first girlfriend, first time

LegacyUser

i am 18 and she is 16. she was my best friend for over a year and she was the only person i ever talked to about possibly being bisexual. i talked to her about liking other female friends and i was the only one she ever told about once having once experimented with a girl, but both of us have only ever dated guys.
one night, two months ago, i realized that i was very much attracted to her, so i decided to make a move. needless to say, it turned out very well. i asked her to be my girlfriend just two weeks ago and she said yes.

at first we only held hands and and she cuddled up against me in bed. then we kissed. it was amazing. it was the first time we had ever done anything like that with eachother. i kept wanting to push the boundaries as i was getting nothing but good reactions. i dared to go as far as reaching my hand into her underwear and touching her, but i got scared and stopped when she just started to become excited.
it was the one and only time we had ever gone beyond kissing, but we have talked about it and she has told me that enjoyed it. very recently we started talking about taking our physical relationship further. she is very willing and i want to try to go as far as going down on her, however i am incredibly nervous. i am a virgin, but she is not. i've done lots of stuff with guys, and she has had sex with a guy, but both of us are very inexperienced when it comes to girls.
we love eachother very much, and i want her to be my first (although technically, i don't really know how that works). basically, i have so many questions about it. how do i know if i'm doing something right? what if i do something wrong? how do i perform o r a l s e x? will i be able to bring her to orgasm, even if it's just our first time?

guest

Hi there

Just so I'm honest from the outset, I'm a guy with mixed feelings about my sexuality (long story!). I was just browsing this section and came across your post. You were very courageous to tell your friend about your sexuality, and even more brave to kiss and touch her. That was the hard part!

Now that you've jumped that hurdle, it's all plain sailing. There is no right or wrong way to please her. It's all about communication, and not just of the verbal kind. I've been praised about moy oral technique, and I find it comes down to being very comfortable, relaxed, and confident. Take your time. Be playful. tease her clit with your tongue. Let her tell you what feels good and what doesn't, either by saying it or some other indication.

The fact she has had sex before only means that she is comfortable orgasming with another person present. this is good for you! Because she will have no hesitation coming. I found virgins to be timid when it came to that (no pun intended:)).

Are you concerned about technique? If you feel more comfortable discussing this stuff privately, don't hesitate to PM me. Hope I helped, and again, fair play for taking the chance and winning your lover's heart!

Boston

First off, well done. It was a big step to take in your life and its paid off for you. Secondly, about how to actually do it, your both inexperienced and half the fun you will have is discovering this together. You'll experience pleasure in ways you never though you would will learn a lot about your own body and hers.

biko

shesLOSINGit wrote:

how do i know if i'm doing something right? what if i do something wrong? how do i perform o r a l s e x? will i be able to bring her to orgasm, even if it's just our first time?

A lot of the time she will make louder noises as you get closer to the climax - mind, this is not true for every single girl out there. Some are less noisy than others. Really, just picture what you would like to have done to you and then do that to her.
Don't be discouraged if it takes a long time for her to come or not at all.
Part of the sex experience is to slowly find out what gives the other person pleasure, sometimes this takes weeks.
If you both can, shower first so you are fresh.

shesLOSINGit

wow, thank you all so much. it happened (many times ^.^) and it was the most amazing experience we've had together. i didnt even have to think about it, i just went with it and it felt so adventurous. in the moment i didnt think about techniques or what i was doing wrong or anything like that. it was so perfect. ^_^

Boston

ashkells@hotmai

Ah yes, the old conundrum.
Ok, first of all, I don't think you have anything to worry about. She is as inexperienced as you are in the girl department. Take it as a learning experience for both of you. Get to know each other's likes and dislikes- communication is the key.

And chances are what you like, she'll like. Thats the way it was with my first. Just relax and be open and honest with each other. It may be scary the first time but just do what you're both comfortable with- in no time you'll be swingin from the chandeliers!

Good luck x

buzz

shesLOSINGit wrote: »

wow, thank you all so much. it happened (many times ^.^) and it was the most amazing experience we've had together. i didnt even have to think about it, i just went with it and it felt so adventurous. in the moment i didnt think about techniques or what i was doing wrong or anything like that. it was so perfect. ^_^

Congrats!!!

LegacyUser

shesLOSINGit wrote: »

i am 18 and she is 16. she was my best friend for over a year...

I had the same thing at the start of my now 2year relationship with my girlfriend. How do you know you are doing something right? You don't, because everyone is different, likes different things.

My simple advice to you is to see ehow.com check their relationships section, in which is their dating section where you can read how to perform oral sex on a woman.
After that, try it, take your time but don't be afraid to be creative! And above all, if you want to give yourselves the best possible chance to stay together long term, talk. Talk about how it was, what she did and didn't like, talk about everything. Good luck, and remember, it's for you to enjoy as well!