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I'm drained and dont know what to do.....please help!!

  • 05-08-2007 3:56pm
    #1
    Shauna_K
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭


    I know everyone must get bored of reading broken heart threads but....i broke up with my boyf of 2.5 yrs in Jan and i was inconsolable, it had been on and off etc but nonetheless my heart was broken and he met someone else.

    We had been in intermittant contact since then but then all of a sudden over the last few weeks we were in loads of contact, the reasons for which are not important, now he is gone again to get on with his life but ever since we were in loads of contact my whole life has been in disarray and now that he's gone again i feel like the bottom has fallen out of my world again and i physically have a pain in my heart, im anxious all the time and the only reason i can sleep is because i have some sleeping tablets.

    I feel like im the only person in the world who has ever felt this bad about a break up, but rationally i know this cant be true. I have tried the whole keeping myself busy and existing for 6 mths. I was just starting to enjoy life again when he waltzed back in and left again..........dont tell me all i can do is exist again? I dont think i can bear it any longer and i am scared that i will never get over this.

    Please help.........


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You will get over it, it just will take a lot more time clearly. Be patient and try not to always think, "When will I get over this!?", just try as hard as it is to get on with things and try to stop thinking about him. When you think about him, distract yourself with another thought. Maybe start a project of learning something new with a goal to something. So you have something to get up every day for. Like learning a new language with the goal of travelling to a certain country, when you think of him, try to switch to your dream of whatever that goal is.

    Don't call him or make contact, I know this is so hard but it will be harder when you feel disappointed afterwards, because not trying to be harsh, if he is with someone else, he is not going to want to be with you.


  • #3
    jd83
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,445 ✭✭✭jd83


    You will get over it its just very hard. You should however cut of all contact and move on. Go out and meet new people, try enjoy yourself, do things that make you happy. There is someone else out there that will make you forget about him. I was with a girlfriend for three years and basically i got dumped and she went off with another guy and i was feeling exactly the same as you. Couldnt sleep, was always thinking about her, was depressed, felt like i couldnt go on on. But i started going out doing things with friends, got back with friends that i had lost contact with over the years, im not say it was easy but slowly but surely i started to feel better and think less about the past. Then i met someone else things just got better and better. All im saying is that there is light at the end of the tunnel just hold in there and you will be fine. Hope this helps or makes you feel better.


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