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I can't lose him over this!

  • 13-10-2007 10:06am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been crazy about a guy for so long, and recently he started getting in touch with me and things became very flirty, but to cut a long story short, i overdid it and was way too forward with him, I wasn't myself, and it disgusted him. He liked me for who he thought i was and i've made him think i'm some kind of tramp now...he's not exactly speaking to me, and i'm devastated, and so angry at myself. I don't know what i should do now...I can't lose him. Please give me advice, i don't know what to do.


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  • #2
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Upsetgirl: Quite simply he aint worth it. Being accepted for who we are is an essential part of any realtinship.

    upsetgirl wrote: »
    but to cut a long story short, i overdid it and was way too forward with him, I wasn't myself

    Yes in fact you were being yourself. Nothing wrong with that in fact its essential.
    upsetgirl wrote: »
    and it disgusted him.

    That is HIS problem. He has issues and not you
    upsetgirl wrote: »
    He liked me for who he thought i was and i've made him think i'm some kind of tramp now...

    Well now, what do we say to that. He categorised you, boxed you and placed you as a certain type. You ain't.
    You aint a tramp either. he is the one with the problem not you.
    upsetgirl wrote: »
    he's not exactly speaking to me, and i'm devastated, and so angry at myself.

    His loss. Why devastated?, why are you clinging to this? you shouldnt be angry at yourself. He is the one who is already stifling things.
    Why have yuo put him on this pedestal and made him the sole object.?
    upsetgirl wrote: »
    I don't know what i should do now...I can't lose him.
    Why can't you? He isn't the only guy out there.
    Reaslie this, you would be denying a part of yourself with this guy even before you begin the realtionship.
    upsetgirl wrote: »
    Please give me advice, i don't know what to do.

    Take off the rose tinted glasses.

    Send him a message that fine, its his problem, you are who you are. It wouldnt work anyways and ciao.

    Move on


  • #3
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    upsetgirl wrote: »
    He liked me for who he thought i was
    THen he thought you were something youre not, and cant accept everything you are or could be. He doesnt sound like the man for you. If you overdid it and said so, he should have been man enough to laugh it off and begin again. And hes not speaking to you? He sounds like an ass.

    You can and you should lose him tbh. Plenty more men out there who will love you when you overdo it. And when you dont. ;)


  • #4
    Balmed Out
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,730 ✭✭✭Balmed Out


    U probably didnt disgust him at all, maybe just scared him.


  • #5
    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Some guys like the full on approach from women and some dont .It seems you found the former and there is not a lot you can do , but dont beat yourself up about it .Maybe he wasn't worth all the fuss in the end ?


  • #6
    Spoony2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 111 ✭✭Spoony2


    upsetgirl wrote: »
    I've been crazy about a guy for so long, and recently he started getting in touch with me and things became very flirty, but to cut a long story short, i overdid it and was way too forward with him, I wasn't myself, and it disgusted him. He liked me for who he thought i was and i've made him think i'm some kind of tramp now...he's not exactly speaking to me, and i'm devastated, and so angry at myself. I don't know what i should do now...I can't lose him. Please give me advice, i don't know what to do.

    Hey when a girls abit full on it shows fire in her blood ie passion, you sound cool, so what you scared him away you flirted you where who you where personally i love flirty chicks you can have so much fun with them Inuendo and genrally a laugh, He turned you down
    I mean if a bloke turns down a chick thast flirty (I dont mean it like that) Theres something wrong there ... ghe sounds liek a dry ****e any way so your probably better off, I no it dont seem like that now but you'le see, In the end you allways do see :)

    seriously there are loads more single blokes out there...


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