Debs concern

estebancambias

After reading Naikon's post, this really means nothing, but anyway, I was asked to the Debs last week, but my problem is I could not give a crap about it. I hate things like this, they don't interest me. I'm not the sort of person to wear a god Damn 'tux'. I hate alcohol, and refuse to purchase alcohol even if it is for somebody else.

I'm consigned to going now, but my question is how can I make the night go quick, and hassle free? I'm a nice guy, but I don't like conversing in certain environments, namely a debs. I did not go to my 'pre debs(what the hell is the purpose?)

Oryx

Silly question maybe, but why agree to go in the first place? As for making the night go, if youve resigned yourself to going, why not resign yourself to having as good a time as possible? Even if you simply decide to make sure your date has as good a time as possible you might find the night is not as bad as you expected. Seeing as youll be there, you might as well 'converse' even if it is banal. If all else fails, people watch.

estebancambias

Hhahah good aul' wikihow. Ktk good question, but honestly I am too nice(or not assertive).

cowzerp

estebancambias wrote:

After reading Naikon's post, this really means nothing, but anyway, I was asked to the Debs last week, but my problem is I could not give a crap about it. I hate things like this, they don't interest me. I'm not the sort of person to wear a god Damn 'tux'. I hate alcohol, and refuse to purchase alcohol even if it is for somebody else.

I'm consigned to going now, but my question is how can I make the night go quick, and hassle free? I'm a nice guy, but I don't like conversing in certain environments, namely a debs. I did not go to my 'pre debs(what the hell is the purpose?)

Get drunk and have a good time.
actually dont go as i'd say your date will be mortified by you moping about while she's trying to have a good time-poor thing.

Talliesin

estebancambias wrote:

I'm not the sort of person to wear a god Damn 'tux'.

Wear full formal dress instead then.

Really. You're problem comes down to a lack of balls.

If you had any balls you'd have either said no or put up with it for the sake of your date.

Just take comfort in the fact that you've got nothing to complain about apart from being invited to a ball.

Firetrap

As my dad has been known to say "You burnt your arse, go sit on the blister". If you didn't want to go to the debs, you should have said no to your date.

Now that you've agreed to go, you'll have to grin and bear it. It might be a valuable life experience for you. I think most people here have ended up having to go to things we really didn't want to go to but we made the best of it. Sitting around all night with a sulky face isn't going to make you any happier and it sure as hell isn't going to do much for your date. TBH I feel sorry for the girl.

How about you make an effort to talk to the people around you? They're clearly intellectually inferior to yourself but you really should try slumming it sometime and talking to people who have the IQ of a shrub.

If you stopped thinking about what a crap time you're having and try to see the good in the evening, it might not be so painful. It's only a few hours for Chrissakes, not a life sentence.

the_syco

estebancambias wrote:

I'm not the sort of person to wear a god Damn 'tux'.

One of the boys came dressed in a suit that looked like Mr Evil, from Austin Powers. It wasn't a cheap costume, but an impressive looking piece.

estebancambias wrote:

I hate alcohol, and refuse to purchase alcohol even if it is for somebody else.

There's always one. Buy an OJ, and chill

Are you a)deeply religous, b)born again christain, c) ex-alcoholic d)from a family with an alcoholic, or e) haven't tried it, as your friends can't handle their drink, so you don't want to be seen like them? I'm trying to fantom your hate of drink.

jhegarty

estebancambias wrote:

I hate alcohol, and refuse to purchase alcohol even if it is for somebody else.

What the big deal... I don't drink , so I go to the bar and ask for a coke... problem solved....

dermo88

Give him a break if he does'nt like alcohol. Its a bloody good move, over the course of a lifetime not consuming the stuff is the price of a house. Granted I do drink a fair amount myself.

If he knows theres going to drunkeness there, and a complete lack of common sense, then he won't enjoy it. Whats the point.

the_syco

dermo88 wrote:

Give him a break if he does'nt like alcohol. Its a bloody good move, over the course of a lifetime not consuming the stuff is the price of a house. Granted I do drink a fair amount myself.

If he knows theres going to drunkeness there, and a complete lack of common sense, then he won't enjoy it. Whats the point.

Not drinking alcohol is cool. Having a hang up about it, is not cool, esp if he goes to the debs. My fear is he'll annoy one of the drunks, and get a box.

The one person I know who didn't enjoy see his friends drunk, and who didn't drink, in my year, didn't go.

~nop~

Pity whoever's going to be stuck with you for the night.

Don't go, you'll just put a dampner on everyone elses mood

00112984

~nop~ wrote:

Pity whoever's going to be stuck with you for the night.

Don't go, you'll just put a dampner on everyone elses mood

I agree. It's lousy to agree to go with someone and have then intention, from the start, of not enjoying yourself. You'll ruin her night.

tyranis

if you didnt want to go you shouldnt have said yes, but now you have said yes you have to go and try your best to enjoy it for her sake!! bare in mind its her night like and shes going to be really excited and nervous about it and having you moping around may just wreck it for her so at least have the respect to put on a brave face and bare it

Red Alert

This all stems from a hang-up about alcohol - the not wanting to purchase alcohol looks a bit odd, presumably you'd allow someone buy you a 7 UP? I drink, although not a lot any more, and plenty of nights I don't drink at all - regardless I have a great time people watching.

Do you like being on a dancefloor btw?

January

You shouldn't have agreed to go if you have no intention of having a good time. It happened to me and I ended up having a horrible night.

He moaned about ordering the tux, even though I said he should wear a suit. He moaned about the limo ride to the hotel, he moaned about the people, he wandered off a couple of times and I had to go looking for him and then he moaned all the way back up on the bus. All in all, my memories of my debs aren't brilliant, but they're still good because my friends were there.

Tell the girl you can't go if you really don't want to go. Tell her that she'd be better off taking someone who will enjoy the night with her and do it before the Debs creeps up on you.

estebancambias

In the words of Tom DeLonge, I think it's lame to dance. I might fake food poisoning and tell her I have to go to the hospital.

I'm in the lucky position that the location is pretty much near me. I need to buy a ps3 shortly, I cannot be wasting money on wasteful discretions.

6ix

You seem like a nice guy. :rolleyes:

Leaving halfway through is a sh1tty thing to do, so at least have the balls to tell her you can't go in advance, and give her some time to prepare.

Agent Smith

estebancambias wrote:

In the words of Tom DeLonge, I think it's lame to dance. I might fake food poisoning and tell her I have to go to the hospital.

I'm in the lucky position that the location is pretty much near me. I need to buy a ps3 shortly, I cannot be wasting money on wasteful discretions.

you do know that many girls use this as a Practice run for there wedding, right.


so you dont drink, ok, dont spend money on drink.
the idea that you put yourself before anyone else, is quite sickening, tbh.

Grow a pair, get a tux ( like, 50 euro) and bring the girl.
and cop the feck on

cooker3

estebancambias wrote:

After reading Naikon's post, this really means nothing, but anyway, I was asked to the Debs last week, but my problem is I could not give a crap about it. I hate things like this, they don't interest me. I'm not the sort of person to wear a god Damn 'tux'. I hate alcohol, and refuse to purchase alcohol even if it is for somebody else.

I'm consigned to going now, but my question is how can I make the night go quick, and hassle free? I'm a nice guy, but I don't like conversing in certain environments, namely a debs. I did not go to my 'pre debs(what the hell is the purpose?)

I haven't read the replies to this but just don't go if you don't want. I didn't go to my debs for pretty much the above reasons, everyone including my parents saying I would regret and you have to go blah blah blah.
I didn't go, glad I didn't go and never regretted it since.

You will clearly not enjoy it if nothing else just because you'll want to prove yourself right so just don't go, it's that easy

PeakOutput

dude you sound like a selfish self righteous **** the girl was nice enough to ask you to her debs DO NOT back out in anyway shape or form as this ruins HER night. go to the debs drink whatever you want let her drink whatever she wants BUY HER A DRINK if she wants it and get on with having a good night out or at least get on with making sure SHE has a good night out.

time to grow up me thinks

Hairspray

Do the girl a favour ,dont go you are only going to be a dampner.Let her bring someone else who will enjoy it and make her night special for her.You sound like you'd be as much fun at the debs as a dieter at a restaurant...not very!Its an honour to be asked to a girls debs and you should treat it with that sort of respect.So in conclusion do the girl a favour and DONT GO!Stay at home with your little games and act like the baby you are!

cooker3

PeakOutput wrote:

dude you sound like a selfish self righteous **** the girl was nice enough to ask you to her debs DO NOT back out in anyway shape or form as this ruins HER night. go to the debs drink whatever you want let her drink whatever she wants BUY HER A DRINK if she wants it and get on with having a good night out or at least get on with making sure SHE has a good night out.

time to grow up me thinks

Tbh, I think it would be better for her that he didn't go. He is more likely to ruin it for her and or least not make it as special as she would like. She can then also someone else who may give a s*it about the event

the_syco

cooker3 wrote:

Tbh, I think it would be better for her that he didn't go. He is more likely to ruin it for her and or least not make it as special as she would like. She can then also someone else who may give a s*it about the event

Agreed. Have the balls to say it beforehand, or she'll have a sh|t time.

If you have any sort of hangup about alcohol, or having a good time, a debs is the worst place to be. At a debs, the entire point will be to drink as much as possible, and to enjoy ones self.

Oh, and running out in the middle of the debs will ruin her entire night. Say it beforehand that you're not going. No or's, if's, & but's.

OS119

just don't go, one of the many joys of adult life is deciding how you wish to spend your time.

personally, i can't stand any such events - graduation ceremonies, balls, weddings, all that stuff. so i just don't go - i spend the cash on really nice wedding presents so people don't get offended, and i get to live my life in the way i choose while keeping my friends.

the problem you have is the girl, if you go you'll just piss her off by being a right git all night, if you don't go you'll give her the hassle of finding a new 'date' or worse, turning up all on her lonesome.

simple solution, tell her the problem - though dress it up by saying that its just not something you fancy and apologise for messing her around - and offer instead to take her out on the same evening to something rather more grown-up than a bunch of school kids in badly fitted suits getting half-cut on smuggled-in White Lightning and letching at equally half-cut schoolgirls.

take her out to dinner, go to the Theatre/Opera/Ballet, be an absolute gentleman, be interesting and interested, and leave it at that.

such events are about the movement from childhood into adulthood - therefore should you - and your date - not ambrace the 'adult' bit - self-determination, consideration for others, intelligent conversation, new experiences (ballet, restaruants, theatre etc.. not sticking your hand in her knickers!), instead if the 'child-like' bit - going where you are told, dressing in the way you are told and hanging around in big gangs of people you can't stand doing things you aren't interested in?

in my short life - ok, maybe not that short - i've avoided all three of my Graduation Ceremonies, my Commisioning Ball, and all - bar my own - of the weddings i've been invited to and its done me no harm at all, i am still close friends with the people i went to university with - 15 years ago - and all the people who've invited me to the weddings i don't attend.

people don't dislike people who don't take part in such things, indeed by and large they respect them, what people don't like is moping, grumpy gits who spoil it for everyone else, and people who pull out at the last minute and fcuk people around.