest it was a very negative experience for me - I'm sure if I went to a prositute it would be simliar.
Just the feeling of of pity and seeing the degradation the girls go through left me feeling dirty and disgusted. I still got a few lap dances and thoroughly enjoyed them as the girls were gorgeous!

This is why I always had a problem with guys who go with prostitutes. This guy has a feeling of pity for the girls and the degradation - but not enough to, say, not degrade them himself.

You might feel ashamed and dirty after going to a prostitute OP, as though you're tarnished, or you've lowered your own worth.

The truth is that you've tarnished the girl you're paying by using her like a commodity to satisfy yourself with, rather than as a human being. A lot of prostitutes are there because of violence, sexual abuse, drug addiction, or human trafficking. Society sees them as a lower form of life, when they're mostly (not all, but mostly) victims. Why are the men there? Because they think treating another human like an inanimate object to be bought is ok.