Reading a bit too much into this

LegacyUser

The other night I was out, I was heading home and ending up talking to some girl who I was attracted to. We where both a bit drunk after the night out but anyway my group of friends and her friends were walking home in the same direction. We drifted to the back of the group to where there was a big gap between us, as we where talking I knew myself that this was my chance to get with her but the problem was I wasnt getting a clear single off her and I am a very cautious person so I didnt 'go in for the kill' as such.

She kept on saying she was "fat" even though she was clearly not but I didnt say she wasnt cant remember what I said but I joked it aside by joking that I was fat but im not.

Then I had accepted that I had missed my chance when she started talking to other lads while I was talking to one person I knew but then I heard her say "I have a boyfriend". Fair enough nothing I can do now and just forget about it and I ended up talking to another two girls.

I said goodbye to the two girls I was talking to and saw two people from each group over on a wall and went over and talked to them and about 2mins later the girl who was still wearing my top came over to us as she knew the two people on the wall as well.

Other people came over to us and some other girl took a photo of me because I was standing in long grass (dont know why she wanted to take a photo of me because of that) the girl gave me back my top and we all started moving down the road but I was talking to the girl who took my photo and I went on home.

Then I was bored in the Computer Lab the next day and I looked the girl up on bebo and her Relationship Status was Single but she had said to the other lads that she had a boyfriend ok maybe she just started seeing someone and didnt change her status yet but she have been active a lot since I first went onto profile and she is now displaying her age when she didnt when I first went on which ment she was on the page that can change her status when she decided to display her age.

One of my friends was with her friends that night and he went back to hers and he was telling me that she was saying that she was "Fat" and was "Ugly" on the way home.

Then I was out again a few days later and I was walking into the smoking area she was there with her friends but I didnt notice her and walked passed and she pulled me back I pretended I didnt know her name and remember it again but then she called me by my mates name and I walked away in disgust but she then did call me by my right name but I just kept on walking even though I intended walking straight back dont know why I didnt go back but I was drunk at the time.

As you can tell I am kinda reading way too much into this but I would like to know what you think?

And for future reference how can I tell if she is interested without making a fool out of myself?

Why would you be interested in someone whose idea of chatting you up is calling herself fat and ugly and then calls you the wrong name?
Just stay away from her

and for god's sake don't rely on bebo to find out whether she's single or not, unless you want to conduct the rest of a relationship through bebo

Fanny Cradock

Ugh, that was confusing.

It doesn't sound like the stuff of sonnets, tbh. Anyway, why not try the novel approach of chatting to her (not storming off) when you are not drunk. Crazy talk, I know :rolleyes:

K-9

wat2think wrote:

She kept on saying she was "fat" even though she was clearly not but I didnt say she wasnt cant remember what I said but I joked it aside by joking that I was fat but im not.

Looks like she wanted reassurance and some chatting up.Maybe she's not sure if you fancy her, after all you didn't make any move.

wat2think wrote:

Then I had accepted that I had missed my chance when she started talking to other lads while I was talking to one person I knew but then I heard her say "I have a boyfriend".

Haven't heard that line in ages. Unless she tells you, ignore it.

wat2think wrote:

Then I was out again a few days later and I was walking into the smoking area she was there with her friends but I didnt notice her and walked passed and she pulled me back I pretended I didnt know her name and remember it again but then she called me by my mates name and I walked away in disgust but she then did call me by my right name but I just kept on walking even though I intended walking straight back dont know why I didnt go back but I was drunk at the time.

So you both where playing games.

As Fanny Cradock said, chat to her next time and no silly games this time.

stolenwine

You said you were both drunk when you met so why would you be oversensitive when it took her a few goes to get your name right? :rolleyes:
The way you behaved when you met her the second time was rude. Next time smile say "hi nice to see you again ,actually my name is blah etc... " You could post a message to her on bebo. "Hi Its blah from the other night hows it goin? sorry when i saw you in the pub i was locked" Don't go in all guns blazing just start off slow see where it takes you, you're getting far too worked up over it!

biko

wat2think wrote:

I pretended I didnt know her name and remember it again but then she called me by my mates name and I walked away in disgust

She did the same trick as you and you walk away in disgust?
Stop playing mind games. No-one appreciates you acting immature.

Cheeky_gal

WOW! That was very confusing...

Girl seems like she has issues or very low self confidence so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt...all depends on yourself really...Don't know the girl myself only you know if shes worth it! Well....ask yourself, is she worth it?

King of Kings

dude - that story was all over the place.

Spoony2

as soem one else said low confidance, etc. i personally dont see that as a bad thing as such

yes she say's shes fat and ugly lol but majority of my friends who are chicks say the smae thing.

I dont really think its a bad thing it shows she consous of how she looks which is good.

I think next time your out and you see her walk over and say hello see how things go.

i wouldnt read into anything because after all it's all your own thuaghts which are allways influanced byw feelings which is never help full but you should at leasr give her some sort of chance.

Just talk to the girl.

LegacyUser

Then I had accepted that I had missed my chance when she started talking to other lads while I was talking to one person I knew but then I heard her say "I have a boyfriend". Fair enough nothing I can do now and just forget about it and I ended up talking to another two girls.

its highly possible that she liked you, and the guys were hitting on her so she told them 'she had a boyfriend' so they'd leave her alone, sometimes its easier to tell a guy that instead of wasting half an hour trying to get rid of him.

If you like her leave her a bebo message, appologise and ask her out or whatever. If she likes you she'll reply, if she doesn't she won't. simple.

JohnnyStones

Buy her a box of chocolates, milk tray or something similiar if that doesn't work i don't know what will.
:cool:

DublinWriter

wat2think wrote:

Then I was out again a few days later and I was walking into the smoking area she was there with her friends but I didnt notice her and walked passed and she pulled me back I pretended I didnt know her name and remember it again but then she called me by my mates name and I walked away in disgust but she then did call me by my right name but I just kept on walking even though I intended walking straight back dont know why I didnt go back but I was drunk at the time.
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And for future reference how can I tell if she is interested without making a fool out of myself?

You've already made a fool out of yourself by the sounds of it.

Forget about her and in future try dropping the head-games and be direct.

flonge

DublinWriter wrote:

You've already made a fool out of yourself by the sounds of it.

Forget about her and in future try dropping the head-games and be direct.

What do you mean by ''be direct''?