Why do I feel this way?

LegacyUser

Hey I have a question thats really troubling me. I am away on holidays in the states like alot of college kids. I have been in California for the summer. Last night I slept with this really cool girl who is an old friend. However despite having an awesome time I feel kind of bad. You see before I went away I was starting to go out with the girl of my dreams. We decided to call it quits for the summer because we were going to be in different places. We still keep in contact and are planning to meet up in September to see how we are getting on and to be honest I'm kind of counting down the days to get back to see her. Now I know your going to turn around and say "well if your so head over heals for this girk(the original one) why did you go off and shag this other one". Its a question I've been asking myself. I was pretty drunk plus my rational was you know screw it I'm on my holidays and I'm not actually going out with anyone. Also maybe I was a bit insecure too thinking that the girl back home could be having a good time with someone else. Anyhow all of these factors combined in my head not to mention that the american girl was really pretty, one thing led to another and we had one wild night. I guess I'm trying to figure out why I feel so bad about having a good time last night. I kinda feel like I cheated on the girl back home and maybe in some ways I did. Should I bother mentioning it to her? or is it a case of what goes on tour stays on tour? Why do I feel so bad?

SarahSassy

You agreed to call it quits for the summer! Do not feel guilty. Do not tell her. Dont over-analyse it. Just enjoy it for what it was and dont give it any more importance than it needs. You 'gf' here doesnt need to know any details as you may be only upsetting her unnecessarily.....

Rossibaby

if i was you i'd boast about it,make her jealous;-)emphasise how hot the bird was;-)and then when you get back with her she'll feel special because you settled for her over hot american girl

tritium

You'd called it quits with the girl back home, so you didn't actually do anything you should feel guilty about. Who knows what will happen for the two of you down the line, but you were free to do what you did. You're single at the moment, you met someone and got on, great, Don't beat yourself up on this one

Piste

OP it just shows you have strong feelings for the girl back home, if anythnig it's a good thing because it's made you realise how you feel about her so you'll know where you stand in September.

Marksie

Rossibaby wrote:

if i was you i'd boast about it,make her jealous;-)emphasise how hot the bird was;-)and then when you get back with her she'll feel special because you settled for her over hot american girl

Well if you never wanted to get back with the original girl, this is exactly what you should do.

Op: you had boith decided to call it quits, verbally. But you hadn't in your head. Thats the issue.

Enjoy it for what it was, a good time. Don't feel guilty.