advice please

bordrlinepsycho

Just need some advice..im nearly 19 and from dublin but moved to kildare town last year...i hate it and im really unhappy here so i wana move only thing is Dublin is obviously really expensive..even if i share with a friend it will cost a fair bit. Anyway im now considering moving to maybe Cork as i know a few people who live there and they're also looking for somewhere to live so it might be possible to share a house...

College isnt a problem because i left my course and im thinking of doing music management in ballyfermot next year but theres a similar course in csn in cork..

only thing would be getting a job..Anyone know how easy/difficult it is to find jobs there??

also any advice from people who have moved far from home while they were still young would be appretiated?

i know this isnt really a personal issue but im having a really ahrd time decising what to do so basically i just want any advice/opinions on whether or not its a good idea. Thanks:D

randylonghorn

bordrlinepsycho wrote: »

also any advice from people who have moved far from home while they were still young would be appretiated?

Nearly 19 isn't that young to be moving away / living at a distance from home.

Lots of people move to college at the other end of the country when they are 17 / 18.

It's far less about your age, and far more about whether you are ready for it.

bordrlinepsycho

yeh i know but like with colleeg you can go home at weekends and stuff..i'd be living there permanently..not that id want to come home cos i hate it...just never lived away from home

Ninja_scrotum

I moved away from home to go to college in galway in 2004 when I was 18. About 4 and a half hours bus journey from home. Was never arsed to go home that often because of the time it took.

I didn't know anyone when I moved up. Got a job in dunnes almost straight away, made friends there, and made friends in college. You'll be grand!

randylonghorn

bordrlinepsycho wrote: »

yeh i know but like with colleeg you can go home at weekends and stuff..i'd be living there permanently..not that id want to come home cos i hate it...just never lived away from home

There's no law that says if you live somewhere permanently you can't go home the odd weekend ... if you want to.

Ok, I know what you mean about it feeling a bit more permanent / like a more substantial decision.

But I would still say that it has very little to do with your age (once you're over, say, 17) and far more to do with:
- are you ready for it?
- do you want to do it?
- is it likely to make you happier?

Tbh, I would imagine for most people brought up in Dublin, a town the size of Kildare might feel very restrictive ... at 19, anyway, when you are older you might see more advantages in living outside the city. And Cork is a nice city. But it has to be YOUR decision, and there's no rush ... make it when YOU are ready.

bordrlinepsycho

yeh kildare does feel very very restrictive...and i think it might make me happier like i know id be leaving my friends and family (but dont really get on with them anyway) but like i said i know a few people who live in and around cork so id say id be fine

tritium

hi OP. Moved from Dublin to the midlands when i was only a bit older than you for a few years. Yeah, its difficult getting used to the change of pace. I spent a lot of weekends back in Dublin visiting friends tbh - at that age you'd be amazed how many friends have couches you can crash on if you don't want to go home, and with just about everyone having mobile phones and email its become much easier to arrange.

The other thing I'd suggest is getting involved in stuff where you are. Don't know if you're working down there too, but if so I'd suggest getting some kind of work social activities going - tbh can be as simple as sending an email around on a Thursday/Friday to see if anyone fancies going for a pint. Join a club or too if you can. Don't know if there's many good sports clubs near you, but easy to find out. Personally I'd go for something smaller (squash, Karate, Tennis) rather than the bigger clubs (GAA, rugby..) since I always found it easier to meet people quickly in those settings, but thats just my opinion......

bordrlinepsycho

yeh i go back to dublin alot...and i do work in kildare in a pub but almost everyone working there is older than me and polish lol and there really isnt alot to do here, even people in my job said i should move as soon as i can because theres nothing there to make a good life out of

echosound

BP - you're 19, you've no "ties" asuch (no mortgage, no kids, etc) and you're stuck in a job and place you don't really like. What's stopping you?
You said you'd have friends in Cork, you don't really get on with your family anyway, so where's the problem? I left home at 18 to go to college a 3 hour drive away, and when I moved, I moved with the intention of leaving home for good, which I did.
What's to stop you from visiting home at weekends anyway if you're working in Cork? Plenty of people do that trip to visit family the odd weekend, often with kids in tow.

Bottom line is - you're only renting a place in the midlands, so you're not tied to a house or a mortgage, you don't particularly like it there, so give your notice, tell your mates you'll take a room from them, start looking for work in Cork, and give it a shot. If you find you hate it, nothing to stop you doing the same again and moving back up the country a bit, you're still young, and all that you have to do is hand in notice on the place you rent and find another in the town/city of your choice.

If however the place you really want to be is in Dublin, could you not find a house share there? I know prices are high, but Cork is not far behind really. With a regular job you'd surely be able to afford the rent on a room in a house from your wages?

AngryBadger

If you've decided to quite your college course, and you hate living in Kildare then I don't see any reason not to move. Working for a year or two is often a good way to decide what you want to do yourself.

I'm assuming that since you've already been involved ina college course you've done your leaving cert, so you can go back to college at any time (if that's what you decide to do).

You mentioned having friends that want to move to Cork, always a bonus, but stuff like finding a job and somewhere to live is all logistical.

From what you're saying working for a while is probably a good idea, but make sure Cork is where you want to be, maybe it's worth thinking about going back home for a few months and getting some cash together before making a sudden shift of your life down to Cork?

I guess all I'm saying is you're 19, taking a year or two out of college/school to work and think about what you want is a good idea, just don't make any sudden decisions or assume that Cork/Galway/Anywhere is going to be some magic utopia where the sun always shines and it only rains money. Whether or not a move makes any difference will depend entirely on you, it's often the case that people might be just as happy (sometimes happier) living and working close to home while they figure themselves out.

bordrlinepsycho

echosound wrote: »

Bottom line is - you're only renting a place in the midlands, so you're not tied to a house or a mortgage,

im not actually renting a place i live with my family so it would just be a bit weird living alone thats all and as for renting in dublin im sure i could find a house share but id rather live with people know even a little bit..and im also finding it really hard to find a job in dublin because all the experience i have is in pubs and i dont wana do that again:(