help!!!!!!!!!!!

LegacyUser

I have been with my gf for 2 years- about a month ago i reliased i didnt love her any more(wel i did but not as much as i did) and i planned on leaving her. During this time i met a Lizzy online- She lives halfway up the country , she is so amazing she listened to all my problems and gave me advice on it- i asked could we stay in touch and she said yes and we have spoken everyday since.

Anyway 2 days after i met her i went through on telling my GF it was over. Basicaly she cried and cried and begged for another chance said she would be a better gf etc so out of guilt i took her back.

Fast forward a month later im still talkin to Liz- we text each other and talk on the phone- she has the most gorgeous accent and even tho shes a heavy girl i find her stunning. She loves all the music i do- is football mad too- its like talking to a female me.We were chatting yesterday and she mentioned she had a date that night- and i felt a horrible pang of jealously- i knew i liked her but i always figured it was just a crush.

Anyway the gf and i went out last night and i spent the whole night checking my phone for messages from Liz- and by 1am i was freaking out- i didnt go near my gf once all night and all i could think of was Liz.

Fast Forward to this morning about 9pm i text her asking how her date went and she said not great he was a complete jerk etc and i was delighted. I then told her i really liked her etc- and she said she liked me too but that we are just friends cos ive a gf etc

I want her so much im crazy about her-the only reason im with my gf is outta guilt and last night i didnt go near her all night i just didnt want her near me at all. I know if i hadnt taken her back outta guilt my relationship with liz might be more than what it is now.

I dont know what to do!

Evil Phil

You have to take care of yourself. Look after number one first - I know it sounds selfish but think of it this way: You are denying both yourself and your girlfriend the opportunity of the having the best relationships you can have. Be with the woman you want to be with.

Wibbs

Ditto. I would add grow a pair and a spine for good measure and let your current girlfriend go. She deserves better than to be stuck in a relationship with someone who wants something else, as do you. Then when you're single try to start a relationship with the new woman. Take it easy and slow with the new woman too.

Cheeky_gal

Jeez you're not been very fair to your girlfriend now are ya!? You should really end things with her [before hurting her even more]...and then figure out what you plan on doin with this Lizzy one. I for one think [well if she lives halfway up the country] its gonna be a bit of a trek eh!? :rolleyes:

Rb

Ditch the fatty she'll only cause problems down the line.

MayMay

rb_ie wrote:

Ditch the fatty she'll only cause problems down the line.

Very helpful! :rolleyes:


OP first of all break up with your girlfriend, for good this time, you don't love her anymore. All the guilt in the world won't fix that. Then see where things might be able to go with Liz, see if she'll agree to meet you just as friends...best of luck.

DD

If u dont love ur gf end the relationship.
then see if theres smth with liz


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I want her so much im crazy about her-the only reason im with my gf is outta guilt and last night i didnt go near her all night i just didnt want her near me at all. I know if i hadnt taken her back outta guilt my relationship with liz might be more than what it is now.
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