Sound family advice needed!

LegacyUser

So, to begin, My brother and I are twins and both just left college. As for me, I am starting to look for my first job now and already murmurs are arising of me starting to chip in something for the bills at the end of each month. Something that obviously is only fair.

The problem is that my twin brother started his first real job already while in college and never offered or was asked to pay anything. Although the job was taken during college in a placement period built into the degree, the job wasn’t an internship and he wasn’t an intern but a normal employee. The job was in a stockbrokers and he got well paid for someone who hadn’t even graduated yet and he had absolutely zero financial commitments on his shoulders either . He was on 24k at first, which then went up to 27k when he came home one day boasting about a 12% pay increase. The job lasted 10 months before he went back to do his final year. During that time he treated himself to 120 euro French silk ties, solid silver company card holders, 100 euro cufflinks, 150 euro shirts and at one stage a 600 suit. To put it simply - He is a very vain, arrogant and selfish guy who only cares about his ‘image’. Added on top of that, he went (and continues to go) to only the trendiest (and of coarse most expensive) places in Dublin with his other stock broking friends.

He further continued to work his college part time job all day weekends for the first three months while he was in the stockbrokers (another well paid job at that btw) meaning he was working 7 full days a week for a large streak simply out of choice.

Your probably wondering why firstly I allowed him to get away with murder without saying anything and secondly why our parents don’t see the colossal injustice towards their other son and also to themselves for allowing themselves to be used and used.

As regards me, I was away studying abroad as part of college when all this was going on and it was all out of my hands. As for the parental situation – our mother is a lone parent (a not particularly wealthy one at that) who fails to see reality through a normal persons eyes. She has a ‘beaten wife’ attitude to the all. She sees what is going on but chooses not to acknowledge let alone put a stop to it.

My Mam is a lost cause, as she will just do all to avoid confronting the selfish playboy son that is living under her roof. While arguing with the guy himself is fruitless. Believe me I have tried. The guy will not give a moment of his time, money or effort for anything other than is own gain.

So what would to do?

sweet-rasmus

it's tough, but sounds like what my brother was like. it took my mum many attempts, but she kicked my bro out. he wasn't contributing or helping out at home. i know it's a leap, but your brother will never have his conscience start wanting to help out at home, especially if he hasn't helped by now. Good luck!

oh, and i know how you feel having to be his twin and to compare how you are treated. my twin sister has very little of a consicence in helping out at home, but may do a little bit of house work when it suits her, the odd odd day. she at least contributes some of what she earns every week.