Help please

MagicMarker

Met a great gal almost 6 months ago. Trouble is she's Canadian, and i HATE Canadians!!! Hahaha, only kidding.

The real trouble is that she has to go home in October:(

Now, she wants me to go over sometime and stay for a year or so, this i would love to do. The only issue is i have some debts here i need to clear, they're quite substantial.

Initially, i wanted to go, but i didn't want to leave debts behind and i said i would like to pay them off before i go. But it's dawned on me that it will take about 2 years to clear these and neither of us can wait this long.

Now i'm thinking of forgetting about the debt situation and just going. But it's just stressing me out a little, because i'm going to need to send home money to pay my debts monthly. I'm afraid of various things, mainly not getting a good enough job to pay debts here while supporting myself there.

So yeah, does anyone have any advice? Has anyone ever moved away for a year while still having debts etc to pay at home? Over the last few days i've just felt like i need to leave here and start a fresh elsewhere. And this seems a good oppurtunity, i'll have her and i can meet new friends through her. Her parents have even offered a place to stay, although i'd rather not take up their offer, just too weird:)

Buy anyhoo, comments appreciated:)

Yakult

I dont think running away from your debts would be recomended and no one here is gonna encourgae that. Could you not borrow maybe from your parents and then when you come back pay them off?

Static M.e.

A friend of mine was in a some what similar situation. Met a Canadian Girl spent a few weeks together then texting, emails, phone calls once she left.

Since then he has visited her about 4 times, she him about 3 over the last 2.5 years. Last I heard she is moving to Ireland in September.

love > distance

Why not just start with a visit?

MagicMarker

I'm not running away from the debts, i'll still be paying them, i just won't be living in Ireland. That's my issue.

Basically, i'm afraid of not being able to manage when i get there, i'd need to be sending home quite a few hundred canadian $$ a month and i'm afraid i won't be able to get a good enough job to cope, min wage is lower there so i doubt i'd earn as much as i do here. But then again rent and cost of living in general is lower.

I suppose, being realistic about it, if i can support myself here and still pay debts, why shouldn't i be able to support myself there also? I'm just a little paranoid and also a little scared to be honest.

Ruu_Old

Why can't you wait? Start off with a visit to see if you like the place for a while as mentioned.

LegacyUser

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MagicMarker wrote:

Met a great gal almost 6 months ago. Trouble is she's Canadian, and i HATE Canadians!!! Hahaha, only kidding.

The real trouble is that she has to go home in October:(

Now, she wants me to go over sometime and stay for a year or so, this i would love to do. The only issue is i have some debts here i need to clear, they're quite substantial.

Initially, i wanted to go, but i didn't want to leave debts behind and i said i would like to pay them off before i go. But it's dawned on me that it will take about 2 years to clear these and neither of us can wait this long.

Now i'm thinking of forgetting about the debt situation and just going. But it's just stressing me out a little, because i'm going to need to send home money to pay my debts monthly. I'm afraid of various things, mainly not getting a good enough job to pay debts here while supporting myself there.

So yeah, does anyone have any advice? Has anyone ever moved away for a year while still having debts etc to pay at home? Over the last few days i've just felt like i need to leave here and start a fresh elsewhere. And this seems a good oppurtunity, i'll have her and i can meet new friends through her. Her parents have even offered a place to stay, although i'd rather not take up their offer, just too weird:)

Buy anyhoo, comments appreciated:)

This fear you speak of, could it be indirectly caused by ur fear of how things will go with the girl? look at it this way, u get over there and things work out you'll find someway to make financial situation work if youve gotten lucky enough to meet the right person. if it doesn work out with her, youve broadened your horizons and taken a chance you wld regret if u didnt, and can return to ireland even at that stage. my gut feeling says go. someone above mentioned parents or maybe someother guardian? independence is best but wouldn hurt to have some type of fall back support. best of luck'

Froot

I think the best thing to do is realise that you have to future and just draw the dole.