How to make sex hurt less?

LegacyUser

Hi all, ok so the story is whenever my boyfriend and I have sex it always leaves both of us hurting quite a lot, me because his cock is rather large and i'm quite tight despite the fact that we've been banging like a loose door in a strong breeze for the last month so I end up quite sore for the next day, and him because I'm so tight it actually hurts him a bit to have sex. Now thankfully we only really feel the extent of it some time after the sex so it doesn't make sex any less good, but just wondering are there any better techniques/positions we could try until I...*ahem*....loosen up so to speak.

I was considering me on top, but really I think I'd just look hideous from that angle and I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself properly!

Or should we just keep at it until we get more comfortable?

The Queen

Lube, lube and lots more lube! Go easy, until it's more comfortable...

I was considering me on top, but really I think I'd just look hideous from that angle and I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself properly!

He wont think that, and you'll have too much fun to care

Marksie

Douleureuse wrote: »

Or should we just keep at it until we get more comfortable?

No. TBH if i was hurting and hurting a partner i would stop then and there.

You should explore other avenues rather than penetrative sex and work up to it. Do you use foreplay and how much? TBH the word banging like a door conjours images of a piston going at full speed, which could be part of the problem.

Slow it all down and take it easy. He should be aware that he is hurting and vice versa. invest in a lubricant.

The woman on top position is good as you can control things and curb his enthusiasm. So you can control the depth and speed, making it more comfortable for you.

While you may want to have full on sex, better to learn how to control and vary what you are doing

LegacyUser

Yep Marksie there is usually a good bit of foreplay, but we're usually very eager to get to the sex, we don't see eachother too much so when we do we're very frisky...;)

I mgith suggest lube to him, seems lik a good idea.

Ickle Magoo

Do you orgasm while having this frisky sex? Unless there are more serious medical issues afoot, women can accommodate even the larger man without pain. Buy a good lubricant & use liberally & also make sure you are fully aroused before moving to penetrative sex & then take things good & slow. Try different positions & perhaps go for shorter sessions if it's the longevity that's making you raw...hth

Talliesin

Douleureuse wrote: »

I was considering me on top, but really I think I'd just look hideous from that angle and I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself properly!

It may not be the look you want on your passport photograph, but he'll probably think it's pretty hot.

You may find that in the missionary position that if you keep your legs flat against the bed it reduces how far he can go in and it may therefore feel better.

Tiger-style can be good for the same reason (from behind, but with you lying down, rather than on all fours) and because it takes relatively little movement to cause a lot of pleasant sensation.

It may be more a matter of lubrication than of size. Try using generous amounts of KY-Jelly or another water-based lubricant.

gcgirl

loads of foreplay is the answer ! you wil be so wet and ready for anything !

biko

You can try positions that open you up more, like doggy or you on your back with the legs straight up/resting on his shoulders. Any position where your legs are in a 90 degree angle to your back.

Lazers pew pew

lugger on his cock before he horses it into you

Nevyn

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Nevyn

Douleureuse maybe you should have a word with your partner about not havign such vigours sex if it is such an issue. There are time when faster and harder is not better.

biko

Thaedydal wrote: »

There are time when faster and harder is not better.

Makes me think of a certain Daft song

Nevyn

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strawberrybox

lube lube and more lube, have you really not considered this before? i know you can be really wet before sex and during at the start and you can dry up in the middle no matter how turned on you may be which is really sore for both parties, just use the lube as soon as you start to feel sore if not before and you should have no problems, and as for you not feeling comfortable on top no matter what your issues are with this men love this view of you and love to play with your boobs or stimiluate you at the same time and if your partner is on the large side you can pretty much control how much you take and ease up if its to sore but you sholdnt have any problems - you can get KY jelly now in tesco you dont have to q in the chemist with a burning red face like the old days!

Thundercracker

Douleureuse wrote: »

despite the fact that we've been banging like a loose door in a strong breeze for the last month

maybe you should slow things down, make sure that you can get into a rhythmn and take it at a slower pace, fast and angry sex can hurt a lot of the time because of its nature and it wears you out much quicker...where as slow moving sex is better because you have more time and you feel a lot more of everything

as a condom brand have you tried durex featherlite?

LegacyUser

Thanks for the responses guys, I'll ask him to take it a bit slower and gentler next time and I might suggest some lune, thanks for your help