Virgin Problems

LegacyUser

Ok i'll make this short.

Background -> Basically trying to do the business last night with a virgin. Shes Asian. I amn't.

Problem -> One size does not fit all.

Solution -> ???

Further info -> I've being with virgins and asians before. This was much much worse. How much worse you ask ? Well I tried a finger and it was still like a bloody vice grips, or one of those Chinese finger trap things.

To answer obvious questions, yes there was any amount of foreplay and yes she was as wet as a leaky tap.

To be honest I'm fairly clueless on the next step.

mawk

well the only sensible option is a penis reduction. im sure your gp will offer you all the info you need.


more importantly, ask her if she has ever seen an ob/gyn.

Vaginal septa is a not uncommon condition whereby a wall grows splitting the vagina into two seperate holes and is often unnoticed until sex. or failure there of.


being a virgin its possible she didnt notice. if you could barely finger her then she needs a doctor. think how a baby would feel coming through.

IANAD

Talliesin

I'd suspect vaginisimus before a vaginal septum; simply on the former being quite common and the latter quite rare.

Victor

This board is not for medical advice, problemsprob can I suggest you both wander along to a GP.

seeshell

just to make sure. ur sayin that she is real tight right?

AARRRGH

I posted this on boards before and got an awful bollicking for it, but it's true: Asian women have small vaginas (my ex was Asian.)

A simple way of looking at this is Asian porn: the men have tiny penises, so it makes sense the women also have small vaginas.

There could also be things like vaginisimus or plain ol' nerves going on.

Really the only solution is to take things much slower. Perhaps start with a nice hot bath and a few drinks, with lots of foreplay etc. Basically make her mind and body as relaxed as possible...

pablo21

dublindude wrote: »

I posted this on boards before and got an awful bollicking for it, but it's true: Asian women have small vaginas (my ex was Asian.)

A simple way of looking at this is Asian porn: the men have tiny penises, so it makes sense the women also have small vaginas.

...

How come nobody told me this before!!!! ;-0

elvis2002

man sometimes I wonder how these guys are finding girls that want to loose it with them

Victor

elvis2002, please read the charter and post constructively.

dublindude wrote: »

I posted this on boards before and got an awful bollicking for it, but it's true: Asian women have small vaginas (my ex was Asian.)

Small people have small body parts. However, I know Chinese couple where he is well over 6 feet tall and a plays American Football and she is about 5 foot two. They are expecting a baby.

LegacyUser

You say shes a virgin, but has she ever been fingered before?

The first time my bf tried it with me even his small finger hurt. now i can take 2 fingers but its still a small bit sore. we havent had sex yet, working up to it.

one thing that makes it less sore is if she has an orgasm. maybe try that first?

monosharp

Victor wrote: »

elvis2002, please read the charter and post constructively.

Small people have small body parts. However, I know Chinese couple where he is well over 6 feet tall and a plays American Football and she is about 5 foot two. They are expecting a baby.

Isn't that pretty standard (big asians) in Northern China ?

Nevyn

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seeshell

im not sure that a guys height has anything to do with him being well endowed or not..

but otherwise i would suggest that u use ur fingers to loosen up her muscles. thats what my bf did as even his small finger hurt..that part was a bit painful but when we finally had sex it didnt hurt much..:)

hope this helps

strawberrybox

does she use tampax? cos if she does i suspect there is nothing physically wrong with her if she can get one of them up its prolly just nervousness, just be gentle with her and dont make it all about having sex just tell her you just want to touch her without it leading to anything and she may relax a bit more if she is not thinking about actual penetration

mawk

monosharp wrote: »

Isn't that pretty standard (big asians) in Northern China ?

bit of russian blood in em?

anyway, the op mentioned that they had alread tried fingering and that it was unsucessful.

and yes while PI is NOT a medical board when something like is said, i think its smart to point out the strong possability of an actual medical condition rather than say "try lighting some candles first."

but of course that said.. do that too. miiight be first time jitters. does she have any problems with self penetration?