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fancy a fella i work with

  • 29-09-2007 8:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have fancied a fella i work with for the past 2 years. We both work in different departments so we dont get a chance to see each other much and talk. And when we do there's loads of gossips around and they'll put 2 + 2 together and start spreading rumours. And thats the last thing i want-gossips.
    We're both fairly shy and i haven't even told him how i felt. I dont want to sound like a fool, only to be told no. I would still have to work with him.

    Whenever we do get a chance, we kinda talk but because he's a superviser he runs of working fairly quickly. He's bit of a cranky superviser thats gives out to anyone and everyone but he's very nice to me.

    I like him alot and iv been to one of those physic people. She knew alot about me even though i never even met her before. She knew i fancied him and she said that he likes me too. But she said he's the type of man that cant mix business and pleasure.

    There were a few work parties which i drunkly tried but he never gets drunk, so that never worked. And then theres people there from work watching us like a halk. So the only time we do go out are to these parties with people from work watching us - it never works. So im going to have to get him on his own but i cant ask him out. Friends has also told him that i like him but he seems to think they're joking.

    So he kinda knows i like him (but i cant tell him directly) so its really up to him.

    How do i get the courage to do something about this and how? Im beginning to give up.


Comments

  • #2
    dame
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,623 ✭✭✭dame


    No supervisor in his right mind is ever going to act when someone in work tells him theirmate fancies him. That's just totally setting him up to be a laughing stock in front of all the people he has to supervise. That would make his life a lot harder. No matter how much he'd like a person, that approach is never going to work. Besides, it's so juvenile. I think most people give up on that method of approach by the time they finish second year in secondary school.

    Could you not just ask him out seriously. What have you to loose? Just bump into him as you're leaving work or something and get chatting and ask him if he fancies a drink or a coffe or whatever. I wouldn't ask him out in work because then he's in work mode and won't want to be seen as unprofessional. Just go for it. If it works out fine, if it doesn't then you can lay it to rest and move on.

    By the way, a fortune teller is always going to say something like that. She knows young women who come in want to hear that someone out there fancies them/loves them etc. Save your money.


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    To be honest with you i have to beleive in the fortune teller thing. My Dad went to one and let me tell you my Dad is.... well, He's american, hes a Patriot, hes a bastard, and my god hes even a Republican and a Pure Skeptic. He went to a Fortune Teller and was completely spellbound - Just seeing his reactions I can tell you theres something to them: even if they're just really perceptive Psychologists or something. Described me down to a T though he refuses to let me see the transcript he wrote up after the visit.

    And wait a minute: how do YOU know thats what the lady told him? Did he tell you?

    Well, there you go. Obviously theres a spark. You have nothing to lose by taking a hop and getting on a date or something with him: the only thing in your way is the shyness and geez if you cant get past that what chance do you have?


  • #4
    jd83
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,445 ✭✭✭jd83


    just get him on his own and ask him out, if it doesnt work out at least you tried. Who cares about gossips after about a week they will be gossiping about something else and wont even remember you.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    '[QUOTE=Could you not just ask him out seriously. What have you to loose? Just bump into him as you're leaving work or something and get chatting and ask him if he fancies a drink or a coffe or whatever.

    By the way, a fortune teller is always going to say something like that. She knows young women who come in want to hear that someone out there fancies them/loves them etc. Save your money.[/QUOTE]

    I have thought of that approach of asking him out. But we work different shifts. He finishes earlier than me so i never really bump into him after work.

    And that fortune teller i went to knew i fancied a fella i work with that was higher up than me. If she was just saying the guy u fancy likes u too i probably wouldn't beleive it. But she knew i worked with him and he was higher up than me ie the supervisor. There was no way she would have known that.'


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