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I dont know what to do!!!

  • 18-08-2007 3:33pm
    #1
    kalmanon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭


    I guess i should start by saying that theres this girl i work with who i really like.
    I asked her out a few months ago, but she said she was with someone, and I accepted what she said and left it. We do remain good friends, but I keep getting conflicting signals from her.

    One minute she will be fine, then she will be making jokes and borderline flirting and generally showing an interest, and then back to being friends again.

    This is confusing the hell out of me and I am beginning to feel like I am a bit worthless in her eyes, what do I do about this situation??


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  • #2
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,315 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Leave well alone.

    You don't say whether she is still with this person, but what you are seeing as 'borderline flirting' may well be just being friendly from her point of view.
    She knows you like her, if she was interested and available she would be making it very obvious.

    You're not worthless, you're a friend, but it doesn't sound like she wants more than friendship from you.

    Plenty others out there who will.


  • #3
    IANAL (hullaballoo's test a/c)
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭IANAL (hullaballoo's test a/c)


    kalmanon wrote:
    I guess i should start by saying that theres this girl i work with who i really like.
    I asked her out a few months ago, but she said she was with someone, and I accepted what she said and left it. We do remain good friends, but I keep getting conflicting signals from her.

    One minute she will be fine, then she will be making jokes and borderline flirting and generally showing an interest, and then back to being friends again.

    This is confusing the hell out of me and I am beginning to feel like I am a bit worthless in her eyes, what do I do about this situation??
    Either (a) she's just flirting with you because she knows you're interested and likes the attention, (b) she's not flirting with you, you just think she is because you want her to be, or (c) she does like you, but since she's with someone else, there's nothing you can do except hope that if they break up, you might still be in with a shot.


  • #4
    Rosso
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86 ✭✭Rosso


    IANAL wrote:
    Either (a) she's just flirting with you because she knows you're interested and likes the attention, (b) she's not flirting with you, you just think she is because you want her to be, or (c) she does like you, but since she's with someone else, there's nothing you can do except hope that if they break up, you might still be in with a shot.

    She's flirting with you because she knows you are/were interested. Women are like that. It massages their ego. It doesnt matter if she's with someone, or is married 20 years. Women get away with that. If its a guy then he's an asshole.


  • #5
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


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  • #6
    Foxykitty
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭Foxykitty


    Rosso wrote:
    She's flirting with you because she knows you are/were interested. Women are like that. It massages their ego. It doesnt matter if she's with someone, or is married 20 years. Women get away with that. If its a guy then he's an asshole.

    that is not fair to say that all women are like that your painting us all with the same brush mate.

    back to the problem at hand, i think your better off leaving it alone if she wants it to happen, it will happen! maybe you should start to see someone else and see how your dream girl reacts to it??


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  • #7
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Lots of people flirt with their friends. It doesn't mean we're secretly planning to jump their bones. If it makes you uncomfortable, say so or at least don't flirt back.


  • #8
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    You made 2 points which stand out (a) she is 'borderline flirting' and (b) she is beginning to make you feel worthless.

    With regard the borderline flirting, maybe you are reading too much into it. Maybe she relaxes with you and is friendly, which you pick up as flirting and then you start to react and then she realises and backs off..... You say she is 'making jokes and borderline flirting and generally showing an interest' - friends do this too!!!!! It does not mean she is coming on to you.

    She cant make you feel worthless, only you can allow that to happen to yourself and from the contents of your post you come across as insecure.

    My guess is that you want to see something that isnt there.... She has told you see doesnt want to be involved, you do want to be involved with her and you are reading too much into even the smallest signs from her.


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