im so annoyed right now

bytesize

ok this is a long story but ill try my best to get as much info in as i can, im so annoyed i might miss a few things


i am getting married abroad as my wife is foreign. i had an irish wedding but will also have a wedding in her native country. when i told my family this they wanted to go also to support me etc.

after months of idleness in that nothing was planned we finally sat down and tried to come up with a plan/schedule of what they wanted to do around the wedding and areas they wanted to visit.

that was months ago and its still not sorted and they are leaving in like 10 days. thats not the issue right now though, even though this is driving me nuts as it is constantly being changed and i just cant get a proper schedule off them so i can organise hotels and travel etc.

the main problem is that at the first main meeting my wife had told one of them of part of our honeymoon, we are traveling for 33 days but the main part is in a tropical area and is the highlight of the honeymoon. now the person she told has come out saying they have discovered this area, seemingly on their own, and is planning on going a week ahead of us on the travel up to our wedding.

now maybe i am taking it to heavily but i am so annoyed at this and i know my wife will me so upset about it to as she was the one who said we were going there and it is supposed to be a special place for us as it is where we are spending the highlight of our honeymoon.

how would you feel if someone did this to you, am i taking it too much to heart or is it a little over the top on the other parties side?

Collie D

bytesize wrote:

ok this is a long story but ill try my best to get as much info in as i can, im so annoyed i might miss a few things


i am getting married abroad as my wife is foreign. i had an irish wedding but will also have a wedding in her native country. when i told my family this they wanted to go also to support me etc.

after months of idleness in that nothing was planned we finally sat down and tried to come up with a plan/schedule of what they wanted to do around the wedding and areas they wanted to visit.

that was months ago and its still not sorted and they are leaving in like 10 days. thats not the issue right now though, even though this is driving me nuts as it is constantly being changed and i just cant get a proper schedule off them so i can organise hotels and travel etc.

the main problem is that at the first main meeting my wife had told one of them of part of our honeymoon, we are traveling for 33 days but the main part is in a tropical area and is the highlight of the honeymoon. now the person she told has come out saying they have discovered this area, seemingly on their own, and is planning on going a week ahead of us on the travel up to our wedding.

now maybe i am taking it to heavily but i am so annoyed at this and i know my wife will me so upset about it to as she was the one who said we were going there and it is supposed to be a special place for us as it is where we are spending the highlight of our honeymoon.

how would you feel if someone did this to you, am i taking it too much to heart or is it a little over the top on the other parties side?

I can undersatand you'd want to spend the honeymooon on your own with the wife but did you not say she was going the week before you go? If so I don't see the problem

patrickolee

You're over reacting. Chill.

Nailz

Well are they going to be there while your there?

faceman

think you are overreacting dude.

Gran Hermano

bytesize wrote:

... it is supposed to be a special place for us as it is where we are spending the highlight of our honeymoon.

:rolleyes:
100% over the top. "special place for us", have you discovered a new
planet in a far off galaxy that no-one has ever visited before?

If your rellies pop down for a quick hols there before the wedding
who are you to start chucking your toys out of the pram, you don't
own the place. Plus it sounds like they are going the week before the
wedding not the week you'll be there.

Keep the whingeing and whining up and your soon-to-be wife might realise they
should start working on an exit strategy whilst they still can.

tampopo

Unlike the other posters, I sympathise with the OP. I had a foreign wedding, something similar happened. A Pisser, so it was.

magpie

Elope

homeOwner

I honestly dont see the problem. I think you might be just a bit stressed over the whole thing and the smallest irritation is becoming a big deal.

Its your wedding. 1 day, thats all it is. You get 1 day to be a drama queen (king ) and thats it. You dont control your relatives lives and you cant tell them what to do or where to go. Next time you discover a utopian retreat keep it to yourselves.

togster

Moved to PI

pvt. joker

we eloped in Bermuda to avoid all of this nonsense

aequinoctium

you cant stop anyone from travelling anywhere


if someone is too travel to be at your wedding, then they may as well make it a holiday for themselves too

cooperguy

I dont see why you need your families travel plans so you can book them hotels and flights. They can do it for themselves. It shouldnt be your problem especially if they keep changing their plans.

Though you are over reacting with the honeymoon place. They wont be there the same time as you. Is nobody else supposed to visit that place now because you decided it was special to you?

\m/_(>_<)_\m/

bytesize wrote:

how would you feel if someone did this to you, am i taking it too much to heart or is it a little over the top on the other parties side?

i think you taking this a little too much too heart...
no matter where you go on honeymoon you will meet people, unless you book a desert island....
so if they did find it one their own, that's great. let them holiday in their own as well.
just like all the other people you will meet on you honey moon

r3nu4l

I can sympathise to some extent with the OP although I do think there is a slight over-reaction. It didn't happen to me thankfully.

I do know someone who regularly does this kind of thing. A friend will mention that they are going to destination X in August...a week later this person announces that they are going to destination X in June. Then they return and proceed to act like the authoritative source of knowledge about the area. Don't go here, you must see that, we found that...you'll like this, hate that...

She does it to a lot of people and it annoys a lot of people because of the superior attitude that comes with it...the "been there, done that, so passé" attitude.

If that's what you're getting I sympathise but the important thing is that you will be there with your wife and you can do your own thing. It's you two that count not some relative who tried to upstage you

hot fuss

I'm sorry, but you have got to look at the bigger picture and realise how insignificant this is..

Who cares if they're going before you are? You're hardly the first people to discover the place.

Enjoy the run up to what's going to be a spectacular and special time in both your lives and don't let something as small and insignificant as this ruin it.

Things could be an awful lot worse...

jor el

bytesize wrote:

i am getting married abroad as my wife is foreign. i had an irish wedding but will also have a wedding in her native country. when i told my family this they wanted to go also to support me etc.

after months of idleness in that nothing was planned we finally sat down and tried to come up with a plan/schedule of what they wanted to do around the wedding and areas they wanted to visit.

that was months ago and its still not sorted and they are leaving in like 10 days. thats not the issue right now though, even though this is driving me nuts as it is constantly being changed and i just cant get a proper schedule off them so i can organise hotels and travel etc.

I'd not be trying to organise hotels and travel for everyone else if I were you. Tell them when and where and let them do the booking themselves. If they want to be there they will, otherwise they won't, simple as that. You'll probably have enough on your plate without all that hassle.

the main problem is that at the first main meeting my wife had told one of them of part of our honeymoon, we are traveling for 33 days but the main part is in a tropical area and is the highlight of the honeymoon. now the person she told has come out saying they have discovered this area, seemingly on their own, and is planning on going a week ahead of us on the travel up to our wedding.

But will they still be there when you are there? More importantly, do you feel that you might be expected to spend a lot of time with them? Obviously thet would be a bummer on your honeymoon, but if they're not there when you arrive, or if you tell them you're going to do your own thing then I don't see a problem.

beans

Hit them up with "Did you see the pirate cove? You didnt? Aw that was awesome!"

"Yeah, then they all did this dance, and started handing out money, and there were little monkey butlers serving drinks... you didn't see that?"

Or just move it to PI, whatever...

Maple

Taking it way too much to heart. So what if someone you know is going there too, they're not going to have the same experience as you.

And stop trying to organise everyone else, let them do it for themselves, lazy gits.

dodgyme

I think you are not worng to be chessed off. Theyd nick anything in this country even an idea.