His ex says she is pregnant

LegacyUser

I met a guy only 3 weeks ago and we've been dating since, once or twice a week. We get on well and I do like him alot.
But last week he got a call from his ex to say she is pregnant, that it is his and she is having an abortion. He told me about it and said he didn't want it to ruin what we have started, but that he doesn't want her to abort it but she said her mind is made up. I totally respect him for that, and I know its really difficult when the woman makes that choice.
Anyway, the next day she called to say she mightnt be pregnant but that she was going to the hospital to confirm. He called her today and she told him she hasn't had time to go to hospital yet. Its been over 2 months since he was with her.
Obviously he is feeling very messed up about this, it really is out of his control, and I'm not sure what to do. I've tried to step back and give him space, but he seems to want to talk about it with me.
confused!

K-9

Dating? 3 weeks is the key. Let them sort it out first and then come back to him?

randylonghorn

ShouldIWalkAway wrote:

Anyway, the next day she called to say she mightnt be pregnant but that she was going to the hospital to confirm. He called her today and she told him she hasn't had time to go to hospital yet.

And she could be playing mind games with him ... not saying she is, in fact most likely she's not, but it is a possibility.

In any case, it probably doesn't make much difference from your point of view, at least until you know for sure. You need to step back and give yourself a bit of space. If you want to be supportive, and you feel up to it under the circumstances, fine; but you need to keep a bit of emotional distance until things become clearer, for your own sake and for his.

bigjohnny80

randylonghorn wrote:

And she could be playing mind games with him ... not saying she is, in fact most likely she's not, but it is a possibility.

In any case, it probably doesn't make much difference from your point of view, at least until you know for sure. You need to step back and give yourself a bit of space. If you want to be supportive, and you feel up to it under the circumstances, fine; but you need to keep a bit of emotional distance until things become clearer, for your own sake and for his.

couldn't have said it better. 100% concur:cool:

Marksie

Yep, whatever is happening between your b/f and the ex is between them. But it is going to cause severe disturbance alround.
You are only three weeks into it, step back and bide your time

Wibbs

randylonghorn wrote:

And she could be playing mind games with him ... not saying she is, in fact most likely she's not, but it is a possibility.

In any case, it probably doesn't make much difference from your point of view, at least until you know for sure. You need to step back and give yourself a bit of space. If you want to be supportive, and you feel up to it under the circumstances, fine; but you need to keep a bit of emotional distance until things become clearer, for your own sake and for his.

I agree with Bigjohnny80, this sums it up perfectly.

LegacyUser

'Thanks 4 the advice. Was out with him last night, and his head is wrecked with it. It is possible that she isn't even pregnant. Its a case of wait and see.
I'm going to take a back seat and see what happens.
Thanks all '

gcgirl

ShouldIWalkAway wrote:

'Thanks 4 the advice. Was out with him last night, and his head is wrecked with it. It is possible that she isn't even pregnant. Its a case of wait and see.
I'm going to take a back seat and see what happens.
Thanks all '

she is or is not pregnant ! you kind of know when you are for christ sake you can have a home test done and that tells you and i have had 3 kids and the home tests work! looks like your one is playing with his head!

AARRRGH

I'd bet money his ex is a psycho trying to mess with his head.

Good move on the "taking a back seat" decision.

Aura

The lowest any woman could sink if she is lying. Whether she is or isn't you are right to step back. It's not your mess and three weeks in he should not expect you to help him through it.