Sex/relationship counselling?

LegacyUser

I'm a 25 year old women who completly sucks at relationships. Ive completly screwed up any good relationship Ive ever had due to insecurities that I had from my first serious relationship when I was 19.
At this stage I really think I need some sort of intimacy/relationship type counselling to help me let go of past hurts and learn to let someone in again.

I just wanted to know If anyone knew of any good counselling services in the Dublin region that foccuses on relationships?Ive been to a psychologist before but found it uncomfortanble opening up to her so Id like someone who deals specifically in the area of relationships.

Marksie

Have a look at the charter in the sticky above.

I suspect that you might fnd it difficult to open to them as well. But good luck, at least you can point to a cause and know its within you that the issue lies.

may i ask: did you leave the psychologist or that person recommend that you see someone else?

LegacyUser

Marksie wrote:

may i ask: did you leave the psychologist or that person recommend that you see someone else?

I left because except for men/relationships/sex everything else in my life is perfect.
In general most pschologists are trained in cognitive behavioural therapy and I dont need this. I want someone with a specific intrest and expertise in relationships etc.I cant see anyone like this in the websites in the charter.

Marksie

intamacy issues wrote:

I left because except for men/relationships/sex everything else in my life is perfect.
In general most pschologists are trained in cognitive behavioural therapy and I dont need this. I want someone with a specific intrest and expertise in relationships etc.I cant see anyone like this in the websites in the charter.

I see.
Ok well as to your query

The IACP is a general one for counselling, you may find more specific ones through that.

Other than that i suggest you google s*x therapists or similar keyword.

best of luck

qwertyphobia

Have heard good feedback for Marriage & Relationship Counselling Services http://www.mrcs.ie/

and counselling may be more up your street then pyschology

Marksie

qwertyphobia wrote:

Have heard good feedback for Marriage & Relationship Counselling Services http://www.mrcs.ie/

and counselling may be more up your street then pyschology

I have just added it to the sticky. Thanks

Villaricos

I cant reccomend a counsellor for your specific query but I jsut wanted to let you know you are on the right track with seeing a counsellor rather than psychologist.
Seeing a counsellor, as daunting and nerve wracking a sthe first session is, can sometimes end up just a good time and place to talk everything out. Im a big believer in the power of talking.

Make sure you're totally comfortable with the person, if you dont bond with your counsellor move on, they wont mind, its a very personal thing and to get the benefit you gotta connect with the person.

good luck

LegacyUser

I dont know what advice I can give, but speaking from personal experience, and messging up as I have done in the past, for diffrent reasons. I happened to bump into an ex g/f, whom I did care about but ran her off me.
Things started to work out (married 2 years now), luckily I had very strong feelings for her, so it was like a second chance.
I thought i needed to see someone, when infact I just needed to be open. So if you have a friend, chat to her/him, if there was an ex in the past whom you cared for alot, ring him up, send a txt, send a mail. Perhaps you may find that second chances do work, or from having a good chat with someone close, may be the next best thing.
Chin up little one....

DawnMc

Hi,
There are a great deal of psychotherapists who deal specifically with relationship problems. Go to the IACP website - www.irish-counselling.ie Ring them up and tell them you're looking for a psychotherapist who deals primarily with relationship problems. They will give you some numbers. I strongly suggest you try a FEW so you will find a psychotherapist who you can build up a good reppoir with. Best of luck

flybynight

intimacy issues wrote:

I'm a 25 year old women who completly sucks at relationships. Ive completly screwed up any good relationship Ive ever had due to insecurities that I had from my first serious relationship when I was 19.
At this stage I really think I need some sort of intimacy/relationship type counselling to help me let go of past hurts and learn to let someone in again.

I just wanted to know If anyone knew of any good counselling services in the Dublin region that foccuses on relationships?Ive been to a psychologist before but found it uncomfortanble opening up to her so Id like someone who deals specifically in the area of relationships.

I would suggest that going to see a systemic/couple therapist could potentially be a good choice for you as these therapists tend to specialise in relationship related issues. One way to find one would be to consult the ICP (Irish Council for Psychotherapy) website:

http://www.psychotherapy-ireland.com/find/

enter your county and area and then select 'Systemic Family Therapy' from the 'member of' drop down menu (dont be put off by the word Family). Alternatively, you can call the ICP on 01 2722105 and ask them to recommend a relationship therapist in your area.

Hope this helps.

LegacyUser

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ItsMe123 wrote:

I thought i needed to see someone, when infact I just needed to be open. So if you have a friend, chat to her/him, if there was an ex in the past whom you cared for alot, ring him up, send a txt, send a mail. Perhaps you may find that second chances do work, or from having a good chat with someone close, may be the next best thing.
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oh ive tried but none of them are intrested in talking to me.All my ex's are lovely when Im going out with them but then turn into evil,rude,horrible creatures when we split up.I always try to be nice after a break up but no ex has ever replied to any txt or email I would have sent them. Irish guys (well the ones Ive dated)dont really do second chances so talking through something with an ex is just not an option.

Found someone throught the mrcs so cheers everyone '