Whats up with him??

LegacyUser

Reg'd user..just going unreg for this one.



I'll keep it short. Me and the Boy have been together for almost 4 years and its all going great. However, on Fri, i started feeling incredibly unwell. Exhausted, pains, temperature, sore breasts etc etc. He was home from playing golf and was heading out, as he usually does on a Fri night and for the first time EVER, i asked him(half-joking but half serious at the same time) if he fancied sitting in cause I was starting to freak out bout what cud be wrong with me(I was thinking the worst...pregnancy!) He went out and arrived in at 5am...blocked.



Asked him on Sat if he thought there was any chance I could be pregnant...he shrugged it off and said not to even think it. I was feeling rough all Saturday and still, he showed no affection(or patience as I can be a really bad patient!!) He spent all day Saturday chilling on his own watching DVD's.



Then on Sunday,we'd been invited out to my home house for lunch. He refused to go. I headed on out and when I came back, he was gone. Thought he might just have gone out to his folks so I left it. I sent him a text that night to see if he was out for the night and he didnt reply. So I called him and I could tell when he answered that A) He was in a pub and He was drunk. So I hung up. We havent spoken since as he didnt arive in until the early hours.



It's sooo not like him to act like this.Usually he's really good to me..esp when I'm sick. I'm going through a rough time with not feeling well and thinking the worst and all he seems to want to do is be on his own or go out on the piss. The way i see it, we're in this together and if it is what i think it is, then he could try and be a bit more supportive..no??



Sorry about the long post...just a bit miffed!!

finbarrk

He might be scared that you actually are pregnant and gone on the razz to get it off of his mind, not that its going to make things any better.

MagicMarker

here's a crazy idea, but please.. stay with me on this but.....

.... why don't you ask him about this? You've been with each other for 4 years but you can't ask him??

sillymoo2007

Did you make an appointment with your gp or did you take a test to put your mind at some ease if anything? Is there a possibility that he's in trouble of some kind? he's burying his head in the sand by going on the razz something is obviously the matter before you got sick this week

Firetrap

I think you should talk to him.

Do you know what his position is on your becoming pregnant? Would he like to be a dad? Or would that be a disaster for him?

axer

MagicMarker wrote:

here's a crazy idea, but please.. stay with me on this but.....

.... why don't you ask him about this? You've been with each other for 4 years but you can't ask him??

Your right - it is a crazy idea but it just might work!

D Bronc

finbarrk wrote:

He might be scared that you actually are pregnant and gone on the razz to get it off of his mind, not that its going to make things any better.

Same as above.

But he is bang out of order for acting the way he is, you defo have to talk to him. He is freaking out about something and i dont think its just the thought of you being pregnant because on the friday night you hadnt suggested it to him.

Theres no real advice to be given on this one im afraid we can only speculate, your gonna have to talk to him.

smartypants

hi,

do you moan alot? maybe hes fed up with you moaning all the time.

just curious, because i have some mates who have moved in with their gf's and their biggest gripe is the gf moaning about stupid irrelevant things or being over dramatic

LegacyUser

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smartypants wrote:

hi,

do you moan alot? maybe hes fed up with you moaning all the time.

just curious, because i have some mates who have moved in with their gf's and their biggest gripe is the gf moaning about stupid irrelevant things or being over dramatic

Good point, I've heard the same from buddies, and sometimes they just need to get out of the house and go on the piss. This can last for 3/4 days...'

Carrigart Exile

smartypants wrote:

hi,

do you moan alot? maybe hes fed up with you moaning all the time.

just curious, because i have some mates who have moved in with their gf's and their biggest gripe is the gf moaning about stupid irrelevant things or being over dramatic

I have to agree on this, have you been in 'poor me' overdrive recently, if so he might have assumed Friday was just another night of the same.

Joeyjoejoe43

Id have to agree with the lads above here too, you said yourself your not a great patient, so you probably moaning a bit. And ya see most blokes can take a problem and find the solution, sympathy and empathy however are not our strong points.... Thats more for your girlfriends... So maybe he needed to blow off a bit of steam by going on the piss (not unusual for a fella to do from time to time)

LegacyUser

Holy s**t..do you guys not sleep?!!!

Firstly, I would talk to him but right now, we're both being stubborn so we're not talking about anything never mind having deep'n'meaningfuls!! I will talk to him but I just wanted to get a few ideas about what might be going on in his head before I launch into the chat!

In relation to moaning alot, no..I generally dont moan alot(then again, if you asked him, he may give a different answer!) and him going out is never usually a problem. We've always been pretty good at encouraging each other to go uot with our respective friends and have a laugh so me asking him to stay in on Friday night was a big thing given that it would never happen usually.

Firetrap, while we've been together for 4 years, life is changing alot for both of us at the moment so a baby really wouldnt be a welcome surprise. However we have talked about what we would do if it happened and realistically, we both agreed that we couldnt justify not keeping it...we're happy(well, most of the time!), we have a house and we are both in good jobs so we would be keeping it.

Anyway, thanks for the advice though guys...i'll have a think about it and get talking to him this evening, LL

the_syco

watsupwithhim wrote:

Ri asked him(half-joking but half serious at the same time) if he fancied sitting in

watsupwithhim wrote:

Then on Sunday,we'd been invited out to my home house for lunch.

Possible thought going through his head "Oh Sh|t, she's preggers.

watsupwithhim wrote:

He refused to go.

Possible thought going through his head "Her old man will kill me"

He then freaks out, and tries to escape, by drinking.

Not everyone handles finding out they're a daddy well. So far, he's taking it pretty well. He's still hanging around, isn't he?

D Bronc

Talk about women moaning, look back up along this thread and its all the men that that are whinging.
Moany gits.:p

muppetkiller

Big Shane wrote:

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Good point, I've heard the same from buddies, and sometimes they just need to get out of the house and go on the piss. This can last for 3/4 days...'

What ? 3/4 days on the piss are you insane ...this couldn't be more far from normal. A guys does this when he's 20-30 and single not when he has an unwell girlfriend in the house..:eek: