When best to tell the family and friends?

warrenaldo · 30-08-2007 2:44pm #1

The partner is pregnant. we are not sure when is the best time to tell the family and friends. What is the usual course - wait until after the scan - to be sure to be sure or what?

noby · 30-08-2007 2:56pm

10 weeks is often mentioned - but it's really down to when ye feel ready.

dame · 30-08-2007 3:09pm

Congratulations! Whenever you feel ready as noby said. It's a very personal decision. Just make sure if you're telling people that both of you are comfortable telling that person at a particular time. We told close family very early on (as soon as doc had confirmed it) but I'd be wary/superstitious of telling too many people (ie friends, rest of the relations, everyone you know) until after the first trimester has safely passed.

nesf · 30-08-2007 3:18pm

We told our immediate families and close friends very early (as in, when we found out) mainly because either way we were going to need support.

D Bronc · 30-08-2007 8:23pm

Id say wait until shes passed the three month period and after that whenever you feel ready (or whenever she starts "showing"):p

Best of luck.:)

Deliverance · 30-08-2007 8:42pm

warrenaldo wrote:

The partner is pregnant. we are not sure when is the best time to tell the family and friends. What is the usual course - wait until after the scan - to be sure to be sure or what?

Congrats: I heard three months, for various reasons. Time to get used to it yourselves, baby is in or past first trimester etc.

Ickle Magoo · 30-08-2007 9:42pm

It's popular to wait until the first trimester is over before making a pregnancy public knowledge, mostly because that is usually the riskiest time & also some women will start to show shortly into the second trimester but really it is entirely up to yourselves. Congratulations, by the way!

RIRI · 31-08-2007 8:03am

Congratulations on your very exciting news!!

12 weeks (or the first trimester) is the popular view on this but at the end of the day it's really up to how you both feel about telling people.

Best of luck with the pregnance btw

Love2love · 31-08-2007 8:12am

We told our parents almost immediately. And then waited for 12weeks before revealing it to everyone else. Purely because of the shock of it.

Linford · 31-08-2007 10:32am

Congratulations. As the other posters said 12 weeks is the common waiting period but we told parents earlier than that, if anything bad was to happen we would tell them anyway.

One thing to bear in mind is that if you tell everyone very early on it can seem like a very long pregnancy, if only a handful of people know early on then every conversation you have for the first couple of months is not pregnancy related...

noby · 31-08-2007 12:20pm

I agree with Linford. Especially where other small children are involved. Unless you want to be asked a million times 'When's the baby coming?'

Oh, and congrats.

simona · 31-08-2007 9:20pm

it depends on you.i was very tiny and my friends only saw when i was 7months.not kidding.but once you tell your friends,it's soo much easier! you get the support and attention that you deserve

deisemum · 31-08-2007 9:21pm

Hubby and I told family and friends as soon as we knew. We were too excited to keep it to ourselves and work colleagues guessed as I'd suddenly gone off tea and coffee and started getting a bit confused

RIRI · 31-08-2007 11:41pm

deisemum wrote:

Hubby and I told family and friends as soon as we knew. We were too excited to keep it to ourselves and work colleagues guessed as I'd suddenly gone off tea and coffee and started getting a bit confused

OT I know but I had completely forgotten about the pregnancy confusion - made me smile

stinkybum · 01-09-2007 11:04pm

Oh its a tough one but its really personal choice !!!
I had to tell some people early (parents first of course) but then i was admitted to hospital with my diabetes so had to tell my boss and some pals so i wouldnt go mad with boredom in hospital. We had a scan at 6 weeks which reassured us. I had to tell my sibling at 8 weeks because we had a half planned big fat wedding that i had no energy or time to plan and we badly needed help

then after a fab 10wk scan we told the rest of the family and then told everyone at 12 weeks.

Soooo as you can see, you tell whoever whenever you feel like it

MrsA · 03-09-2007 3:55am

Another advocate of whoever you want whenever you feel like it. We told our family and friends after our 8 week scan and then just let it filter out to other friends of ours from then on.
Here in Oz people tend to tell everyone straight away. What will be will be seems to be the philosophy and they are so right.

MrsA.

P.S. congratulations!!

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