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problem with friend

  • 17-10-2007 7:00pm
    #1
    McSween
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭


    he broke up with his girl at the end of august, after 5 and a half years. prior to her he had been single for over around 2 or 3 years, after another 5 and half year relationship

    he has been seeing somebody up in northern ireland, she is 6 years older and has 2 teens and an 11 yr old. tonight he texted me to say theyre engaged.

    this is coming from a guy who only this summer said he would never get married for the millionth time and on his recent break up he wanted to be single and free and generally get off with anyone in sight

    what the hell can i do


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  • #2
    curiousxxx1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 165 ✭✭curiousxxx1


    OP, you feel hurt because you were his shoulder and he leaned on you when he needed it. Let him enjoy this while it lasts, if it doesn't then let him know you won’t be there again. Sometimes we have to let our friends and loved ones fall just so they can pick themselves up...


  • #3
    ntlbell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,288 ✭✭✭✭ntlbell


    McSween wrote: »

    what the hell can i do

    nothing, be a friend, if he needs to talk to you be there etc.

    it's his life let him lead it that includes making mistakes should this turn out to be one

    we can't control other peoples lives even if we think they're not living the life we think they should


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do really, even if you try and talk to him about what he's doin he might just leap on the defensive straight away. Hopefully he'll come to his senses sooner rather than later!


  • #5
    humanji
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,976 ✭✭✭✭humanji


    I've a friend who met a girl and two weeks later were engaged. They're now happily married 5 years. You don't need to know someone for years to want to spend the rest of your life with them.

    What can you do? Be happy for him, for the love of f***. He's found someone he wants to marry. If there are other reasons for the marriage other than love, well, it's none of your business, so let them get along with it.


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