Just ended with my girlfriend

LegacyUser

Things with my girlfriend just ended today. Im 22 and shes turning 20 in a few weeks. We were going out for 14 months. We met and I kinda knew this was gonna happen as I felt that way myself slightly for a while. Anyway, she said she just felt things had fizzled out and we didnt get along as well as we used to anymore and she didnt feel the same love for me as she used too. Like I said, I agreed with this too regards her to a large extent. She wanted to break up and that was that... But I feel so empty and sad right now... I dont necessarily wish I was still going out with her, but I just feel so sad, almost as if she just died and Im grieving for her...

She was the first serious girlfriend I ever had, first girl I slept with and first girl I loved and who said she loved me. So many firsts, but now its over I kinda made a hint at possible future relationships in years to come, but she didnt acknowledge it, just said she wanted to make sure we still talked and didnt end up being nothing more than fond memories to one another...

Im gutted over this, havnt got many friends and they dont seem to understand me, so Im just posting here. Just want other people who have had this situation to PLEASE tell me that what Im feeling is normal and that in time Ill get over this and move on. Has anyone in this situation ever ended up getting back with their ex years down the line? Not that Im dying to start counting down the weeks or something, I just find the thought that this isnt an abolute and utter end comforting for now. Way I feel now is that Ill never have another girl like her, and it took me so long to find a girl like that, that now Ill be lonely for years and years to come again

Thanks for reading

Cathmandooo

Yes you are completely normal, break ups are awful and you feel a huge part of you is missing. I know it's a complete cliche but time does heal. Have a read of my topic there that I did up today about getting over my ex. I've made loads of mistakes in dealing with my ex and trying to be friends, it hasnt worked and I've called a day on being friends after 3 years of trying. My experience tells me you're better off parting rather than trying to be friends. Leave the memories as fond ones rather than bringing huge difficulties of new partners into the equation.

If you're meant to be with her you will be. give yourself time to heal though, it's a huge change to get used to someone not being there anymore. You will be ok dont worry

Wibbs

Think of it as the end or it'll wreck your head. Forget a future with her. Think of a future with yourself and whomever shows up along the way. It could be her. I've known couples to get back together years later, but they usually had more connection than you describe in yours.

Bit of advice, break all contact. She may want to be friends. Don't be, not until you've moved on. It sounds selfish but it's not. It's better for both of you. Let her and the old relationship go. Forgive yourself and her.

Grieve but don't wallow in that for too long. Get out and live your life, you're only 22 so that's a lot of living left.

As I say you'll meet someone better down the line. It may even be her, but don't live your life on that basis. No one is worth that.

LegacyUser

Thank you guys for saying that. Its weird, but just reading it makes it easier on me. Need to remind myself Im not the first or the last person to go through this. Hurts so much though...