To Text or not to text

Sheog

I met this guy last weekend through a friend at her work do. He was a bit shy and so was I as my friend was clearly trying to set us up. We did hit it off and we were kissing on the dance floor by the end of the night. There was a free bar so we were both quite drunk and I went back to his place. (something I wouldn't normally do, especially if I actually liked the guy.)

Anyway, we had a great night, he dropped me home, asked me for my number and kissed me good bye. I'm sure he was interested in seeing me again, but the thing is I think I gave him the impression I wasn't interested (Im new to this being single stuff) even though I am. It's been a week and I haven't heard from him. My friend said that I probably haven't heard from him as he is shy, but I am inclined to think he might have gotten the wrong impression of me as I slept with him on the first night. Bearing in mind that it's been a long time since I've met someone I actually like my question is this; should I text him or wait or forget him altogether? Thanks!

feylya

You like him, call him. Simple.

cas91

The worst thing he can do is say no at the end of the day... and if he does ... as embarassnig as it may seem you won't have to ever see him again!!

Beruthiel

Do. Not. Text.
Call him up and ask if he's interested in going for coffee/drink/dinner/whatever.

super_furry

Of course he hasn't been in touch if you gave him the impression you weren't interested, he probably thinks you only went with him because you were drunk and regret the whole thing. Bloody women and their mind games. Anyway, don't text him, phone him.

strawberrybox

yeah id say text him just something harmless like hi how you doing had a great night with you what you up to, Id say he probably had loads of text written out and mabye was just a bit to shy to send them id say he is feeling exactly the same way will i text or not especially if you gave the impression that you werent that interested- even if if he doenst respond the way you would like whats the harm at least you will know and then move on, but he will probably be delighted

Vinnie K

Beruthiel wrote: »

Do. Not. Text.
Call him up and ask if he's interested in going for coffee/drink/dinner/whatever.

"claps franticly"

I hate texts, there so impersonal(for lack of a better word). You like the guy then give him a bell, if you dont you know you'll regret it.

LegacyUser

Send him a text, if he is shy, he'll probably prefer that. It'll give him time to think about his response before giving it to you. Don't beat around the bush till there's nothing to talk about and don't wait for him to ask you. Just get stuck in and ask him if he's interested in meeting up again.

If i met a bird out drinking, and whatever happened, i'd prefer a few texts then just a phone call out of know where.

How Strange

hmm, I'd normally say don't text, call instead but this is a tricky one cos you slept together so he may think well that's that then.

There is nothing worse than being on the other end of a call when you know they don't want to talk to you. On this occasion send him a text and ask him how his week has been. Make a reference to last weekend and see what he replies back.

If you get a reply then make the decision whether to call him or not.

Storm_rages

Getting in contact is the way to go!
Calling can be hard so if you find texting easier then text (i do agree that calling is normally the way to go!).
There is not one good reason not to!!

Oryx

What is up with people that they can kiss, dance, laugh, talk, get naked and have sex. And then be too shy to text afterward. I really dont understand that!

And Im another one who thinks you shouldnt text him anyway. Pick up the phone and TALK TO HIM. Texts can just be misunderstood or not replied to or whatever, and lead to even more messing. No matter what happens, youll have made the move, and know where you stand.

kev_s88

text him!!!

if, as you said, he is shy, he is probably sittin at home wondering what he did to make you not text him!! just take th plunge and make the first move.if you both like eachother that what have you got to lose

auggie2k

Texting is the reason I'm always fighting with my girlfriend, it really is way too impersonal and everyone... I mean EVERYONE, misreads texts... ya can't detect sarcasm or seriousness in a text. Call him if you like him.

cas91

true auggie.. many a time I have been misunderstood in a text because of sarcasm undetected.... humoru etc...
I take what I said earlier back.. Call him ..

Cantoris

Text him but keep it simple. No sarcasm, no humour. Say hello, ask him how he is and if he would like to meet up for a coffee, beer or tapas. Simplicity is everything this time. If he is shy and you are too, a call may well go fine but has the potential to go pete tong. A simple text allows him to think about it and then when he comes back you can call. Just be careful not to read into his text too much if he is nervous it might be a little off-putting but hold out. If you like him, go get him. Good luck.

challengemaster

Beruthiel wrote: »

Do. Not. Text.
Call him up and ask if he's interested in going for coffee/drink/dinner/whatever.

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SarahSassy

Give it a go and good luck with it.

Be mindful that he may not want to meet up.. From my experience, if a guy has your number and doesnt use it its because he doesnt want to... Doesnt mean you cant change his mind though

McSween

text him at 5am, hopefully he will reply the next day in the afternoon,,,,,,result, your conversation is started,

someothername

i agree with at the posts to ring..... if he doesnt answer then leave a VM and say on it you had a great night and wanted to go out again ... then its up to him.
good luck

Miss Fluff

Idontagree wrote: »

Send him a text, if he is shy, he'll probably prefer that. It'll give him time to think about his response before giving it to you. Don't beat around the bush till there's nothing to talk about and don't wait for him to ask you. Just get stuck in and ask him if he's interested in meeting up again.

If i met a bird out drinking, and whatever happened, i'd prefer a few texts then just a phone call out of know where.

Totally agree. Texting has ALWAYS worked for me;) If he is on the shy side, its less intrusive and will give him time to think of a response. If he doesn't respond you just put him in you F8cker File and move on.

syklops

if you text him, make sure you include who you are because if 5 days have gone by he may have lost the number:

Hi, This is <name> from, <where> just wondering if <blah>.

Firetrap

Definitely make contact, either through a text or phone call. Text is handy - if he's interested you'll hear back from him. If not, he'll ignore ya. Good luck.