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16-10-2007 5:49pm

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lauren_f

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wlel basically it is painful that guys in love watch porn and **** in their own time. i have a bf now for the last 5 years and i love him alot. i know he loves me too. he denies watching porn but its always typed into his PC. and its shocking the different things he appears to look at. i kno whe only denies watching porn cos it embarrasses him, but why does he? why do guys watch porn when they're in love. i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner, but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself? if a man gets aroused by watching porn, why wudnt he want sex with other beautiful girls, like the women that turn him on? there was sorts of things as "hot girl ****s" and ''rock hard nipples" and loads more... it hurts to think that guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women!!!

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#2 16-10-2007 5:58pm

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You could also look at it another way, that even with all the women out there he's still with you and still enjoys having sex with you. Wouldn't worry unduly TBH.

Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.

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#3 16-10-2007 6:01pm

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yes but maybe thats cos the rly hot women wud have no interest in him...

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#4 16-10-2007 6:03pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

wlel basically it is painful that guys in love watch porn and **** in their own time. i have a bf now for the last 5 years and i love him alot. i know he loves me too. he denies watching porn but its always typed into his PC. and its shocking the different things he appears to look at. i kno whe only denies watching porn cos it embarrasses him, but why does he? why do guys watch porn when they're in love. i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner, but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself? if a man gets aroused by watching porn, why wudnt he want sex with other beautiful girls, like the women that turn him on? there was sorts of things as "hot girl ****s" and ''rock hard nipples" and loads more... it hurts to think that guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women!!!

There's nothing wrong with watching porn. I watch it, my bf watches it. It has absolutely nothing in hell to do with cheating or wanting to cheat. Just chill out.

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#5 16-10-2007 6:04pm

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Or maybe he justs finds the whole idea of sex arousing ? I have a girlfriend and I watch porn, sure we even watch it together but watching it by myself doesn't mean I want to have sex with the women I'm watching, I use it to get new ideas to put across to the girlfriend

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#6 16-10-2007 6:25pm

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men ****. every day, sometimes several times a day if not too busy. it's as necessary and harmless as having a s**t. porn just eases the process by giving the imagination something to work with. don't take it personally and don't confuse it with any desire to have actual sex with other women, it's just biological need and modern convenience.

if it starts affecting your sex life though (i.e. he's all wanked out and can't do the necessary), then you need to tell him to have a bit more self control, and save his enthusiasm.

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#7 16-10-2007 6:35pm

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why do women buy so many shoes???

Its the way he's wired, it means nothing. Judge a man by his actions, he's with you and adores you.

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#8 16-10-2007 6:54pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner

Not true. All men want to shag other women. Most of them make a conscious choice not to.

lauren_f wrote: »

but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself?

No. You can't compare watching porn to cheating.

lauren_f wrote: »

it hurts to think that guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women!!!

Plenty of women imagine themselves having sex with random men.

You are the one out of the ordinary here.

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#9 16-10-2007 7:19pm

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Is it not better that hes watching porn and not cheating on ya? everyman watches it

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#10 16-10-2007 7:48pm

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FruitLover wrote: »

Not true. All men want to shag other women. Most of them make a conscious choice not to.

No. You can't compare watching porn to cheating.

Plenty of women imagine themselves having sex with random men.

You are the one out of the ordinary here.

Was just about to say this.

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#11 16-10-2007 7:51pm

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Wow OP. Six threads started, three locked! It looks like you're taking a survey

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#12 16-10-2007 7:56pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

yes but maybe thats cos the rly hot women wud have no interest in him...

Ah don't put yourself down honey;)
In all seriousness, Love and sex are in no way connected. For example you ain't in love when you have a one night stand. The heart does not control what's in the trousers.
Lauren, i was looking over some of your threads and a lot of them have a sociology/psychology slant to them. Are you doing a project or an essay?

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#13 16-10-2007 8:11pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

yes but maybe thats cos the rly hot women wud have no interest in him...

There is so much wrong with this statement I don't know where to start. Suffice to say, it hints that perhaps your self-esteem is the crux of the issue. Every guy on the planet - even those that have pornstar gf's - watch porn, and ****!

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#14 16-10-2007 8:16pm

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Its ok to look and maybe dream, as long as you dont touch. Or so the wife tells me.....

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#15 16-10-2007 8:18pm

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Why is lauren_f asking so many questions......And why is a common thread now - "my ... watches porn" - sticky 1 thread or something at this stage!

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#16 16-10-2007 8:24pm

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Sabre0001 wrote: »

Why is lauren_f asking so many questions......And why is a common thread now - "my ... watches porn" - sticky 1 thread or something at this stage!

This is like the 5th thread she's started in a few days! Don't abuse PI Lauren, it's here for a reason and it's not just cause you're bored.

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#17 16-10-2007 8:25pm

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#18 16-10-2007 8:37pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

wlel basically it is painful that guys in love watch porn and **** in their own time. i have a bf now for the last 5 years and i love him alot. i know he loves me too. he denies watching porn but its always typed into his PC. and its shocking the different things he appears to look at. i kno whe only denies watching porn cos it embarrasses him, but why does he? why do guys watch porn when they're in love. i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner, but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself? if a man gets aroused by watching porn, why wudnt he want sex with other beautiful girls, like the women that turn him on? there was sorts of things as "hot girl ****s" and ''rock hard nipples" and loads more... it hurts to think that guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women!!!

OMG what are u like-im a woman in a long term relationship and i watch porn and i mastubrate- its perfectly healthy- and guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women cos ITS A FANTASY!! its not real and doesnt mean anything

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#19 16-10-2007 8:44pm

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lauren_f wrote: »

wlel basically it is painful that guys in love watch porn and **** in their own time. i have a bf now for the last 5 years and i love him alot. i know he loves me too. he denies watching porn but its always typed into his PC. and its shocking the different things he appears to look at. i kno whe only denies watching porn cos it embarrasses him, but why does he? why do guys watch porn when they're in love. i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner, but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself? if a man gets aroused by watching porn, why wudnt he want sex with other beautiful girls, like the women that turn him on? there was sorts of things as "hot girl ****s" and ''rock hard nipples" and loads more... it hurts to think that guys imagine themsleves having sex with random women!!!

Get over yourself.

What on earth has porn got to do with love?

It's like saying how can someone like bread when they like tennis. It makes zero sense.

Men enjoy porn.

It's better your man enjoys porn and has a bit of a **** than goes out cheating on you. (and porn is not cheating, it's not even related to it).

He isn't embarrassed to watch porn, it's just easier to tell you he doesn't because you make such a huge deal out of it when it isn't.

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#20 16-10-2007 8:45pm

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why do guys watch porn when they're in love. i know a guy in love wudnt want to have sex with anyone but they're partner, but if they're watching porn, isnt that a contradiction in itself?

No, no it is not a contradiction! Im with my boyfriend 3 years. We love watching porn together! Most men AND women fantasize about being with other people, most just don't act on these! But many couples swing. And to be honest, to swing, you'd want to be deeply in love, and comfortable with your relationship! You're boyfriend has done no wrong, but if it bothers you so much, tak to him about it.
Or tell him to clear his internet history....

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#21 16-10-2007 8:50pm

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davyjose wrote: »

There is so much wrong with this statement I don't know where to start. Suffice to say, it hints that perhaps your self-esteem is the crux of the issue. Every guy on the planet - even those that have pornstar gf's - watch porn, and ****!

+1

So many things wrong it's hard to know what to say.

It sounds like you are the type of person who insults him/possibly other people because your own self esteem is low, IMO.

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