texting

thebaz

when i txt my mates , i usually get a promptish reply , to whatver -- what am i to read into a no reply to a "how are you " , to a female (sort of freind ) -- it pisses me of and after a couple of hours waiting , i want to delete her number -- 24 hours later i'm curious to what have iv'e done -- is she actually ok ?? ... has she met someone else ... the joys of being single -- delete the number is my preffered option

cowzerp

Grow up-she might have no credit, lost her phone or realised your an immature child?

Ruu_Old

Don't get too annoyed over it, some people are just slow to respond and not as quick as your mates would be. Could be lost phone, credit or busy with something else or maybe they would prefer if you called.

challengemaster

yup.. don't be too over eager/impatient. also you might have noticed that everyone seems to have these little 'rules' like 'dont make contact until X day' or whatever shíte else. other things can arise, no credit.. busy.. shít happens. relax for a bit..

Firetrap

Different people behave differently towards texts. Some people reply straight away, some don't. The same with emails. A couple of hours of a delay isn't the end of the world.

Having said that...maybe she's ignoring your texts. That's a completely different ballgame though.

kensutz

Maybe she's busy or is in the middle of work or whatever. I used to text a lot but now I absolutely hate it so I ignore them unless it's necessary to reply.

Ishmael

No Credit, battery dead, lost phone, doesn't want to take any further, Gave you wrong number, is weighing up things or thinking about how to respond to it and has put it off of for the moment till she can think about it clearly.....etc.

It could be any of a number of Reasons
If you really want the answer, call her. Think of it this way, it'll probably take less than 3 minutes to find out the answer and you won't have to sit there thinking about it.

thebaz

cowzerp wrote:

Grow up-she might have no credit, lost her phone or realised your an immature child?

whats your problkem -- idiot

thebaz

thebaz wrote:

whats your problkem -- idiot

in fact another forum to avoid with helpfull comments like this -- just delete the thread Mod - won't be back either

fletch

I would never respond to a message saying "How are you?" I just despise idol chat in texting, maybe she is the same? Ask her something more probing maybe?

Mullah

>it pisses me of and after a couple of hours waiting , i want to delete her number<

I think that says it all. Its your problem, not theirs.

Won't be back?

M'eh.

babyhack

Ring her
It will take 2 minutes
You will more then likely get an answer (If there is no answer she is busy and will get back to you when she can)

Worry over

BH

thebaz

Mullah wrote:

>Won't be back?

M'eh.

never post in here , and get welcomed by being called -- "immature child" --
FFS your a real freindly crowd here , i'd defitly come here with some real personal problems -- maybe your the immature lot

cowzerp

Mullah wrote:

Won't be back?

M'eh.

CLASSIC

Talliesin

thebaz wrote:

what am i to read into a no reply to a "how are you "

"I'm fine. How are you?"

Actually, that's not it either, since if you had anything to talk about you would have phoned.

"I'm fine, and I know you're fine, so I won't bother to ask. Not in the mood for idle texting right now".

Do bear in mind that "not in the mood for idle texting right now" can be because she doesn't like idle texting. Some people don't find it a good medium for small talk (quite how anyone can is beyond me).

Mullah

Six responses, you chose one part of one reply to instantly characterise this forum?

Implusive, much? Do you not feel this may also be tied in with your decision to delete numbers for lack of immediate responses?

I suspect your responses tell you things about yourself you do not like. Or that you already know and chose not to acknowledge.

If you have seen many of the other threads and replies you will see the level of genuine - soemtimes painfully so - and helpful comments far outweigh any snide remarks in what is also a very well moderated forum.

Beruthiel

thebaz wrote:

whats your problkem -- idiot

Don't come in here and abuse a poster just because you don't like the truth.

cowzerp, don't fan the flames please.

cowzerp could have put it better, but his comment is bang on the money, unless you're 15 then texting something like that to someone and getting all hot under the collor when she doesn't answer is both childish and immature.
If you wish to know how she's doing, pick up the phone and call her, that's what grown ups do.

thebaz

Mullah wrote:

Six responses, you chose one part of one reply to instantly characterise this forum?

Implusive, much? Do you not feel this may also be tied in with your decision to delete numbers for lack of immediate responses?

I suspect your responses tell you things about yourself you do not like. Or that you already know and chose not to acknowledge.

If you have seen many of the other threads and replies you will see the level of genuine - soemtimes painfully so - and helpful comments far outweigh any snide remarks in what is also a very well moderated forum.

yeah -- any personal forum where i'm called an immature child i'll take seriously -- nothing like a little bit of online nastiness -- is cowszerp the local comedian

cowzerp

thebaz i apologise for been insensitive, in future i'll write something that you want to read instead of giving you advise-hope this makes you feel better, i would not want to ruin your day and make you have a hissyfit. sorry

thebaz

Beruthiel wrote:

Don't come in here and abuse a poster just because you don't like the truth.

cowzerp, don't fan the flames please.

cowzerp could have put it better, but his comment is bang on the money, unless you're 15 then texting something like that to someone and getting all hot under the collor when she doesn't answer is both childish and immature.
If you wish to know how she's doing, pick up the phone and call her, that's what grown ups do.

whats the difference between being called an "immature child" and an "idiot" -- there both abuse -- but cause i'm new here , you side with cowzerp -- very helpfull

cowzerp

thebaz wrote:

whats the difference between being called an "immature child" and an "idiot" -- there both abuse -- but cause i'm new here , you side with cowzerp -- very helpfull

The difference is your been immature and im not an idot-read your post and you sound like you just got off your mothers nipple, its plain to see that you think you should get what you want when you want, well pal life is not like that, so maybe you will learn to be more patient and less childish in future.

want2play

thebaz wrote:

no reply to a "how are you " , to a female (sort of freind ) -- it pisses me of and after a couple of hours waiting , i want to delete her number

As its a "sort of friend" maybe she dosen't feel she knows you well enough to start a converstion from such a silly text
- or -
Maybe she realises you are immature and dosen't want to know.
Do her a favour and delete her number.

thebaz

cowzerp wrote:

The difference is your been immature and im not an idot-read your post and you sound like you just got off your mothers nipple, its plain to see that you think you should get what you want when you want, well pal life is not like that, so maybe you will learn to be more patient and less childish in future.

sensed the apology was so sincere -- the Mod will back you up, so you play the big man -- and by the way don't call me "pal"


i came in here with a gripe , and have been insulted , by what i consider immature jibes at some one you don't know

Ickle Magoo

thebaz,

If you were to text me something like that you'd be waiting longer than a couple of hrs for my reply. Apart from much prefering to talk on the telephone or in person, I often have my mobile on silent because I have other things going on in my life that require my attention so I may not actually realise I have a text or missed a call for ages.

If you want to delete her number from your phone because she did not instantly messge you back then you should probably do that - but I agree that it is completely OTT to expect instant responses to fairly inane & pointless questions. Sorry if that wasn't the respose you were looking for.

thebaz

want2play wrote:

As its a "sort of friend" maybe she dosen't feel she knows you well enough to start a converstion from such a silly text
- or -
Maybe she realises you are immature and dosen't want to know.
Do her a favour and delete her number.

wow this place is unbelievable -- more jibes -- i should really mouth off and get a ban -- you lot thankfully don't know what i texted , how long i've known her , how close we were , but your quick eneogh to jump down my throught -- i am at least mature eneogh not too say what i really think about this place

cowzerp

thebaz wrote:

sensed the apology was so sincere -- the Mod will back you up, so you play the big man -- and by the way don't call me "pal"


i came in here with a gripe , and have been insulted , by what i consider immature jibes at some one you don't know

i can only judge you by how you come across-you come across spoiled and domineering, the mods have nothing special for me or anyone else, please tell me what you want to hear and i will make you happy-:eek:

thebaz

cowzerp wrote:

i can only judge you by how you come across-you come across spoiled and domineering, the mods have nothing special for me or anyone else, please tell me what you want to hear and i will make you happy-:eek:

how the hell do you know if I'm spoiled and domineering ? you know nothing about me , and it will stay thay way --

Agent J

With respect what age are you?

A lack of reply to a causal text should not be considered grounds to get upset or delete a persons number. It is an over reaction in my opinion.

Multiple suggestions have already been given as to making a call or the number of reaons why they may not have replied.

Have you considered sending another text with maybe more of a point to it?
As in "Will you be going out to XXX Pub this weekend?"

Personally i prefer the upfront direct approach to things and don't bother with texting. If you want to find out if there is a chance at something happening then ask them in person directly.

cowzerp

thebaz wrote:

how the hell do you know if I'm spoiled and domineering ? you know nothing about me , and it will stay thay way --

As i said i can only judge you by how you come across, im not the only 1 to pick up on it, it must be a conspiracy against you! get off your high horse and ring the girl instead of sending weak texts, be a MAN. or delete her number and save her all the misery of you questioning why she is 2 minutes late from work etc...

Victor

OK folks, take a time out, lets put the comments behind us and stick to the topic.

thebaz

Agent J wrote:

With respect what age are you?
.

I asked the mod early on to delete this thread , but the abuse has been allowed to continue , in all your unhelfull snide comments , you have actually helped me reach a decision -- don't be so quick to judge , when you havn't ALL the facts -- now - GOODBYE -- and i wish other new posters better help than i got here

Caliden

You're probably not worth the credit for such an open ended question.
Next time actually put some content in it and try not have a teenage hissy fit when they dont reply.

Ickle Magoo

thebaz wrote:

in all your unhelfull snide comments ...

thebaz wrote:

i wish other new posters better help than i got here

Sorry you feel that way. I thought the truth about how I viewed the situation from a female perspective, might help you understand why there was no response. In fairness if I asked for advice & everyone had the same response, blunt or no, I'd have to take note that they may have a point.

Folks can only comment on the posts you make, if you omit large chunks of the story then you can't blame others for not taking those facts into consideration.

Agent J

Wow.

I was just looking for an Age because different ages will react differently to things.

As in a non reply from a teenager is a little different to a generation not brought up with mobiles.

Caliden

thebaz wrote:

I asked the mod early on to delete this thread , but the abuse has been allowed to continue , in all your unhelfull snide comments , you have actually helped me reach a decision -- don't be so quick to judge , when you havn't ALL the facts -- now - GOODBYE -- and i wish other new posters better help than i got here

Can a mod move this to the humour forum cause I'm in stitches!!

How can you accumulate 2k posts and never be on the receiving end of on insult on boards??
People like you who have yet to be tarnished by the internet are truly a rare breed.

P.S. Nobody cares if you leave boards unless you're actually a subscriber or something. Afterall it is free.

The Freeman

'hi how are you' is hardly a conversation starter to be honest, try something a bit more jokey or flirtatoius, just try and come accross as bit of craic like;) after all girls just want to have fun!


could you have got upset of the fact so quickly that 'she didn't text back' because you didn't have control of the situation and are freaking out because of this, myself personally thats what i think it could be and could be worth some thought...


also how old are you mate?

thebaz

Caliden wrote:

Can a mod move this to the humour forum cause I'm in stitches!!

How can you accumulate 2k posts and never be on the receiving end of on insult on boards??
People like you who have yet to be tarnished by the internet are truly a rare breed.

P.S. Nobody cares if you leave boards unless you're actually a subscriber or something. Afterall it is free.

i just hate the group insulting , thats becoming rampant on many forums in boards , and highlighted here -- ive asked for this thread to be deleted , because i will get a ban if i reply to some of your abuse

cowzerp

who insulted you? just because your oversensitive and dont like to hear the truth does not mean anyone is insulting you! i think your on a wind up to be honest, and you done the only insult i've seen on this thread-and i am not happy at been called an idiot.

challengemaster

whew.. eh.. Time of the month?

seriously, OP - the way you put it was 'i texted her, she hasnt text me back. I'm not getting my way. I dont like this. *delete number*' - in all fairness.. what cowzerp and beruthiel said is so true. you're being really immature.

when we say what you dont want/like to hear, you accuse us of snide comments, etc, when not having all the facts. Here's a fact for you - all you told us in the original post was you texted her saying

how are you

and she didnt reply, so you're pissed off. thats all you said, and thats all we could judge by. if you dont like the conclusions we came to from that, its YOUR fault. also - if you ask for advice on something, dont expect everyone to agree with your opinion. you'll get the good and the bad.

either way, cowzerp & thebaz.. quit the shít stirring/flaming of eachother.. its going nowhere, take it to pm if you really want to imo. nor is this thread going anywhere..

Lockage?

thebaz

cowzerp wrote:

who insulted you? just because your oversensitive and dont like to hear the truth does not mean anyone is insulting you! i think your on a wind up to be honest, and you done the only insult i've seen on this thread-and i am not happy at been called an idiot.

you and your buddies -- and i'm not happy to be called an immature child --

so mods for the 4th time delete the thread

Agent J

Step outside and take a look at this objectively for a minute. Read what people are saying not what you think they are saying.

Also why post and then disreguard immediatly what anyone says?


Considering you take issue with the 1st line of my repy and then choose to ignore the rest i dont exactly have a lot of sympathy for your position. If it is indeed real. I would say you are probably trolling.

thebaz

challengemaster wrote:

Lockage?

please -- this is the 5th tim i've asked

Agent J

Have you hit the report button?