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should I or shouldnt I?

Anna23 · 2007-07-24 15:32:43

I posted about this problem already, though the thread was closed as it was in the wrong place, I was talking about this guy in work that I fancy who helped me out with the car and who I thought likes me, anyway can anyone tell me what are the signs that a guy might like you, obviously it might be different with every guy,…

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I posted about this problem already, though the thread was closed as it was in the wrong place, I was talking about this guy in work that I fancy who helped me out with the car and who I thought likes me, anyway can anyone tell me what are the signs that a guy might like you, obviously it might be different with every guy, but what are the most common signs?
I really want to go out with this guy and I just dont know what to do?

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#2 24-07-2007 3:35pm

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ask him out yourself. say something like "i must buy you a pint for helping me with my car that time".

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#3 24-07-2007 3:38pm

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yes I did actually say that and this was his answer "Thanks for the offer but I won’t be around tomorrow! (I’ll be busy changing wheels for ladies in distress - It’s what I do every weekend! .....................…. ..." so I dont know what to do but at the same time he has been giving me so many weird "messages" I dont know what to believe!

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#4 24-07-2007 3:38pm

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I reckon if you got the vibes that he liked you ya might be spot on. coz i think you know if they're just being Regular Friendly? ....i dunno really.
Do you get on well enoguh with anyone else in the job that gets on with him maybe if you wanted to get them to Suss him out first? bad idea?

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#5 24-07-2007 3:42pm

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Anna23 wrote:

yes I did actually say that and this was his answer "Thanks for the offer but I won’t be around tomorrow! (I’ll be busy changing wheels for ladies in distress - It’s what I do every weekend! Usually rob their bags while they are distracted though - count yourself lucky!) Anyway - don’t worry about it and have a good weekend! …. And I might know how to spell your name but no clue how to pronounce it! ..." so I dont know what to do but at the same time he has been giving me so many weird "messages" I dont know what to believe!

is there a company night out coming up that you could engineer yourself into an opportunity to talk to him one on one?

maybe even organise a few of you to go out to the pub for after work drinks?

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#6 24-07-2007 3:43pm

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Old thread in Work http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055107206
Old thread in PI http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055107204

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#7 24-07-2007 3:45pm

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Anna23 wrote:

yes I did actually say that and this was his answer "Thanks for the offer but I won’t be around tomorrow!

Eh, it looks like he's not interested. If a hot girl offered to buy me a pint I'd drop everything and go.

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#8 24-07-2007 3:47pm

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see we work in different depts he used to be on my floor but 1 month ago he moved to the ground floor so I dont get to see him that often, but when I do see him he looks at me and then really fast looks at the ground, when the weather is nice and we all sit outside he would sit in a way to see me. One day I went into a restaurant and I was sitting in a place where he couldnt see where I was sitting and he went to teh window to look. I dont know what to do anymore I cannot ask him out again, the funny thing is I thought he was so ugly and after he cut his hair off I could see his face and he was so cute!!!

Nipplenuts he didnt say no, I can send u a pic and u can let me know if I am "hot" enough!!!

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#9 24-07-2007 3:51pm

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Anna,

I think you need to move on, he has an oppurtunity to go for a drink - he was busy fair enough but he never ailed you or tried to re-arrange. Dont make it awkward to be around him and just leave it. If you keep being persistent and going to his floor etc, people are going to start coping on and youll bve mortified.

If he liked you he would have possible accepted your offer by now.

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#10 24-07-2007 3:53pm

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Anna, why not just email him and say 'Hey, I like you. Fancy a pint sometime?'.

I'll give you 5 to 1 it works. (assuming he's single)

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#11 24-07-2007 3:55pm

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that happened about 1 month ago, and I didnt insist and I am not going on his floor at all, I barely see him, there are days that go by and we dont even see each other, maybe when I go to pick the car up Id see him but thats it!

the only thing is that I am obsessing about him, and I dont want that, I dont know what to do to stop, and pls dotn suggest get a hobby, I am mad busy with work as it is!

sleepy I know he is single as when he was helping me with his mate I said to them I HOPE I am not keeping you away from anything and he said ah no no way jus the pub!

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#12 24-07-2007 3:59pm

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biko wrote:

Old thread in Work http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055107206
Old thread in PI http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055107204

having read over the old threads, you are reading WAY TOO MUCH into all this teenage "ooh is he looking at me" BS.

Forget about him and move on.

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#13 24-07-2007 4:05pm

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Maybe I am.....who knows!

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#14 24-07-2007 4:07pm

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Anna23 - I have a feeling that he's not interested.... I know it's hard when you fancy someone but you really have to draw a line under it and move on or else you'll drive yourself (and possibly your friends) crazy... You know, when you like someone it's possible to misread signs and convince yourself that "he sat there just to look at me" when he's probably just thinking - ah, the feckin sun is blinding me i better sit here"......

I know it's hard to move on when you think he might like you too - so give it one last shot. Send him an email - ask him out for a drink after work some evening. If he says no or makes an excuse then pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on happy in the knowledge that you tried....

Good luck.....

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#15 24-07-2007 4:08pm

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I'm sorry to be the mean one, and i will probably get a ban for this but please stop posting the same problem over and over again. How about you move on, deal with it, and get over it. Re-posting is not going to get you any new advice, either ask him straight out or drop it. Simple

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#16 24-07-2007 4:09pm

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Ok I will actually do that, I am sending him and email now! The reason why I started this thread again was because I was getting a bit obsessed with him ! Sorry Alan!

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#17 24-07-2007 4:23pm

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Anna23 wrote:

Ok I will actually do that, I am sending him and email now! The reason why I started this thread again was because I was getting a bit obsessed by him ! Sorry Alan!

good luck with the email. hope its a favourable response.

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#18 24-07-2007 4:25pm

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should know by tomorrow

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#19 24-07-2007 6:15pm

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send me a pic and i'll let you know if your hot enough

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#20 24-07-2007 10:51pm

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Let us know how it goes

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#21 25-07-2007 8:13am

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So I sent an email yday evening, and we are meeting up tomorrow after work, I cant believe I have asked him out!!!

So after all that cant beleive he said yes!!! Ok I wont be bothering anyone anymore! Sorry about the hassle.

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#22 25-07-2007 8:34am

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Anna23 wrote:

So I sent an email yday evening, and we are meeting up tomorrow after work, I cant believe I have asked him out!!!

So after all that cant beleive he said yes!!! Ok I wont be bothering anyone anymore! Sorry about the hassle.

Ah cool! I was gonna offer the advice that just because he said no the first time, didn't necessarily mean he wasn't interested. There's absolutely NO accounting for shyness, and you say he's shy, so ... yeah. Anyway, fair play.

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#23 25-07-2007 8:49am

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Anna23 wrote:

So I sent an email yday evening, and we are meeting up tomorrow after work, I cant believe I have asked him out!!!

So after all that cant beleive he said yes!!! Ok I wont be bothering anyone anymore! Sorry about the hassle.

nice one! well done for taking the chance!

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#24 25-07-2007 8:58am

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Anna23 wrote:

So I sent an email yday evening, and we are meeting up tomorrow after work, I cant believe I have asked him out!!!

So after all that cant beleive he said yes!!! Ok I wont be bothering anyone anymore! Sorry about the hassle.

Well done Anna - delighted for ya - have a great night......

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#25 25-07-2007 9:06am

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Well thanks guys and I am really sorry for bothering, I cant actually believe he said yes, actually his words were " well we can meet up in town if you like after work"

I probably scared the poor guy into going out for a drink!!!

Ah well we shall see tomorrow evening....

Thanks a mill

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#26 27-07-2007 8:59am

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Hi Anna,

How did it go? Hope you had a good night

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#27 27-07-2007 9:10am

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yeah it wasnt bad, we had a great time, but I think he is afraid of the whole business and pleasure thing! But slowly I am sure I can drag him out of his shell!!! he he he

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#28 27-07-2007 9:15am

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yeah good luck with it !!! And fair play to not listening to posters who were saying to leave it and that he wasn't interested . You were the only person who could decide if he was interested or not well done

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#29 27-07-2007 10:16am

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Ah well I tried to understand where people were coming from as well, but I am sure u know urself when u like someone u want to make sure u did everything and tried anything, but it took me almost 2 months, we were actually talking about it, and he thought it was so funny, AND couldnt believe that I asked him out!

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