Being A Jealous Person

Yakult

straight out, im a jealous guy!

More so when it comes to my girlfriend!

i dont think I need to go into details but shes getting quiet annoyed about it and Im driving her away because of it. And I dont want that to happen!

So I need tips to either completely make it go away or just advice on how to curb it!

Jesus Wept

Just realise that if you don't, you will lose her, and rightly so.

She is with you for a reason, so what if other men look at her admiringly, it's a compliment, as long as they don't touch/say inappropriate things/she doesn't act out of order, then you should be chilled.

You are with her for a reason, you likely find her attractive, intelligent and good company.

If you had a nice car you wouldn't mind people admiring it or complimenting it, don't get bent out of shape if a guy/s notice your woman, it's just a compliment, she is desirable, and she is with you.

Electric

I feel for ya! When I first started going out with my bf there was this friend of ours that he had kissed at a Christmas party before we started going out. It drove me nuts I was soooo jealous.

It started becoming an issue but the more comfortable I became with us the more I relaxed and the less jealous I became. I don't worry about that friend anymore I know there's nothing to it.

Maybe you need to relax and trust her!

Zillah

If she's spending time with another guy, try to be a little smug about it. Say in your head "Haha, she's coming home with me buddy."


Then kick him in the shin and run off

B00MSTICK

Zillah wrote:

If she's spending time with another guy, try to be a little smug about it. Say in your head "Haha, she's coming home with me buddy."

Ha I'm definitely doing that the next time!

Yakult

The-Rigger wrote:

Just realise that if you don't, you will lose her, and rightly so.

She is with you for a reason, so what if other men look at her admiringly, it's a compliment, as long as they don't touch/say inappropriate things/she doesn't act out of order, then you should be chilled.

You are with her for a reason, you likely find her attractive, intelligent and good company.

If you had a nice car you wouldn't mind people admiring it or complimenting it, don't get bent out of shape if a guy/s notice your woman, it's just a compliment, she is desirable, and she is with you.

Yeah! she is a stunner so thats just adding to it, but I guess with time it should just bubble away hopefuly! Also the fact its the summer and schools out I find myself very bored and I go crazy when bored! lol! so once again when school starts shouldnt be too bad!

so thanks for the advice guys! And hopefully it will go away soon!

leeroybrown

If you use (the unfortunately dis-functional) search system you should be able to find lots of threads where people have pointed out how their relationships came to an end due to their jealousy.

Patricide

R_H_C_P wrote:

Yeah! she is a stunner so thats just adding to it, but I guess with time it should just bubble away hopefuly! Also the fact its the summer and schools out I find myself very bored and I go crazy when bored! lol! so once again when school starts shouldnt be too bad!

so thanks for the advice guys! And hopefully it will go away soon!

Dave its simple, whenever you feel jelous think about my guitar and how jelous you are that i have it and you dont, that way itl take your mind of her!

Yakult

s.o.b!! lol!

nice1franko

be cool

Esel

In a word: insecurity.

TEH REAL CDP

Relationships are built on trust. If you can't trust your gf, then your relationship is doomed - straight out. You're obviously insecure about yourself as esel eluded to.

Jealousy is one of the most unattractive traits in a guy (granted some girls find it a turn on...in small amounts, but the novelty wears off). So what if guys are coming up to your gf? She's perfectly entitled to flirt and/or talk to anyone she wants to.

Your expression of disdain for this will only drive her away even further. Jealousy is percieved as a weakness.

Look, don't be a clingy whimp. You should be confident enough in your own skin to know that your gf is attracted to you and thats why she's still with you. Leave her off. If you can't, you need to talk to someone as it sounds like you have self esteem issues.

On an aside, this may portray me as a prick...but I get such a kick out of flirting with girls who have a jealous bf, because 9/10 times his reaction is priceless. Bear that in mind, and you might not attract so much attention from other guys.

You're gonna lose your gf the way you're going dude, so start building up your confidence and ditch the jealousy...or some other guy like me will snap her straight outa your hands.

Confidence = attraction.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Being jealous isn't just about trust. It's a natural feeling that we inherited & you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Usually guys get the most jealous when they have really good looking girlfriend.

I wouldn't tolerate a girlfriend who openly flirted with other guys in front of me. She should know it's not a nice feeling for me & avoid it. She can flirt all she wants when I'm not there.

Now of course people go over the top. I'd never for example get annoyed if a girlfriend was simply talking to another guy, even though I'd still be getting slight jealousy pangs. That's actually a situation where some guys will react aggressively but the better man will realise it's just his instinct on overdrive & laugh at himself.

From what I've known of women most of them love the idea of their boyfriends getting jealous & when they pick up on it they may decide to fan the flames a little. So my advice is just act as if you don't feel jealous at all. Simply avoid looking at your girlfriend when you get the feeling she's flirting with someone else & make pleasant conversation with they guy (you think) she's flirting with. You'll find she'll start paying you more attention.

Marksie

Insecurity issues OP.
Work out why you are feeling jealous and take steps to remedy the situation.

If you feel the jealousy risin, ask yourself wht is it that is maiing you feel that way, is there a basis for it, or is it due to things occurring in your own head.