friend's sister

kev_s88

is there any easy way to get with a mate's sister even though he is over-protective and threatens to "kill" anyone who goes near her???

Jesus Wept

lol!!! behind his back?

Post of the day sir!

Knockoff Nige

Is it worth it?

Tar.Aldarion

Yes, court her.


What does getting people drunk do?

LegacyUser

How friendly are you with this guy?Has she tried it on with you?(no point in going for it if you don't even know if shes into you). It is worth ruinning a good friendship over? Need more info OP

Nevyn

The-Rigger, behave.

kev_s88

were pretty good friends.at a party in his over the weekend and his little sister(drunk) starts making a move.shes pretty cool and all but its so difficult!!!

Mr. Incognito

How old is everyone involved?

If she's under 18- he's entitled to mind her. After that..............

Tar.Aldarion

I have a feeling she is, if you really like her, go for it, if it won't ruin that guys friendship with you. Assuming you care about it.

boardinwork

Ha Ha Ha Love It!!!

Nevyn

boardinworkoff topic and unhelpful posts will get you banned from this forum
read the rules in the charter and abide by them while posting.

Thaedydal

dade

in my circle of friends a sister is a no go area. (not that it stopped me)

is he the approachable type? i mean would he kick lumps out of ya for even bringing up the subject? I know one friend of mine was none too happy with me and it was his older sister never mind his younger one.

her being drunk and making a move is one thing but is that all it is? and like the others have said is it worth loosing the friendship over, especially if you are both young and it may phase out after a while.

milkerman

This sounds like something you would hear in a school playground. I sincerely hope that we are not discussing adults over the age of 18.
If we are dealing with adults, tell your friend to wise up and tell him you are going to ask out his sister. If he says no, just remind him that you are asking his sister out and not him.

someothername

i have a feeling this is regarding under 18s?
id stay clear if i was you.....
esp if you are over 18 and she is under.
all friends sisters are off limits in my circle of friends...

tbh

don't go behind your mates back. Obviously he'll find out.
How do you really feel about his sister? If you talk to your mate, and assure him that you really like his sister and don't just want to nail her and forget her, I don't see how he can have a problem with - he'll probably respect you for being straight with him - just the type of chap he wants for his sister I'd say. If you are straight with him, and he still says no, you'll just have to choose which one you want more.

tbh

milkerman wrote:

This sounds like something you would hear in a school playground. I sincerely hope that we are not discussing adults over the age of 18.
If we are dealing with adults, tell your friend to wise up and tell him you are going to ask out his sister. If he says no, just remind him that you are asking his sister out and not him.

it's not that he thinks he needs his mates permission, he just doesn't want to upset his mate - which is spot on IMO. and quite the opposite of what you'd find in the school yard, to be fair.

Rozabeez

Pfft, it's not upto the mate, it's upto the sister.

Knockoff Nige

tbh wrote:

don't go behind your mates back. Obviously he'll find out.
How do you really feel about his sister? If you talk to your mate, and assure him that you really like his sister and don't just want to nail her and forget her, I don't see how he can have a problem with - he'll probably respect you for being straight with him - just the type of chap he wants for his sister I'd say. If you are straight with him, and he still says no, you'll just have to choose which one you want more.

I doubt he'd even want them together after that. The whole point about your mates not going out with your sister is so that your sister isnt hanging around with you all the time. Thats not just a playgroudn thing, its for all ages. Each of my siblings have their own life and space. We feel its best to keep it this way. However, we all talk to each other and can socialise. But theres no need to have each other constantly in our faces. We all had enough of that when we were growing up from babies.

tbh

I take your point, but it's different for everyone. My sis is one of my best friends.

dade

Knockoff Nige wrote:

... The whole point about your mates not going out with your sister is so that your sister isn't hanging around with you all the time.

in my case his sister was in our group of friends, it was considered a no go for the awkwardness if things went pear shaped. especially if it was a nasty breakup he'd be caught in the middle. and now that i think of it there where some times when things where bad between me and him over it.

OP what ages are you guys anyway?

Knockoff Nige

dade wrote:

in my case his sister was in our group of friends, it was considered a no go for the awkwardness if things went pear shaped. especially if it was a nasty breakup he'd be caught in the middle. and now that i think of it there where some times when things where bad between me and him over it.

OP what ages are you guys anyway?

Well then there you go. Not really fasir on 'the brother' to be put in the middle like that. And it will happen. He'llprobably end up relaying love letters. (yeah ok that is playgorund stuff)

jimd2

It depends whether you want to let the little head or the big head rule. You know the chinese saying " man with straight d**k does not think as straight as D**k"

biko

It's tricky. If you break her heart her brother is going to batter you, and your friends may agree with him.

Talliesin

Date her. Tell your mate to grow some cop-on.

milkerman

I suppose its normal for brothers to be protective of sisters to some extent.

TBH - Do you 'vet' your sisters boyfriends? If so, does she agree with this and what criteria do you apply?

My sister would cut my three-piece-suite off if I interfered in any way in her choice of male company.

OP- If your friend is adult he must realise that his sister might be hurt in relationships. He must also know the deeper hurt caused by his INTERFERENCE. After all, you could be the one for her - Engagement, marriage, mortgage, carloan, sprogs etc.

tbh

no I don't, but if I thought someone she was going out with was a dick, I'd say it. If she wanted to go out with him, nothing to do with me...

Anti

Ah the forbidden fruit. Go for it and tap that ass!

Just tell your mate you want to be with his sister, he should appreciate your honesty.

milkerman

TBH - Well we have agreement on one thing, we have no right to limit the relationships of our siblings for whatever reasons (presuming they are adult).

I once told my sister her husband was a dick head, she didnt speak to me for a long time. Problem is, HE IS A DICK HEAD, but to have any sort of contact with Sis I just have to bite my lip and put up with that Knob in family gatherings. TG for digital photos, it will make it easier to airbrush out the b***stard when she wises up.:D

tbh

lol, thank god for technology FWIW I think you played it the right way - all you can do is say your thing and leave them make their own decisions.