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GF's parents splitting up

  • 02-08-2007 12:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Ok, really briefly, being going out with my GF for the last 2 years, her parenst have never seemed happy in this time and Ive often had her on the fone to me in tears because her parents have been fighting. I have never been through anything like this and while she knows I'll always be there for her and she can come to me at any time about anything, however she has now said that it looks like her parents are splitting up and her Dad is going to be moving out this week... Obviously she is upset. She has two younger siblings, one is only 15, she is quite worried about how it will all affect them.

    The thing is, while I want to be there for her and listen and help as much as possible, I don't know what this is like, Ive never been there... I know I should just be there and listen, but I just don't think that will feel like I'm doing enough for her. She lives in Kildare, I'm in Dublin, so I can't even she her as much as might be required over the next few weeks in particular. She doesn't want to tell any of her friends, as she has only recently moved to Kildare so doesn't have many close friends anyway.

    So, I don't really know why Im posting here really, I guess just looking for advice... Anybody who has gone through this? What can I possibly do, other than just listen? I know this may seem like an impossible question to answer.... But I guess I'm just worried, and don't want to seem useless to her...


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  • #2
    seamus
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    There's nothing more you can do, and there's nothing more you should do.

    Be her sounding board and the person she gets a hug from when she needs them, but don't try to be the advisor or the mediator. It's not your place.

    Kildare and Dublin aren't far away. What's the travel/accomodation situation like? Can she stay in yours for a few days if she needs to, or can she easily run to yours?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Yea, I have told her to come up to my house when ever she wants. She knows she more than welcome to stay in mine anmytime, especially now (I still live at home so my house can be a bit mad at times, but I'm here and she's more than welcome anytime)

    She drives, but its her Dad's car that she is insured on so...... I don't really know what will happen if he moves out? :-( It's all up in the air at the mo, nobody really knows whats going on, in a way, she doesn't want to know, she doesn't want to talk/ask her parents so its all just kinda wait and see........

    Ugh... :-(


  • #4
    Crea
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    As a child of a broken home :rolleyes: just keep doing what you're doing. Listen, give lots of hugs, let her cry about it.
    One thing though, when my folks split I spent all my time with my bf and the younger sibs were left at home with a crying mother who sometimes didn't even cook meals. I didn't know at the time because I was out of the house but I feel so guilty now 16 years on.
    She shouldn't take on the responsibility of parenting but look out for her younger sibs anyway. You could even go to her and help her to take them out for the day etc.


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