want to give oral sex

LegacyUser

been seeing a guy i really like for a while now and things are getting further and further in the bedroom department....thing is i've had sex before, with a few guys but i've never given them oral sex...in a way even though i've had a few partners i still think i'm quite inexperienced...but with this guy who i really like i want to return the favour so to speak....but it's always something that i've been uncertain about. i have so many things going on in my head....like does he have to be hard for me to do it or can i just "surprise" him with it...so many questions...even if there's any links to advice on how to do i would really appreciate it, i feel like a 16 year old asking this but it's been on my mind for a while and i'd just like to be able to pleasure him the way he does for me.

i hope this doesn't sound like someone messing, i'm not. any info or links etc would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

cornbb

unsure80 wrote:

been seeing a guy i really like for a while now and things are getting further and further in the bedroom department....thing is i've had sex before, with a few guys but i've never given them oral sex...in a way even though i've had a few partners i still think i'm quite inexperienced...but with this guy who i really like i want to return the favour so to speak....but it's always something that i've been uncertain about. i have so many things going on in my head....like does he have to be hard for me to do it or can i just "surprise" him with it...so many questions...even if there's any links to advice on how to do i would really appreciate it, i feel like a 16 year old asking this but it's been on my mind for a while and i'd just like to be able to pleasure him the way he does for me.

i hope this doesn't sound like someone messing, i'm not. any info or links etc would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

Just go for it. Its not something you can get good at by following a number of bullet points. Can't speak for all guys but I reckon he'd like to be asked to show you how to do it. Also try to gauge his reactions to the various things you do (e.g. whether you're apply lots of pressure or a little, using lips or tongue etc) and use that as feedback so you can keep doing what he likes best. Of course, some variety is good too.

And no, it doesn't have to be hard for you to get started but once you do it won't be flaccid for long!

bronte

You don't sound like you're messing!
It is intimidating the first time.
You can definitely surprise him alright, i've found that works well in the past.
Just do what ever comes naturally to you..try to stay relaxed and enjoy the experience.
It's a very intimate act, and trust is required from both people.
You'll grow to enjoy it...with a bit of practise

Kell

unsure80 wrote:

i hope this doesn't sound like someone messing, i'm not. any info or links etc would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

I have a rule of thumb for everythin in the bedroom which goes "what would I like someone to do for me" then I apply it to them.

So, as a female, I am sure you quite enjoy your clitoris being gently stroked and licked, sometimes hard sometime soft, sometimes fast, sometimes slow. Now, apply this rationale to your BF's general and you are on your way to giving good head.

You may wish to take all of him into your mouth quite deeply and suck quite hard at this point, which is a personal favourite, however for the less experienced, you may find yourself gagging, so be wary. Oh, and careful with your teeth, specially round the tip. We are quite sensitive here, which leads me onto my next point. Quite a lot of attention should be paid to the top side of the head and just below the eye, a little back from the tip. Mega sensitive areas you see.

Enjoy.

K-

Bottle_of_Smoke

Once you don't use your teeth you can't really go wrong

Marksie

Can you get access to the S+S forum OP. Its covered there comprehensively.

But take it easy. Forget the Pron video stuff. If you tell your bfriend thaht this is your first time, he is likely to be chuffed. If you ask him what he likes then be guided by that.

Use your hand as well on the shaft, in that way any nervousness about taking it all in can be circumvented.
Take its very slow and easy in the movements initially and concenrate on the head. Use the tongue to lick and tease. And start with very slow movements allow it to build from there.
If you have asked before hand for your bf input it will help.

It doesnt necessaarily have to be hard, but will harden. In surpriseing, well it can be very nice to build anticipation by gently kissing and moving to that region. Giving the signals and building to it

patrickolee

Agree with most of what has been said already. Would add that after telling him that this is your first time doing this, ask him to guide you through the process telling what's good and what's not. Different people like different things... but it's generally true that most people don't like teeth in the equation. Good luck with it, sounds like you are ready to take the plunge :-)
Enjoy.

matt-dublin

quick pointers?

go for it! surprise him...
watch your teeth, suck it like its a giant chupa chubb lollipop!
swallow!

after that practise makes perfect, and ask him what he likes!

cance

avoid teeth and you wont have problems.

Men love eagerness

LegacyUser

'thanks everyone for your help, really appreciate it.'

Maynooth

I think he'd be more chuffed than anything that this will be your first time to be honest.

Anti

cance wrote:

avoid teeth and you wont have problems.

Men love eagerness

For the love of jesus, no teeth. None at all, dont even think of trying a cute nibble, or a little chew. It just dosent work. Deepthroat is where its at, but it might take you a few months to get to that part of giving head.

Pinker

If your still unsure I can give you some private tuition, and a safe place to practice until you have perfected the art.:)

slemons

watch j€nna jam€son p0rn. the best c0ck svcker of all time...
teeth, if you know how to use them, can be UNREAL.

Beruthiel

Pinker wrote:

If your still unsure I can give you some private tuition, and a safe place to practice until you have perfected the art.:)

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Strings

"Can you get access to the S+S forum OP. Its covered there comprehensively"
How does one get in here, i know off the point, iam refused access here to s+s

randomname2005

Strings wrote:

"Can you get access to the S+S forum OP. Its covered there comprehensively"
How does one get in here, i know off the point, iam refused access here to s+s

You have to be a subscriber, not just a registered user

Maynooth

How much is it to subscribe?

pretty-in-pink

Swirl your tounge around it, massage it with your tounge, alternate depth, keep some hand contact (keep them warm, cold hands == no) on the base and balls area, don't use your teeth- but if it gentlely rubs off the edge, you'd be surprised how guys eem to like it. Treat it like an ice-cream cone, licking etc. trail your tounge up the shaft, from "root" to "tip". its all a bit of fun. don't swallow if you don't want to. thats personnal choice, and you may not want to , you may use a condom.

*public boards- use protection

although, probably put it in your mouth and suck and most guys will be happy.

Talliesin

unsure80 wrote:

been seeing a guy i really like for a while now and things are getting further and further in the bedroom department....thing is i've had sex before, with a few guys but i've never given them oral sex...in a way even though i've had a few partners i still think i'm quite inexperienced.

[post=52303278]Something I've said on this before[/post] (it in turn refers to another post I made further up on the same page).

unsure80 wrote:

like does he have to be hard for me to do it or can i just "surprise" him with it.

It can be very good fun to start off on a soft penis. They tend not to remain soft for too long though

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote:

Once you don't use your teeth you can't really go wrong

Depends on him, and on what you do with them. Even for those who don't like nibbling a certain al dente pressure can be pretty darn intense.

pretty-in-pink wrote:

keep some hand contact (keep them warm, cold hands == no)

Cold hands == ooohhh! They just need to be used differently; a shock of cold followed by warmth from a mouth on the same area is a good contrast.

LegacyUser

thank you talliesen for that link. the swallow part is another issue for me....i'm scared i'm going to vomit....does the taste really vary that much? is it very unpleasant? i know i'm looking in to this too much and should just go for it but it's nervewracking for me.

pretty-in-pink

Talliesin wrote:

Depends on him, and on what you do with them. Even for those who don't like nibbling a certain al dente pressure can be pretty darn intense.

yup, this appears to be true. nice to see a guy confirm it

Talliesin wrote:

Cold hands == ooohhh! They just need to be used differently; a shock of cold followed by warmth from a mouth on the same area is a good contrast.

really? like the ice thing? or the ice-cream thing? or the champagne thing? interesting

Talliesin

unsure80 wrote:

the swallow part is another issue for me....i'm scared i'm going to vomit....does the taste really vary that much? is it very unpleasant? i know i'm looking in to this too much and should just go for it but it's nervewracking for me.

Well, don't swallow the first time.

Myself, I think it tastes okay; nowhere near as nice as women taste, but still okay.

But start with doing it a bit but not until the point of orgasm. Get yourself a bit more comfortable.

Then try spitting (though actually if you don't like the taste then just swallowing it quickly will be easier - less contact with less parts of the tongue), and then work up to swallowing if you want to.

Tasting it after manual sex isn't a bad idea either, but do it while it's still warm as you're more likely to dislike the taste if it cools.

pretty-in-pink wrote:

really? like the ice thing? or the ice-cream thing? or the champagne thing? interesting

That's good too, but a bit more extreme so a bit more likely to not go down as well.

It's all worth experimenting with.

pretty-in-pink

unsure80 wrote:

thank you talliesen for that link. the swallow part is another issue for me....i'm scared i'm going to vomit....does the taste really vary that much? is it very unpleasant? i know i'm looking in to this too much and should just go for it but it's nervewracking for me.

don't swallow if you don't want to. it's probably easier to though, and drink coke or something after (or kiss him, if its good enough for you.....)

as for taste.....none really, hygiene dependant, but pretty flavourless. a bit syrupy though.

Piste

If you swallow it'll be out of your mouth quicker and will taste less, you can always keep a glass of water by the bedside and knock that back to get rid of any of the last remaining taste in your mouth (I don't find the taste lasts though and you mighten't either)

Dudess

Kell wrote:

I have a rule of thumb for everythin in the bedroom which goes "what would I like someone to do for me" then I apply it to them.

So, as a female, I am sure you quite enjoy your clitoris being gently stroked and licked, sometimes hard sometime soft, sometimes fast, sometimes slow. Now, apply this rationale to your BF's general and you are on your way to giving good head.

Exactly what I was gonna say. Use the tip of your tongue very lightly up and down initially and he will go effing ballistic!

As for concerns about swallowing, if you get the timing right you can remove your mouth just before the... eh... "event" happens! This doesn't always work out though. But don't worry a bit about it - just pretend you're drinking soup! It won't do you any harm and it's actually the easier and more convenient option!

LegacyUser

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Dudess wrote:

Exactly what I was gonna say. Use the tip of your tongue very lightly up and down initially and he will go effing ballistic!

As for concerns about swallowing, if you get the timing right you can remove your mouth just before the... eh... "event" happens! This doesn't always work out though. But don't worry a bit about it - just pretend you're drinking soup! It won't do you any harm and it's actually the easier and more convenient option!

always thought it was salty?'

Dudess

Well some soups are salty!

What I'm saying is: don't worry about swallowing it, and if you don't like the idea, pretend it's something else!

tSubh Dearg

It is true though that it can taste like what he has been eating that day.

Worst experience for me was when it tasted of curry chips, I thought I was going to throw up, as I couldn't eat them anyway let alone second hand so to speak.

I find having a glass of water to hand helps matters both for swallowing but also a mouthful of cold water on a hot bosy part can be a little bit thrilling. But that's really something you add to your repetoire after you get the hang of the basics.

I like to think of myself as enjoing a particularly slow and sensuous kiss with a particularly large tongue. Use the same kind of moves you would then.

Don't forget that you have hands and these can be used to massage his balls or the base while you're working on the tip.

jawlie

Every guy likes his cock sucked in a different way, and it's no good guessing how a guy likes it done. They like a change in tempo at different times, and like all sorts of different ways to be fellated.

The best advice I can think of is to tell him you are nervous, and not used to doing it, and tell him to guide you and tell you what to do as you want to do it in a way that will be most pleasurable for him. That way he can also teach you slowly how to deep throat him and if his cock is in this position when he cums, you will hardly notice any taste or texture!

Also tell him you are nervous of him ejaculating in your mouth and get him to tell you when he is about to shoot, so you can decide then if you want to pull away and let him shoot into the air, or if, in fact, you want to experience him doing it in your mouth.

Communication makes for the best sex, so discuss and talk to him about it, and not to strangers on here who don't know how he will like it.

milkerman

Bearing in mind the topic of conversation, I am pleasantly surprised there has been only one smart-ass remark resulting in a kicking.

OP- If you want to try a BJ I am sure your bf will be more than happy to experiment with you. Just watch his reactions and you wont go wrong.

AckwelFoley

Just go for it.

What ever you do dorn scratch the tips of your nails of the top of his penis like i had a girl do to me once. My screams were what she thought was enjoyment.

It took me a while to let a woman near me again. About 3 days.

Dudess

OP, the general gist is: there's no right or wrong way - just deliver it the way you want to. As pointed out, there are lots of things you can do - try whatever you're happy with.

Dodge

Dudess wrote:

OP, the general gist is: there's no right or wrong way - just deliver it the way you want to. As pointed out, there are lots of things you can do - try whatever you're happy with.

Or try a few things you're comfortable with and see whatever he likes. And as its his first one from you, I'm sure he'll be more than happy. its only after sometime that you'll know exactly what sets him off, and when to do it.

my only tip would be to use your hands and to seem interestied in what you're doing. Don't let him think you don't want to be doing it.

txt_mess

Just to make the experience better for you make sure he washes down there as it can get a little cheesey depends on your bf hygiene but I always got positive comments by how fresh I was ( back in the single days ).

Maybe try it after a shower or something.

po0k

Start in the shower.
Spend time cleaning each other.
Then take it to the bed.

LegacyUser

thanks very much for all your help and advice guys....i know i'm getting worked up about nothing but doing anything for the first time is a big deal....tonight's the night (i'm sure ye all really needed to know that ha ha)...no seriously though thanks for that, i'm a lot more relaxed about it and not so freaked out now, appreciate it, thanks!

AckwelFoley

Well when you make him climax and he asks where you learned your tricks, dont tell him it was on boards.ie !!!

Good luck.

We'll be thinking of you..erm... not!