She's already involved but.....

qwert2

What do you do when you get attraction/flirting signs (touching, self-touching, leg/feet poniting in your direction, playing with hair, laughing at your jokes etc) from a girl you like but who's already in a long term relationship? I don't want to break up someone's relationship, but what am I to make of this?
Perhaps girls you could interpret this. Thanks

pwd

You dismiss her as a tease/cheat/idiot.
Do you have any reason to think she wants to break up her current relationship?

qwert2

pwd wrote:

You dismiss her as a tease/cheat/idiot.
Do you have any reason to think she wants to break up her current relationship?

Well these signs are very subtle and natural almost not full on. I don't know that much about her relationship. The feeling I get is that she does try to hold back but I 'm good at reading body language. Perhaps she is jsut attracted to me, and I should take it as that and move on

Marksie

qwert2 wrote:

Perhaps she is jsut attracted to me, and I should take it as that and move on

Yes, for now accept it for what it is. You do not need to force an issue that may not be there.

That may simply make things uncomfortable for all concerned.

Until or if things become really obvious, then leave as is. Juts be sure of what you want to do if it does become obvious as you are aware of the possibility

qwert2

Marksie wrote:

Yes, for now accept it for what it is. You do not need to force an issue that may not be there.

That may simply make things uncomfortable for all concerned.

Until or if things become really obvious, then leave as is. Juts be sure of what you want to do if it does become obvious as you are aware of the possibility

Thanks for the advice!

qwert2

I may be deluding myself also. Girls, is it normal to flirt with guys you like even if you're in a relationship?

event

she could be bored in work

harsh but true, maybe she is just a natural tease. but it makes no difference. She is in a relationship, so back away

davyjose

qwert2 wrote:

I may be deluding myself also. Girls, is it normal to flirt with guys you like even if you're in a relationship?

I felt the same as you in the past man, about a girl. Turns out she was mad about me. In the end we ended up being madly in love and together. It was a tough few months in between though. Worth it though. Just.
What I'm saying is, she may be into you, but it's not gonna be a case of her just diving into your arms. It'll take a lot of patience, support and love. And that's IF she even does like you.

craichoe

Sounds like too much hassle tbh, if your looking for a relationship, forget it, theres way too much baggage.

You'll have to deal with:
A. An ex gone psycho
B. a divide amongst her friends and his
C. Her guilt.

If you work with her, forget it too .. Its a BAD move.

However if your just looking for a quick bang and she initiates it and you don't know any of her friends why not ?

qwert2

Thanks all for the replies. I'll think I'll let this go and move on, after all she's in a relationship, thanks.

Wibbs

Good plan, if nothing else if you did get together with her you may well wonder if she tries that stuff with someone else when she gets bored with you.

Peyton Manning

qwert2 wrote:

What do you do when you get attraction/flirting signs (touching, self-touching, leg/feet poniting in your direction, playing with hair, laughing at your jokes etc) from a girl you like but who's already in a long term relationship?

Realise that she's human and she's allowed to move her own body? And maybe get a life too?

Attol

I think you're seeing a lot from such small actions. I personally wouldn't say laughing at someone's jokes means you want to jump into bed with them. Feet pointing in your direction? Er what?! Sorry but what on earth does that prove?

Venom

pwd wrote:

You dismiss her as a tease/cheat/idiot.
Do you have any reason to think she wants to break up her current relationship?

Bang on the money and i'll just add work relationship hassle to the mix as well.

K-9

qwert2 wrote:

What do you do when you get attraction/flirting signs (touching, self-touching, leg/feet poniting in your direction, playing with hair, laughing at your jokes etc) from a girl you like but who's already in a long term relationship? I don't want to break up someone's relationship, but what am I to make of this?
Perhaps girls you could interpret this. Thanks

Flirt back and enjoy it. Doesn't mean she wants to split up with her bf and bang you, thought it could mean she wants to bang you and not split up with the bf!

Either way leave it especially if its work related.

fifth

Don't take it any further! It never works out after a while! Take it from someone who's made this mistake numerous times!

Victor

Archimedes wrote:

And maybe get a life too?

Thats not a very fair comment.

metrovelvet

Sometimes women do this when they are attached because they feel safe doing it, they know or believe that nothing will ever come of it, it's just fun, seeing if they still have what it takes.

aequinoctium

let her make the first REAL move if it should happen

Chinafoot

metrovelvet wrote:

Sometimes women do this when they are attached because they feel safe doing it, they know or believe that nothing will ever come of it, it's just fun, seeing if they still have what it takes.

Or maybe, just maybe, she might not be flirting at all and she may naturally be an open, friendly, touchy-feely person.

SarahSassy

I would say she is just relaxed in herself cos she is in a long term relationship.... She is probably enjoying herself and not self-conscious as she is aware that you know she is in a relationship and as such not on the market... Dont read into it.

carnival_joe

Yeah, seems like she might just be a natural flirt. Feels secure, likes the little ego rub of a mutual flirt. she wouldn't invest 2 years to throw it away like this. Flirting can just be fun, especially for us girls who do it. Usually not even on purpose.