Day dreaming my life away

LegacyUser

I have difficulty doing anything constructive with my life. I have a reasonable job earning a an average wage. I often want to get a better job, quit smoking, quit surfing the net as much, go to the gym more but put it on the long finger. I get frustrated with myself promise I will do it later.
But i never do.

Any tips for kicking myself in the arse?

Gordon

mic wrote: »

Any tips for kicking myself in the arse?

Yeah, be prepared for some swift kickarse advice here, hopefully.

Ciaran500

Get a friend to join the gym with you and set times to go. Much less likely to blow it off if you have someone expecting you. Look in the giving up smoking forum for advice there but I have a feeling its not going to be much more than just decide to stop and never pick up one again.

Almost everyone has the same problem but it just gets to a point where you set a time to start something and you just do it no matter how attractive the TV/internet is looking.

karen3212

I think at least with the smoking you might be able to get advice from the GP. I know some people take prescribed medicine that apparently makes the cigarettes taste horrible. Maybe from there you will feel more energetic and you'll be jumping up off your ....., but I don't know.

estar

mic wrote: »

I have difficulty doing anything constructive with my life. I have a reasonable job earning a an average wage. I often want to get a better job, quit smoking, quit surfing the net as much, go to the gym more but put it on the long finger. I get frustrated with myself promise I will do it later.
But i never do.

Any tips for kicking myself in the arse?

hi there

the first thing to do is quit smoking. that has a bigger effect on your life
than just respiratory. Addiction takes the place of action, people use
addiction to block emotion, and motivation comes from emotion. You
can quit by taking nicotine replacement therapies - your pharmacist will
advise. Then by replacing the addictive behaviour with something positive.

When I gave up smoking I swam every day and also gave up drinking
for three months to give my will power and new habit time to grow.
I was very addicted, so you can do it.

This will mean that you have brought discipline into your life.
And can then start with other goals, rather than making a big list
of things you want to change, getting scared, and not doing any of them

After the smoking, you can look at further education, which is one
of the best ways of improving your prospects at work. Perhaps
you can do this with your current company, or a new company.

I find it good, to keep a diary tracking how i feel, what i want to
achieve, what i did that day, what i need to do tomorrow. it helps
keep up the momentum.

Also avoid people who are a negative influence for a few months
if they are not supportive and try to tempt you

currently i am pursuing a goal of sticking to a budget, so I have
asked my bf for help as hes far better with money. I love to shop
so its hard and I needed some outside supervision!!! I made out
the budget, and if I stick to it, I get a reward!!
so maybe enlist your friends to help you.

LegacyUser

you mentioned daydreaming

do you have problems concentrating, and thats what making it difficult for you to organise yourself?

Kenjd

Is there any sport you like doing? When i'm doing that it keeps me off the fags and booze! It even helps me get early nights, this is amazing as i used to play on-line games into the early hours. It also has the added benefit of keeping me fit.
Also, try to stop smoking in your house. Trust me this works. If you only smoke outside you'll smoke less and you'll get a nice smelling house.
Best of luck.

patrickolee

Agree strongly with estar. The smoking is the main source of your problem. It is slowly poisoning you, draining you of any energy. Unfortunately it is also probably the hardest of the problems you listed to resolve, but if you can quit, all the other pieces will fall into place. It is surprising how much smoking affects your mood swings and general outlook on life/energy levels. Different people find different ways of giving up easier than others. Personally I find cutting down the number of ciggies, followed by changing brand, so you don't enjoy them as much. If you can finally end up on around 5 or 6 silk cut blue (or white if you can) a day, then you are ready to give up. Always plan the moment well in advance, don't just decide one morning, I'm gonna give up. Plan it, look forward to it and prepare. Don't be too disappointed if you fail a few times, just keep at it, each time you pull away from them makes it easier the next time. For me, I find on the week of giving up, it is good to change your routine. For me thats going home on holiday where I can't smoke. Getting over the first week is the hardest. Avoid former friends who smoke for a little while. There is a forum on here for giving up smoking, which might also be of help?

Best of luck

acorntoast

People quit smoking in lots of different ways - the one that I've seen work over and over is reading the Alan Carr book - give it a shot - it worked for me, and lots of my friends. I smoked for 16 years and gave up cold.

As for the other stuff - don't get too down on yourself - it's good to want to engage in self improvement but most people find that you can't build Rome in a day. I have found making small gains and selling them to myself has had longer term effects. For instance - when I started running, my rule for myself was - I can eat or drink anything I want this week, as long as I go running 3 times a week. Did I start eating like a pig? No, my diet cleaned up more by itself - I just seemed to naturally want to feed my body better stuff, and I wasn't working from a self-negating, deprived mindset.

Whatever changes you make - do it in a way that's kind to yourself - asking for or giving yourself a kick in the arse isn't really helpful longterm. Taking care of yourself is an expression of self love really.