Is this a weird myspace page?

LegacyUser

Hi. I've just started a masters and become friendly with three other girls in my class. As we only have two classes a week, and have only been in college for two weeks, we aren't exactly friends yet but these are the people that i would sit with and chat to in class etc.

Yesterday one of the girls, told me she had invited me to be a myspace friend. I checked this when i got home and saw two invites, neither of which seemed to be from her - one being an american girl, the other seeming like some kind of porn star.

Of course today she asked me why I hadn't accepted her and I told her that there wasn't an invitation from her. She described her profile picture and of course, it's the porn star one. I went home and properly checked out the page, and it is indeed her. It's basically all a bit shamelessly filthy, with loads of tacky looking glamour model type photos of her and all the comments are from guys that she has just added to the page with loads of filthy comments and stuff. And this is all there is on the page. 2000 friends with from what I can see equally dirty pictures, a whole gallery of photos, really explicit song lyrics etc. The background is a tasteful collage of condoms. The whole page is all about the sex... and not about the chatting to friends and stuff.

The thing is that now I am judging....and i feel a bit bad. Cos the page in itself could be funny, but the 20 or so photos of her are not, But I really want to know is it normal to be inviting people in your college class who you have just met to look at dirty pictures of you?? It's not that I find stuff like that offensive in the slightest. I'm just finding it all a bit weird and creepy cos I barely know her and this is obviously the image that she wants to put out there.

Am I over reacting in finding it all very weird? What do I say to her tomorrow now that I have seen her naked...

Victor

weirdmyspace wrote: »

What do I say to her tomorrow now that I have seen her naked...

"Morning! Did you get to read the chapters the lecturer gave us?"

or

"Great pix!"

Up to you.

humanji

In fairness, she's obviously not ashamed of it, so why should you be offended by it?

Endurance Man

Get some of that action, maybe she's keen. Wouldn't add you if she thought you would be put off.

LegacyUser

weirdmyspace wrote: »

Am I over reacting in finding it all very weird? What do I say to her tomorrow now that I have seen her naked...

No you're not over-reacting. How embarrassed is this girl going to be when she realises you saw her naked? Unbelievably so, I'd imagine.

However, I must say it must have been a really unfortunate sequence of events that led her to post not one, but several, trashy pictures of herself on myspace. The poor girl will be mortified when you tell her.

SarahSassy

Well maybe she is lesbian / bi sexual and wants to experiment with you or maybe she is an exhibitionist and was looking for some reaction from you.

If you are uncomfortable just keep telling her you havent been online and soon she will get sick of asking you...

I think she is an exhibitionist as she asked you why you didnt add her..... Dunno what her motive is but you can fob her off easily enough if you want to.

ruskin

Whats that myspace page? I feel I would have to examine the content of the page before I could give you advice on what to do:D

WindSock

Maybe she's into sex and/or into you?

Am I over reacting in finding it all very weird? What do I say to her tomorrow now that I have seen her naked...

Yeah you are a bit.
Laugh it off.
Obviously she has no probs with you see'ing her naked.
Your friend either has no concept that her page is brash or explicit.She's clearly a bit of an exhibitionist,theres nothing wrong with that if she's happy being that way.
Tell her you think she's a bit mad if you like and leave it at that and tell her you don't want to add her because,you dont want your other friends thinking the wrong thing.

Victor

ruskin wrote: »

Whats that myspace page? I feel I would have to examine the content of the page before I could give you advice on what to do:D

Banned. The rest of you that are thinking of asking, read the charter.

Jesus Wept

I'd be delighted. She sounds like a..... free spirit.

m83

Victor wrote: »

Banned. The rest of you that are thinking of asking, read the charter.

That's a bit harsh. Clearly he was joking. This is barely even a thread worthy of PI, much more AH material IMHO.

Reku

OP, I'd say just accept the invite and avoid viewing her photo pages, TBH it sounds like she's a page 3 wannabe and there's nothing wrong with that, we all have our own aspirations and that is no less a valid aspiration than becoming a member of Mensa or a self made millionaire.
I understand it may seem a bit awkward for you but the thing to remember is that she doesn't feel embarrassed about it (if she did she would have kept schtumm on the myspace page in the first place) so you don't have to either. Think about every time you've gone swimming/to the beach, most swimwear doesn't exactly leave a whole lot to the imagination so this is not a lot worse really.

Victor wrote: »

Banned. The rest of you that are thinking of asking, read the charter.

ROFL- there's always one...

milod

Maybe the whole 'pornstar' image is ironic... You're not doing a masters in social studies or media by any chance...?

You haven't mentioned your own gender, but either way it's quite possible that the girl is shamelessly making a pitch for you. If not, she's just an attention whore looking to establish her image among new peers - don't help her out by telling anyone about the page - prob get you banned from here anyway!

Reku

milod wrote: »

Maybe the whole 'pornstar' image is ironic... You're not doing a masters in social studies or media by any chance...?

You haven't mentioned your own gender, but either way it's quite possible that the girl is shamelessly making a pitch for you. If not, she's just an attention whore looking to establish her image among new peers - don't help her out by telling anyone about the page - prob get you banned from here anyway!

In the OP she said "other girls" so one would assume she is female.

TheBigEvil

I think for people to make a proper informed decision, and give you the advice you need, you'll need to post her myspace link :D:D:D

Jesus Quintana

TheBigEvil wrote: »

I think for people to make a proper informed decision, and give you the advice you need, you'll need to post her myspace link :D:D:D

^^^^^^^^
What she/he said.
You could be overreacting. We'll judge.

Beruthiel

TheBigEvil
Jesus Quintana
Banned for a week
B

m83
It is clear to me that you haven't read this forums charter, otherwise you'd know the proceedure with regards to questioning a Mods decision.
B

event

id say she is sending you a not so subtle message there mate

she ask you to be a friend on myspace, of which is naked pics of her. You dont accept and the next day she is asking you why didnt you accept. methinks she wants you to see her like that!

could be way off the mark though, but thats what it looks like

monkey tennis

eh? wrote: »

No you're not over-reacting. How embarrassed is this girl going to be when she realises you saw her naked? Unbelievably so, I'd imagine.

Not sure I see how she would be embarrassed about it, seeing as she's the one who sent the invites to the page in the first place?

Nevyn

slumped if you dont' have anything to contribute then don't post
as off topic and unhelpful posts will get you banned from this forum.

cathy01

I wouldnt say anything to her. say, you never got the invite. if asked..She does sound a bit , mixed up.
Leave her well enough alone,
cathy

metaoblivia

OP, I wouldn't worry about it or read too much into it.
I had a similar experience a few years back. I started talking with my boss from work, and a few days later she sent me a myspace request. To my surprise, she had racey pictures of herself naked, chained to a bed, in fetish lingerie, etc.. Turns out she had once been a stripper and, in addition to owning all sorts of crazy outfits, she had developed an interest in fetish lifestyles.
She wasn't trying to send me any messages or anything. That was just her myspace page. She wasn't ashamed of her past job or her hobbies, and she felt that anyone who was friends with her would be cool with that as well. She wasn't at all concerned with any judgments people would pass.
Some people have no problem being very open about who they are.

irish_boy90

well maybe we should see this page so we can make a better... uhh decision for you

LegacyUser

Thanks for replies. Just wanted to clarify a few things....

I'm a girl

The reason I was asking was to clarify whether or not this kind of thing seemed highly unprofessional behaviour. This girl is a primary school teacher and we are doing an education related masters. It just seemed an odd way to be making contacts in a professional environment...especially in one so diametrically opposed to the image being portrayed on the page...

Marksie

irish_boy90 wrote: »

well maybe we should see this page so we can make a better... uhh decision for you

IrishBoy90 did you read the thread and see what happened to others who made the same comments?

Banned 1 week