Frustrated

LegacyUser

basically lately ive been feeling like my life is going nowhere..im nearly 19 and moved to kildare town last year from dublin and havnt made any friends here ...ii have a job here but everyone i work with is either older than me or from another country and they only really talk to each other and always in polish!! i go back to dublin as much as i can but majority of my mates are busy with college..im taking a year out after doing first year cos im not sure if its the right course and dont want to waste a few grand. i always try to get mates to go out some night during the week even after i do ten hour shifts in work just because i want to hang out with them cos i get really lonely here..thing is theres only 2 of them that im really myself around otherwise im pretty shy..so alot of the time even if other friends are going out i wont go unless one of the 2 i get on with are going otheriwse id feel really awkward.

Like i said i have a job in a pub but im looking for a new one in dublin..somewhere that is more me because i hate pub work and then hopefully i can move back up there..had a few interviews but never hear anything back probably because i am shy and get intimidated talking to people who are much older than me which is annoying because ive been told a few times that im a great worker and im really friendly and polite..but that musnt come across in interviews

Im pretty much going through a stage of just wanting to have fun and be able to enjoy being young but all my friends seem to be losing interest in that..even the ones who arent in college..im also really unconfident which doesnt help me in social situatons and having somebody i was seeing tell me im really annoying and paranoid didnt really help my confidence...

i really want to make new friends who i can have a laugh with...ive actually been asked to cork next weekend for the ep launch of the band of a guy i met who i really like but all my friends are busy and cant come and i dont really want to go alone because last time i saw the guy i was really shy and uncomfortable..maybe because his friends were there or maybe because i really like him im not sure....anyway should i go?? im thinking it would be good for my confidence..and i know that im really an "outgoingly insane" person as one of my mates told me lol but im afraid to show that side to people incase they wont like me..

guess i just want a bit of advice or something??

Jeapy

Heya. Sorry to hear your a bit down. I think after reasing the post, frustrated was def my thought. Its so annoying when you try really hard with people and they leave you feeling a bit empty.
I dont have any advice for you but keep looking for a job and dont give up. Hope everythng works out for you.:o

loismustdie

believe it or not if you fake confidence you will actually become confident for real, i know that's weird but is true, i speak from experience. the on ly way to make friends is by being yourself so you can have a laugh otherwise you will remain nervous and they won't get to know you. noone else can help you, you have to do it. go to cork on your own and be friendly and interested/interesting. your username is cool so you obvioulsy have a fum side. let us know how you get on `

WildIrishRose

loismustdie wrote: »

believe it or not if you fake confidence you will actually become confident for real, i know that's weird but is true, i speak from experience. the on ly way to make friends is by being yourself so you can have a laugh otherwise you will remain nervous and they won't get to know you. noone else can help you, you have to do it. go to cork on your own and be friendly and interested/interesting. your username is cool so you obvioulsy have a fum side. let us know how you get on `

great advice!;)

LegacyUser

Hmmm actually forgot i posted this lol..anyway since then ive gotten a great new job that i love so happy get on really well with everyone who works there cos theve all similar interest as me and stuff

foxface

loismustdie wrote: »

believe it or not if you fake confidence you will actually become confident for real, i know that's weird but is true, i speak from experience. the on ly way to make friends is by being yourself so you can have a laugh otherwise you will remain nervous and they won't get to know you. noone else can help you, you have to do it. go to cork on your own and be friendly and interested/interesting. your username is cool so you obvioulsy have a fum side. let us know how you get on `

i completely agree with the first point, loismustdie. Its the same way that if you force yourself to smile because you have to you end up smiling naturally. OP,if you want you can pretend to be someone else and make loads of friends (sounds like secondary school to me) or you can hold on and let people get to know you properly-theres not much point in forcing it imo. either way, keep the faith!